hey guys so recently i started working at a local ice cream shop and met this girl there who was cute and outgoing. I met her last friday when i worked and we really hit it off, and texted each other for all of friday night and saturday and then worked together again later on in the day. On saturday night we started talking about relationships and how she only wants to be in one with someone she feels really comfortable with (because her last b/f abused her). I asked her if she felt this way about me and she said yes so i asked her to a movie and she said yes.

at the time i thought she was 17, but it turns out that she is only 16. My question is do you guys think that the age gap here is to big and should i have entered this relationship after only knowing her for 48 hours???

P.S- since then we have seen a movie and basically been texting/calling each other all day everyday. I think i want to be with her but i have this feeling that its not going to work out because of age (along with what others may think) and because of work as well.

thanks for reading =)

Homegirl 50

I have two big problems with this. Number 1 she is 16. The other is she has gotten out of an abusive relationship with a guy that sounds like he was also older. Sounds like a bad pattern on her part. She is immature and has some growing and healing to do. Plus the fact that she has parents that don't seem to have a clue if they don't care that their daughter gets involved with another older guy. This is bad news on a lot of levels.
You are 19 going to college, she does not need to be your summer fling. Find someone your own age. She is too young and vulnerable for you.
Tell her "you are a nice girl, but I dont think this is a good idea" and then leave her alone.

burtyjim

16 here is legal age i say if you like her just try it as for them changing not everyone does for example my older brother was 19 and was dating a girl who was 16 now my brother is 24 and she is 21 there are engaged and have a kid on the way so i say just try it you just never know what might happen

ChihuahuaMomma

That's there in the UK, he is here in the US, in Michigan, that's illegal here. Your advice to "just go for it" isn't the best advice, sorry.

ScottGem

Two things bother me about this. No one has a "relationship" after 48 hours. No one can be made ready for a new relationship after a bad one after 48 hours. I'm actually more worried about this girl's intentions then yours. I wouldn't be surprised if she was pregnant and looking for a fall guy.

As for legal aspects of this the laws vary. In many places it would be illegal for you to have sex with her, in many places it wouldn't. But there is no place where it would be illegal for you to date her as long as sex wasn't involved.

The age gap between 16 and 19 is pretty wide but not insurmountable. You sound a little bit behind socially and she sounds way ahead.

So I'm going to say this. GO SLOW!!! What you want to do is date her and see if a relationship develops. Do NOT have sex with her, especially if she initiates it. That would be another indication she's trying to trap you. If a relationship is going to develop it will develop over time, not after one date and not after 48 hours.

One last thing is don't sneak around. You say you went on one date already, did you meet somewhere or pick her up at her home? If you met some where, then the next date pick her up at her home. Show her parents that you are being up front in seeing her.