Should I be angry?

I wish · Sep 17, 2009, 05:05 PM

How long have you been together for?
How did it work for all the other dates you've had with him?
Who normally pays?
Do you normally split?
How old are you?

We need more information.

However, I think it's safe to say that you should just confront him about it.

Imabadman · Sep 17, 2009, 05:09 PM

I agree more info is needed.

But at any age the guy has no class.

Torrid13 · Sep 17, 2009, 05:34 PM

Holy crap what a douchebag.

Okay, so "douchebag" might be a bit strong. MAYBE.

Ask him why he thought it was polite to pay for your friend's dinner but not yours.

Or maybe he's just totally ignorant & clueless. It's true: some people are just genuinely stupid.

jenniepepsi · Sep 17, 2009, 05:42 PM

I also want to know how long you have been dating.

If its been a good long while, I would bring it up to him, let him know how it made you feel. Remember HONESTY is BEST in any relationship.

Even if it has only been a short while being together, I would still bring it to him and let him knwo how it made you feel. It could have been a simple oversight. If you have only been dating a short while he may feel uncomfratable paying for you, especially if you were independent before you dated him. Women's lib hit hard

hehe. Some men take it too far without thinking of it.

Untill you let him know how it made you feel (in a NICE communicating way, not attacking him) he won't know what went wrong. You know/>

jessindawest1 · Sep 17, 2009, 05:54 PM

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Originally Posted by jenniepepsi

i also want to know how long you have been dating.

If its been a good long while, I would bring it up to him, let him know how it made you feel. Remember HONESTY is BEST in any relationship.

Even if it has only been a short while being together, I would still bring it to him and let him knwo how it made you feel. It could have been a simple oversight. If you have only been dating a short while he may feel uncomfratable paying for you, especially if you were independent before you dated him. Women's lib hit hard

hehe. Some men take it too far without thinking of it.

Untill you let him know how it made you feel (in a NICE communicating way, not attacking him) he won't know what went wrong. You know/>

Over a year now. He's done things like this in the past. Last night was just the straw to break the camel's back as they say. For instance I have a messy roommate. I told my roommate she needed to clear the sink of her dirty dishes so that way I could wash mines. She procrastinated and ignored the situation and then he goes and washes all her dishes and then leaves mine there for me to wash. I'm like ! If you felt like doing some dishes, mine should be the ones you wash not hers. I know it sounds selfish but that's my man... I'm just saying...

talaniman · Sep 17, 2009, 05:57 PM

How do you go get something to eat with out asking YOUR friend if she wanted something? That was tacky, at best. It wasn't your b/f's place to take care of your friend, and I think his point was, being polite.

Sorry, but this hold thing would have been avoided had you thought of YOUR friend, or even been considerate enough that its just bad manners to not even see if she had any money. Or maybe taking her home before you got something to eat.

There is enough blame to go around as you never should have put him, or your friend in a position like that.

Courtesy demands that you at least see what the deal is with everyone, to prevent such situations like this.

Rude of you, and what were you accomplishing by excluding her, that's some friend.

I wish · Sep 17, 2009, 05:57 PM

The more information you give us, the worse it sounds. He seems very inconsiderate of you.

After a year, you should have a much better communication system than that. Have you ever confronted him about your concerns? What does he say? How does he react?

jessindawest1 · Sep 17, 2009, 06:07 PM

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Originally Posted by talaniman

How do you go get something to eat with out asking YOUR friend if she wanted something? That was tacky, at best. It wasn't your b/f's place to take care of your friend, and I think his point was, being polite.

Sorry, but this hold thing would have been avoided had you thought of YOUR friend, or even been considerate enough that its just bad manners to not even see if she had any money. Or maybe taking her home before you got something to eat.

There is enough blame to go around as you never should have put him, or your friend in a position like that.

Courtesy demands that you at least see what the deal is with everyone, to prevent such situations like this.

Rude of you, and what were you accomplishing by excluding her, that's some friend.

Perhaps if she were a guest. She is a roommate and is quite capable of feeding herself. She is not my responsibility. That is my stance on that.

paxe · Sep 17, 2009, 06:11 PM

I think you are making too much a deal about that. Sometimes we (men) don't really think... Well a lot of times. Just talk to him, it will be alright. Don't get angry though.

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