I've been single for 2 years. I wasn't the best boyfriend and had little self-awareness. Through my 2 years of being single, overall I enjoyed it. I still enjoy being single, however I miss what a relationship has to offer. I also haven't been sexually active. My day consist of sitting on a computer all day downloading music and movies along with self-improvement videos/audios. I'm 20 years old and don't work because I do have social anxiety that I am now listening to a program that I downloaded for. I plan to go back to college in Fall of this year. I don't socialize that much but I do still talk to friends that I had in high school online. My question is, am I capable of dating? The reason why I ask is because I do have social anxiety and in my last relationship I never went to family gatherings, I didn't treat her as good as I should of, and I spend too much time on the computer. In a way I really want to start dating again but I feel inept. I've learned so much by being single and I'm trying my best to improve. In my next relationship I want to be the BEST boyfriend I can possibly be. Should I first worry about improving myself (been trying to do for 2 years) or jump into a relationship? On top of all this I feel insecure about myself which lead to jealousy in the previous relationship. I have a lot of hair all over my body and I feel that will prevent a girl from wanting to be with me. I would just like to hear what you guys think I should do and how to go about this.

Wondergirl

Hmmm. You don't work and aren't back in school yet. You have time on your hands. Why not find a good counselor (many, especially those through county human services, operate on a sliding scale according to your financial means) and get your act together (the social anxiety and the self-esteem thing) so you can knock the socks off young ladies????

You write well and express yourself well and sound like a very nice young man and would be welcome at my kitchen table any day. Do you like freshly-baked brownies and cold milk?

randomguy19

Yes mam, sounds good lol.. Well after the breakup I got into counseling and was in it all through 2006&2007. But it was mostly to address other issues (abused as a kid). I think that the programs I have downloaded is enough as much as I stick with it. But still leaves me wanting a relationship but feelings that I can't

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you can wait and prepare yourself until college,when you'll meet a lot of girls

Wondergirl

Well, then. It's time to either go back to that counselor for the social anxiety or find a new set of ears to actively listen to you and to help you regain your sparkle.

You can have friendships and relationships but you have to stop obsessing on randomguy and to start to put your thoughts on the other.

What's good about you? What would I like about you?

randomguy19

I'm not judgemenatal, honest, faithful, artistic, open-minded in some ways, patient, I try to be positive.. I dunno lol

Wondergirl

Do you like to read? What are some of your favorite topics to talk about?

randomguy19

I like to read on anything that helps me improve. I want to learn about the basics of pretty much anything so I can have an idea on random topics. I want to be open to everything so I can know what people talk about. I love to explorer music and listen to new artist in different genres.

Wondergirl

Do you know how to dance? bowl? cook? Are you up on movies? Do you like to sing? Do you like to collect trivia information as in history or geography or popular culture?

What kind of girl would be ideal for you?

randomguy19

I'm trying to stay current with movies and music but I'm more focused on learning every classic rock artist first because that is my favorite genre. I would love to learn how to dance, bowl and cook. I can't sing lol. I have a vary large music/movie collection. I want to read on a lot of stuff but I need to focus on self-improvement first. My match would be someone who isn't judgemental, honest, faithful, positive, friendly, patient, forgiving. As you can tell I'm not THAT social so that would be good if I found someone who doesn't care about staying home on fridays ordering a pizza and watching a movie and maybe go out on weekends every now and then. I joined a gym to go along with my improvement process so I can get in shape and decrease stress. I start tommorw. I'm trying to slowly change and become more social. I walked my dog today around (something I wouldn't normally do).