I'm curious what most people think a good amount of sex is for a 29 year old male and 24 year old female?

I currently (in a bad lull) am only having sex with my fiance 1 time per week.... At one point it was 3-4 times a week... I think a healthy relationship needs ADEQUATE sex 3+ times a week to survive... Thoughts?

Krs

Well i would agree yes that 3+ times a week is healthy, however if you are only having sex once a wk it still shouldnt put a burden on your relationship.

Have you discused why she is not so much in the mood these days?

phoenix1664

i dont think there is a health amout of sex in a relationship it just depends on the people i mean its not exactly the most important thing realy is it?

i admint ye a few times a week is better but its not a must.

bluerose

Early on, sex is pretty important but as the relationship grows other aspects of it may become more important.. Perhaps that is where your girlfriend is now. Maybe it's time to take the relationship to another level.

Tuscany

Sex is important in relationships. But in order to have a healthy and fulfilling sex life all other aspects of your relationship need to be healthy as well. Are you communicating with your gf? Are you spending time together doing things just the two of you? Does she feel close to you outside of the bedroom? I know for women this all plays a roll in how sexual they feel. Please talk to her, it might be something as simple as she is tired.

jeremy4719

Blue rose... You obviously know little about us men... We need sex of some sort on a somewhat regular basis... You have no idea what is like having someone you want to express passion towards in a fullfilling release and not be able to.... No man would ever stay with a woman without fullfillment of this sort...

I know she is tired from working so much, I try to be understanding... I think that once we have more time for each other (when she is working less) then the communication, love, and low sex life will return... I'm being optimistic still, which I think is good...

Ash123

All that matters is if you are happy.

Are you feeling rejected?

A decrease in sex is NORMAL. A lot of couples after marriage or engagement find that's the case, BUT over time you find a way to see what works.

The NUMBER is IRRELEVANT...Love is not a scorecard :-)
Honestly, if you said you had sex once a year and were both happy, i'd say more power to ya....But if you are feeling anxious or ignored talk to her.

Communication and sex go hand in hand.

bluerose

jeremy,

I know nothing about men apart from having two brothers, being married for twenty years, and bringing up two sons. Seriously, that's it. So you are probably correct in your assumption.

But I was commenting more from your girlfriends perspective, that perhaps she was looking for more than just sex. Because there is more to sex than just sex. And if you fail to realise that, you are going to lose her.

Fr_Chuck

I will go with Rose, first normal and healthy is what is right or great for you, if stress, work scheldues and the such make it hard to find time and get together once a month may be great and healthy.

If you are setting demands for it, then it is just not healthy to start with.
Healthy is what it is, when it happens and when it is great for both parties.

You may find you will go months without it at all, when one or the other is sick or unable to have sex. I know many couples becuse of health issues have had to go over a year at a time. So for them no sex was healthy for them at that time.

A relationship can be very healthy without sex if both partners are loving and caring and are there emotionally for each other.

for many couples 3 times a week would just be to much, for others every day is normal for them. so normally what amount you end up doing is what is right and healthy for you

I beleve you may have some really unrealistic ideas, goals and think there are numbers you should be demanding, This is not how it works in real married life, And throw in a baby down the road and you will see that number go down real fast.

vlee

You need to find ways to get her in the mood. If you're both stressing and working a lot then there is little time for what most women would consider any sort of romance. (Notice I said romance, not foreplay!) Romance isn't always a candle lit dinner outside or anything difficult to muster. Romance can be snuggling up together for a movie with a bottle of wine. Here is the deal, when a woman is first with someone she is into sex as much as he is (usually). But as time passes she is looking for a deeper relationship, something that goes far beyond the boundaries of the bedroom. If you don't make an effort to communicate and express ideas and fail to learn more about her, she will lose interest. Women need an intimate emotional relationship to maintain the desire for the sexual aspect of it. You have to take the time to get her mind off of work and family and friends, etc... Try it out. It can't hurt, right?