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ok well im 20 and my ex is 22. i lived with her for 2 years the past 4 months she keep telling me she didnt love me anymore and that she was depressed every time she was around me. this shook me up and made me think GOD i could lose this girl i bin bin for 2 years .and every day almost anything i did little or small she would have a fit and say at the end of the argument I DONT WANT U I DONT LOVE U Y WONT U GET THE HINT after that i always beged her 2 let me try and make her fall in love with me again ill try harder work at it . but everything went down hill she didnt let me cuddle her kiss her and sex was a defo nONO i tryed everything and yes every time i beged her bk to let me try and make her happy she sed FINE U CAN TRY BUT I DONT THINK IT WILL WORK. that same word every week. but what i dont understand is whill letting me try she did now and again sit next to me and put her feet up on me and kiss me goodbye when she left.. i mean how can u do that 2 some 1. so it came to my birthday my 20th birthday on the 21st of october me and 3 of my mates was in ym house drinking my ex was there 2 and all night she was sitting next to my mate and i mean 2 close she migth as well bin sitting on his face. so i started to get fired up then i thort no i wont i dont want this to get spoiled. so all night she was talking to ym friend and i stayed awake cuz i didnt trust this 1 bit and at 6:30am she sed she is going to get fags with my mate at the shop round the couner. i waited and she never came bk so all sorts rand threw my head like she is with him and that so me and my other friends wemnt round that guys house who she left with and we went in his house and nope he sed he would never do anything with my g/f so i was worried woundering were she is and didnt take till 9 pm that night i got hold of her she saying i had no opsition but to dissapire just get ya stuff and go home we are not together no more... she was at her friends house.. i asked her if they was any one eles but she sed no...i asked her y she was all ova my mate she sed sorry i was bang out of order doing that ...when we first got to gether i would of never thort she would of done this 2 me but she sed she dont normaly do things like that but her heads so messed up she doing things she would never normaly do. so i moved bk home and 5 days later i rang her up asking if she still feals the same.. and yes she does she sed she feals lots better and she feals free...how can u just be so heartless to some one u spent every night with for 2 years.. i asked her if she even thinks about me she sed that i hardly even crossed her mind since we broke and told me to delt her number and not call again??? she sed i dont want to get bk with u cuz ill be depressed again.. and if she did she sed she would prob cheat on me and have 500 other b/f its that bad she sed... that broke my heart so badly now i carnt eat or sleep or even think of anything eles what shall i do now ring her and fight for her bk or what... does she still think about me.... does she care.... whats going threw her head i mean yyyyy
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First of all the way she has treated you and your still grovelling to her? Do you have any self respect at all? Nobody is attracted to a depressed person. They want a fun, happy person who is independent. You need to step away and get that person back you were before your relationship. Also the more you push the more she will pull. N C!!
I can say to you I have had contact with my ex and it has knocked me back a hell of alot, so stay no contact for your own benefit. You only have one life so live it for yourself:I think its time to accept the harsh truth that its over and start the transition to single life. Its hard but whatever doesn't kill us makes us stronger right? More wary in the future and aware what we are looking for in a relationship and a person.
Treat your relationship as a life experience, you might not be able to treasure the memories you had right now but
one day you will. Do not regret but learn and move on, as someone much better is just around the next corner.
You must try follow these: (be strong)
1) Abide by no contact, ignorance is bliss so don't go near the 'grape vine'
2) Work on yourself entirely - hobbies, work, gym
3) Ever wanted to do something in your life? Nows the time
4) Spend more time with your friends and family and renew old social ties
5) Box every memory away and stay away from your fav songs for now - when you can look at it without feeling ill -
Ur halfway there!!
6) Time does heal :P It just takes a god dam while, but don't mope at home, go out, party, exercise - helps a hell
of alot
You don't need anyone to be happy.
The best revenge is to be happy yourself :]
Forgive and move on.
Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment.
Pay no attention to the faults of others,
things done or left undone by others.
Consider only what by oneself is done or left undone.
Let us rise up and be thankful, for if we didn't learn a lot today, at least we learned a little, and if we didn't
learn a little, at least we didn't get sick, and if we got sick, at least we didn't die; so, let us all be
thankful.
You gotta accept it. Delete everything and keep your self busy. Here are things you can do right now:
1) Delete all his contact details + block him
2) Have a hot bath with nice scents
3) Listen to some of your fav music
4) Read a book
5) Watch a film
6) Go out and party
7) Spend more time with your friends and family
8) Have a good laugh + watch a comedy
9) Go out for a drive with your best friends - put all the windows down and put on some loud music and SING - I
love doing this
10) DONT SIT AROUND AND MOPE
11) Get out of the house - Go for a walk, anything
12) Join the gym + workout + have a sauna
13) Book a holiday
14) Try new things - meet new people, sign up for a course
15) GO NO CONTACT NOW - STAY AWAY FROM THE GRAPE VINE, in time it will get easier but for now you need to keep
If she will never call you unless you call her than what does that mean to you? If she can easily survive without you than why would you want her? Don't you want to mean something to someone, love someone who loves you back? Follow the previous post and you will see exactly what she is doing to you.
Hi Danny
Sorry for your predicament but you really must just leave this girl be. She has made it very clear that she does not love you. Not only with her words but with her actions. By the sound of it you have done all you can and it is still not good enough for her. Don't take that as a sign that you have done anything wrong or there is something wrong with you , some people are just not meant to be together. Go No Contact and start your healing process NOW. The longer you hold on to the thoughts that you can get her back the longer the healing process will take. Easier said than done I know , but breakups are never easy and you just have to be strong and battle through the storm.
And if you feel like venting and need people just to talk to just come on here and we are all here at various times of the day.
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