I met someone in Sept. of last of last year while looking at new homes. She was the salesperson showing the home. Their was an instant attraction for both of us. During the tour we hit it of, I didn't want to be too forward and ask for number right away. Plus their was someone else along on the tour of the model homes she was showing. After the tour she sat down with me and the other potential buyer to get our info. It was a very busy weekend and the other sales person was out showing the models to someone else, so she rushed getting our info. I gave her my cell number and asked her to call me when she had more info on the home I was interested in. About 5 minutes later, she called me to tell me more about the home, I was right down the street getting ready to eat lunch so I asked her if she had eaten anything yet? She said no, So I asked her if she wanted to join me. We ate lunch and discussed our jobs, I am in the mortgage business, so we had a lot in common. She gave me her number after lunch. I didn't really think anything of it thinking maybe she just wanted to make the sale.

About 2 weeks later she called me back to follow up with me and I explained that I had just started a new job and would not buy anytime soon. We spoke for a few minutes and I asked her out for a drink. We hit it off again really well and there was instant chemistry. We really enjoyed each other's company, so we agree to keep in touch. About a week later we went out again, and ended up on the roof deck of one of the models and talked about life and laughed enjoyed the view from the roof top.

To make a long story short we have been seeing each other on a regular basis. Just as we started to date on a regular basis. Things began to fall apart for me with work. The mortgage bubble burst and I was not making any money. Things were going great she said she understood because she also is in sales. During these very difficult times she still wanted to hang out and continue seeing me.

She had recently separated from her husband of 3 yrs who she said she supported and tried to make things work out. 2 months after dating her she gave me a puppy. I was so amazed by this. I had never even been given a birthday card from my last girlfriend, so I was in 7th heaven. Usually I was the one doing things for someone I was dating and this was very special to me. Of course, I fell in love with her and told her 6 months into the relationship that I loved her. I think it scared her a little and my financial struggle reminded her of her marriage. She told me she didn't want a relationship, I totally understood and was patient and cautious not to get to involved. We could not stay apart for more than a day or two. She told me we should stop seeing each other twice and we both agreed, only to be right back again. She recently moved into one of the homes that she sold and told me she wants to see other people. She has admitted to moving to fast in past relationships, and that she needs time and space and can't commit to me.

Any advise??

Give her what she wants SPACE!!

This is the key toa great relationship. Enjoy your time apart and you will enjoy your time together even more!!

Absence makes the heart grow fonder!!

The greatst gift you can give her is the gift of missing you!!


Spending all your time together will push normally the female away. They are not like guys they need to feel the emotion they need to feel the need to ned you they need to feel like they need to contact you and while you arearoundall the time this need will not be there. A small void is always needed in a females life they need this its normal. Guys not so much we are different. This is why so many guys stuff uop they don't understand it so simple, make her miss you a little and she will love you forver.

But let her get you all the time and the relationship will not grow. This goes for your whole life even in a seriousrelationship of a few years youstill need small amounts of her missing you, femaless need to feel a small void it keeps there love alive!!

Give her plenty of space as she has to grieve a failed relationship, and find herself. It will take her time so don't just hover around waiting for her to choose you to be with. Find your own happiness, and be a friend. Any pressure from you before she is ready will drive her away.