This girl and I met online, talked for a while but we never saw either one of us going to where the other is (shes going to school in PA and lives in NJ and i live in Tx) She met someone else and that was it, I didnt talk to her at all, blocked her from my aim list, deleted her phone number, and took her off my facebook/myspace. I dated another girl that i used to date in high school but then the girl in PA told me she decided she wanted to be with me and we'll find a way.
After much deliberation i decided to call it quits with the girl i dated from high school and went with her, we met, and everything was awesome and has been awesome. Then school got more hectec, and the usual story. The plan is/was for me to finish my last year of college and move up to NJ with her, since theres not much in south texas for a computer scientist anyway. I got the same phone company for mobiletomobile purposes, and have been up there 3 times for week each time. Shes been down here twice for a week at a time. Ive met her parents and shes met mine and everything was great. Granted we'd argue about stupid sh*t from time to time but i started getting into the wuss phase cause she was always stressed about school and finding a job and never really was fliratious anymore or lovey-dovey, and etc. We talked everyday in the morning and at night and sometimes during the day. She started to get worried that i wouldnt be able to take it when she got her job because i wouldnt be able to talk to her, and argue etc.
Last week she said that she felt we needed a break and i got mad and said that wasnt the solution, we fought and didnt talk for a day, i begged her to talk to me and called and called and sent her flowers, and she called me back. This past saturday i was trying to figure out flight plans for her graduation so i would still be able to take care of my finals and school work. She wanted a break on sunday again after we argued about me staying up there longer then she wanted because she wanted time before she started her new career. We talked on our webcams like usual and laughed. Monday she was real short with me all day and messaged me at work saying "I think we need to take a break
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I called her and she was crying and i told her well after everything ive said if thats what she really wants then ill give it to her. She said she still loved me and didnt want to hurt me but this is what she needed right now. I think its stress building up and the pressures of graduation and starting a new job because she really hasnt had a career based job in her life. She put that she was single on her myspace and leftthe facebook blank.
I asked her to call me when i saw this and she did, we talked about all the stuff that i thought i was doing to put more stress on her life and i understand being dependent on her was adding more stress then she needed. We talked and she said she loved me and she didnt know about me going up to see her and needed a couple days to think about it. when we were getting off the phone she asked about what i had to do this week and told me what she had to do as well. We ended the conversation by her saying , "ok ill talk toyou later". and that was the last i heard of her.
Yesturday, she put single on her facebook, however, and this is the thing i cant get, Shes left all the pictures of us up and all the stuff about how she feels about me up. I would think if you didnt wanna be with someone you would take everything down of us together. Ive left everything that ive had the way it is because i dont want to play the game of oh well he did this, so im doing this now, type deal.
Ive been NC her since i talked to her on tuesday, because i think giving her what she wants. in terms of a break, would be a good thing it just sucks cause i miss her, and i hope by NC her she will miss me too and come back on her own accord, not just because i want her too.
Think im doing the right thing, and since she hasnt taken pictures or anything down, is there still that hope? of course everyone gives me the ole "its someone else in the picture" but shes told me that even if she did leave me she wouldnt be with anyone else because she wants to focus on her career (shes very career oriented and motivated) so i know theres no one else.
Its thursday now, been 2 days since i talked to her, and still nothing, so i dont know if shes just giving it the week since she asked what i had to do this week or what. The frist thing i wanted to do was keep calling and harrassing her cause i thought time would just pull us apart and not make her want to come back, but then again doing that would push her away further(learned this from a previous experience with another girl who said i never gave her the time she wanted)
so what should i do? keep on keepin on and wait for her to call me so i dont look desperate or should i just take everything off and just say screw it? OR is she just using this time for her to regather her thoughts and feelings and sort things out.
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