is she interested in me?

styler1972 · Oct 8, 2006, 10:31 AM

Hello everyone..

...I met this girl. She is very beautiful, smart,ambitious very independent. She has two children who are half spanish and irish. I am spanish and I have 3 on my own. When we first met, she mentioned that she has two ex-husbands and that her current BF lives in Puerto Rico and she only sees him once or twice a month. From her tone, he doesn't seem to be permanent.This girl also came to me first and introduced herself to me.... Now I am not a jealous type at all and I understand dealing with the ex-husband,ex-BF, male friends etc.. Bu she also told me that day she would never again hook up with a spanish man because of her past experiences with them From there, I thought I wouldn't have a chance so I moved forward and not go for it.When I saw her again a week later, she told me that she met this spanish guy that she thinks is very cute and she has been talking to him.First of all, I never asked her about it and second, I thought she had a BF?? We talk some more then I find out that she knows the same circle of friends as I do and admitted to me that she dated a few friends I know.I smiled and nodded told her that I would mention it to them that I ran into her and we laughed about it.She came up to me a few days after and asked if I have mentioned her to my friends. I shrugged it off like I forgot about it and she looked embarrassed that she asked and walked away .. I run into her again a week later and as soon as I see her, she comes right out and says that she just met this spanish guy the other day with the same name as me, told me that they text each other, that he's cute and she is thinking about him..I said cool!!

Now, why is she telling me all this?? I just met her about 3 weeks ago.. Is she trying to tell me that she is definitly not interested in me? Cuz it's working and I never really showed any interest in her in the first place because I am very shy and stubborn........Or does she want me to go after her? Honestly, I wasn't sure when she told me that she had an relationship and that she was talking to some other guy she met at a bar.And I am usually not the type to go after anyone who has a BF,husband etc... I sound like a big WOOSE but I already went through all this in my youthful days up to my mid 20's before I had children..And the outcome always sucked so I learned from it and became more cautious..maybe too cautious now!! But I'm still interested in her and I think she is beautiful and everything she does with herself(besides her mentioning of meeting other guys while she has a BF) is everything I wanted in a girl..She's a good mom, great with kids, friendly..
But I think I used to pull tricks like this on girls I liked when I was in Jr. High but do adults do that as well?? Maybe she IF you have read this, I would love to know what all your thoughts on this..If this makes any sense!!

Thank you

beautifuldiva · Oct 9, 2006, 02:10 PM

It was odd to you but not to her cuz as I suspected she probably is telling you this hoping to envoke some kind of intrigue or interest from you!!!

styler1972 · Oct 9, 2006, 02:14 PM

yes, I see your point..

beautifuldiva · Oct 9, 2006, 02:16 PM

haha well this was yesterday right? have u talked to her yet?

styler1972 · Oct 9, 2006, 02:19 PM

yeah...lol!!! But no, I will not see her until wed or thurs... our children play in the same soccer league.. I see her only during practices and games.

beautifuldiva · Oct 9, 2006, 02:21 PM

ah ok cool! Awe thats sweet are yalls kids friends? Oh and it's prolly best that you dont see her too often... as nothing should be rushed and its easier to keep the kind of convo u want to have with her casual... untill you get some answers

styler1972 · Oct 9, 2006, 02:28 PM

kind of..Her youngest is 5, loves my oldest who is 12 and chases her around the field..
The children that play soccer are not on the same team. Her son is older then mine and they have never met. No your right but I need to grow some do something soon.. Soccer season is almost over!!

beautifuldiva · Oct 9, 2006, 02:50 PM

HAHA ok well u better get on the ball mister!!! jk jk

styler1972 · Oct 13, 2006, 11:13 AM

Well I saw her the other day and of course she just took my breath away.. She hasn't really been coming around alot lately and just showing up minutes before it's over to p/u her boy.I understand that she might be busy but I know if I was interested in someone, I would make an effort to go alot to see that person...But she did approach very close to where I was standing around talking to other parents.. She said hi to some mom 1st then looked over at me and said hello. I went over to her and started talking to her. She asked if anything was new with me. I was just lost in her eyes... I asked how her new Spaniard was doing and she qucikly responded with a I don't know haven't talked to him answer. Then we started chatting about other things and I asked about her BF in P.R. and she said she was just there last week with him..Then I don't know how we got to that subject but she started saying how he is kind of a nerd,never partied, wealthy, very conservative...He's so totally opposite from me. Then she said I gotta go, see you later.That was the end.. As much as I wanted to take that next step to ask her for her number, email or even a myspace name. I couldn't do it.. I just didn't feel any vibes from her like I have felt when other girls were interested in me. But it's probably for the better beacuase she does have a BF.. I'll get over it especially when this soccer thing is done and I don't have to see her anymore... It's just I haven't been interested in a woman like this in a very long time.. But I do feel a little intimidated because she is more successful then I am, drives a better car then I. I am not about money or power... ETC. etc.. I feel she deserves someone like that guy in P.R. who is smarter, wealthier, handsome, and baggageless. All I could give is my heart and soul and these days thats not enough to please anyone I notice... OH well!!!
You know, it's so easy to answer and relate to alot of other people's problems but when it comes to myself, I suck!!!

Gillion · Oct 13, 2006, 01:02 PM

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Originally Posted by styler1972

I do feel a little intimidated because she is more successful then I am, drives a better car then I. I am not about money or power... ETC. etc.. I feel she deserves someone like that guy in P.R. who is smarter, wealthier, handsome, and baggageless. All I could give is my heart and soul and these days thats not enough to please anyone I notice... OH well!!!
You know, it's so easy to answer and relate to alot of other people's problems but when it comes to myself, I suck!!!

You have a serious problem that goes way beyond this lady. All she did was to bring these issues of yours up to the surface.

Your self esteem is low

Forget this lady and focus on the [SIZE="4"]REAL PROBLEM THAT IS YOU[/SIZE]

You need to find that thing that makes you whole inside and no woman can ever do that for you.

If you will look at a woman and compare her apparent material success and her beauty and say that these are the reasons you are not worthy of her, then you have lost the race before you got out of the starting block.

My advice to you is to heal yourself.

styler1972 · Oct 13, 2006, 01:31 PM

Excuse me but I am actually fine THANK YOU. I live a very happy and healthy life and just because I decided put all my money into my children's future like baseball,soccer,football,music, pvt schools,dance, Skiiing,College tuition, instead of driving a BMW that doesn't mean I have a problem.. Yes, I drive a piece of crap mazda with rust coming out and it does not bother me one bit. I don't work overtime or two jobs because I like being around my children and I rather be with them then hiring babysitters. But it seems like the guys she talks to besides me all drive Mercedes and BMW's.. That's all...We are just different people and most girls who make alot of money don't usually look for men who make less money,less successful..



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