ok, so last night after a get together i was feeling hungry. i asked my boyfriend if he could take me to get some food. he obliged. on the way to the car he asks MY friend would she like anything. no problem there except i did not see her give him any money. he gets in the car and mentions to me she wants something and i tell him "where is her money?" he says he's treating. in my head im thinking "ok, dinner is on him." we get to the restaurant and when our order comes up he pays for his and her meal but leaves me to pay for my own. i was more than alright footing my own bill but if you are going to volunteer to treat MY friend, i think its safe to assume he is going to treat me, his woman. i can not shake the anger i am feeling inside and am wondering am i right to feel this way. i have not mentioned it to him.
The more information you give us, the worse it sounds. He seems very inconsiderate of you.
After a year, you should have a much better communication system than that. Have you ever confronted him about your concerns? What does he say? How does he react?
I told him after the dish incident he doesn't need to be concerned with no other persons problem in the house but mine. I'm the only in this house that should matter to him. I also confronted her about that situation and let her know the next time my man takes up her slack I was going to put hands on her. She's been good about giving him 50 feet since then. He asked her last nite, she didn't ask him.
i'm sensing a serious lack of effective communication. while it wasn't ok for your roommate to leave a mess, i'm not reading anywhere about her asking him to clean it up. threatening her seems inappropriate. your issues should be with him, not with her. bottom line seems to be that if this is something that is bothering you then you need to go and talk to him about it. NOW.
i'm sensing a serious lack of effective communication. while it wasn't ok for your roommate to leave a mess, i'm not reading anywhere about her asking him to clean it up. threatening her seems inappropriate. your issues should be with him, not with her. bottom line seems to be that if this is something that is bothering you then you need to go and talk to him about it. NOW.
She did not ask him to wash her dishes but she sure didn't stop him either. I'm feeling I should break up with him...
well if that's what you feel you should to, then that's what you should do. but i am curious how you'll go about that. are you just going to tell him it's over? or are you going to communicate and explain why you're not happy? it's not fair to be angry with him if you're not communicating your feelings. my boyfriend has a bad habit of that. he's getting better. he's learning to communicate. but every now and then suddenly he's angry and i have no idea why. and it'll turn out there was something i was doing (like leaving the computer monitor on when i wasn't using it) that he didn't like. but i had no idea because he didn't say anything until he was so irritated he couldn't stand it. so then he's yelling at me to stop doing something and i'm going ok, why didn't you just say so???
ok, so last night after a get together i was feeling hungry.
Wonder how every one else feels
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Perhaps if she were a guest. She is a roommate and is quite capable of feeding herself. She is not my responsibility. That is my stance on that.
People who party together, are supposed to be friends, why even invite her along?
I stick with my original post, YOU could behave better. Its almost like your jealous of her, and trying to prove a point.
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I also confronted her about that situation and let her know the next time my man takes up her slack I was going to put hands on her.
What does your boyfriend say about his behavior? Why does he disobey you like that?? I would love to know the reason he gives and I think you are threatening the wrong person here, she is just there, but he is the one pissing you off. Why threaten her??
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I'm feeling I should break up with him...
Yeah, get one who obeys your commands, or another room mate.
Angry...no
Concerned...definitely. The way I see it, from what ive been reading from your posts, you've already let it happen too many times to be "angry". The first time you should have let him not. If you let it sit and more incidences accumulate, it looks bad on your part for not saying anything. I understand your jealousy though. If it were my own, I probably would have given him a little tap. But how is your relationship with your roommate? How do you feel about her? Perphaps there are supressed issues between you and her and your boyfriends tendency to be polite to her brings them out. I think he was being polite in all honesty when he asked if she wanted anything, not when he paid for hers and not yours though. Regarding the time when you were complaining about the dishes, guys dont like to hear girls fighting. They will watch it, but they DETEST hearing it, and so I think to in a sense resolve the conflict he decided to wash her dishes because it didnt seem like she would yield to your request anytime soon. Talk to him. Tell him to be your boyfriend and not hers. Guys may be oblivious like 90 % of the time, but they arent blind and deaf. No excuse for stupidity
I told him after the dish incident he doesn't need to be concerned with no other persons problem in the house but mine. I'm the only in this house that should matter to him. I also confronted her about that situation and let her know the next time my man takes up her slack I was going to put hands on her. She's been good about giving him 50 feet since then. He asked her last nite, she didn't ask him.
He's a disobedient little puppy and you should find someone that is better equipped to obey your every command and put you on the pedestal you seem to think you belong on.
No, you have no right to be angry.
Yes, you should break up with him, he deserves better.
He's a disobedient little puppy and you should find someone that is better equipped to obey your every command and put you on the pedestal you seem to think you belong on.
No, you have no right to be angry.
Yes, you should break up with him, he deserves better.
No he doesn't. He wishes he could find vajayjay this tight and good. After he gets over his broken windshield he will get back.
No he doesn't. He wishes he could find vajayjay this tight and good. After he gets over his broken windshield he will get back.
Sweetie, vaginas are everywhere.
Sex doesn't keep a man, tight or not. A man would rather be with a kind, sweet, considerate, respectful woman with a "loose" vagina than with a b!tch with a tight one.
Vandalizing his property? Is that what your talking about when your saying "broken windshield"? BOY YOU SURE DO LOVE HIM!
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