Ask Experts Questions for FREE Help!
  Advanced
Register  |  Log in  
   Ask    
 Answer  
  Help  

Ask QuestionsprogressAnswer QuestionsprogressBuild ReputationprogressBecome an Expert
 
Free Answers in 3 Easy Steps

Register Now
3 Steps

At Ask Me Help Desk you can ask questions in any topic and have them answered for free by our experts. To ask questions or participate in answering them you must register for a free account. By registering you will be able to:
  • Get free answers from experts in any of our 300+ topics.
  • Accept money for answers that you provide.
  • Communicate privately with other members (PM).
  • See fewer ads.

Home > Family & People > Relationships   »   seriously what the heck

 
Thread Tools Display Modes
Question
 
 
#1  
Old Jan 27, 2008, 11:15 PM
german1096's Avatar
german1096
New Member
german1096 is offline
 
Join Date: Jan 2008
Posts: 6
german1096 See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.
seriously what the heck

Whole story short I have been with this girl like two years and then she demands I move out. Then she says wait for me then I do and for 2 months I would call ever so often but the calls always ended up frustrating me. Ater a month she stops making personal calls and just asks me routine questions like,"are you seing anyone?" then she would go when I was done answering. Christmas comesalong then I ask for her to come back to me. But no,then I meet someone on christmas eve online a person who I don't remember meeting. But she wasn't shy to tell me she liked me before, but I never even noticed her and I let her know that I don't recall her. Any way I go and I meet her through a friend we hit it off for just 3 days then my ex is looking all over for me and when I get home three days later I tell her the story she says im coming to get you. So I let her and Im happy to be with her then I get a email reminding of the harder times when she was not faithful so I go back to the new girl fearing she musta been doing that to me again....Now it's been another month and Im trying to go back to her and even left the new girl but she won't give it a shot...it was hard for me to just let this happen and so sudden. over night was to fast and she wanted everything back to normal just like that. I have been bothered by it two weeks now...but is it time for me to move on? or can I trust her to make the same choice to want everything back suddenly...

Reply With Quote
 
     

Answers
 
 
Old Jan 27, 2008, 11:45 PM   #2  
Junior Member
ampersandra is offline
 
Join Date: Aug 2007
Posts: 71
ampersandra See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.
It sounds like she's got you wrapped around her pinky. You're sacrificing so much for this girl who DEMANDED you to move out. It's your life. You don't need to report to her if you're seeing someone new. You don't need to tell her anything. It's not a question of whether or not you trust her.

YES, you should move on. But the reason for moving on is to live life for yourself, not for some girl who takes you for granted.

Comments on this post
talaniman agrees: Dead on!
AKaeTrue agrees: yep, I agree with this too
  Reply With Quote
 
     
 
 
Old Jan 28, 2008, 05:54 AM   #3  
Full Member
ihatewestseneca is offline
 
Join Date: Dec 2007
Location: West Seneca
Posts: 322
ihatewestseneca See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.
Quote:
Originally Posted by ampersandra
It sounds like she's got you wrapped around her pinky. You're sacrificing so much for this girl who DEMANDED you to move out. It's your life. You don't need to report to her if you're seeing someone new. You don't need to tell her anything. It's not a question of whether or not you trust her.

YES, you should move on. But the reason for moving on is to live life for yourself, not for some girl who takes you for granted.
Good answer,

Anyway, yeah, forget her, as hard as that may be right now. Move on and get healthy, in time you'll realize she isn't worth your time and you'll end this confusion. And don't contact her at all! Good luck

Comments on this post
talaniman agrees: Good advice.
AKaeTrue agrees: another good answer
  Reply With Quote
 
     
 
 
Old Jan 28, 2008, 06:31 AM   #4  
Senior Member
mafiaangel180 is offline
 
Join Date: Nov 2007
Location: Pa
Posts: 599
mafiaangel180 See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.mafiaangel180 See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.
You need to leave these women alone... You don't need them to make you happy.

Comments on this post
talaniman agrees: Thats the truth.
  Reply With Quote
 
     
 
 
Old Jan 28, 2008, 09:08 AM   #5  
Senior Relationship Expert
talaniman is offline
 
talaniman's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2005
Location: Space Is The Place
Posts: 18,951
talaniman See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.talaniman See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.talaniman See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.talaniman See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.talaniman See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.talaniman See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.talaniman See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.talaniman See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.talaniman See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.talaniman See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.talaniman See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.
Why in the world would you even consider going back with someone who has treated you like a pile of crap?? Disappear from her life, and get yours together.

Comments on this post
Altenweg agrees: You hit the nail on the head.
AKaeTrue agrees: I agree
  Reply With Quote
 
     
 
 
Old Jan 28, 2008, 02:46 PM   #6  
New Member
german1096 is offline
 
german1096's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2008
Posts: 6
german1096 See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.
Im getting over someone and It seems that I can't be myself towards this new girl Im seeing. I feel mean and I hurt her feelings all the time and it's not me to be this way does it mean Im not into her? or that im taking my frustrations out on her....I think it's because I started seeing someone to soon.... she is totally attractive and nice and im blowing it what do I do?
  Reply With Quote
 
     
 
 
Old Jan 28, 2008, 02:53 PM   #7  
Senior Relationship Expert
talaniman is offline
 
talaniman's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2005
Location: Space Is The Place
Posts: 18,951
talaniman See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.talaniman See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.talaniman See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.talaniman See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.talaniman See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.talaniman See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.talaniman See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.talaniman See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.talaniman See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.talaniman See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.talaniman See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.
Your still hurting from the last relationship break up, and haven't given yourself a chance to heal, not fair to the new person. Come clean, and be honest with her, and yourself, and explain to her what your going thru, and apologize.
  Reply With Quote
 
     
 
 
Old Jan 28, 2008, 03:09 PM   #8  
Ultra Member
friend4u178 is offline
 
friend4u178's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2007
Location: In the corner watching!
Posts: 1,766
friend4u178 See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.friend4u178 See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.friend4u178 See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.friend4u178 See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.
This first girl has you wrapped around her little finger. Get rid of her and start healing. It may be too early to take on a new girl so best you be single for a while until you are over her. There's nothing wrong with being single.

I would tell the new girl you still like her but explain the situation , it's not fair to be stringing her along.
  Reply With Quote
 
     
 
 
Old Jan 29, 2008, 02:59 AM   #9  
Junior Member
Questions2007 is offline
 
Join Date: Aug 2007
Posts: 126
Questions2007 See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.
Quote:
Originally Posted by german1096
Whole story short I have been with this girl like two years and then she demands I move out. Then she says wait for me then I do and for 2 months I would call ever so often but the calls always ended up frustrating me. Ater a month she stops making personal calls and just asks me routine questions like,"are you seing anyone?" then she would go when I was done answering. Christmas comesalong then I ask for her to come back to me. But no,then I meet someone on christmas eve online a person who I don't remember meeting. But she wasn't shy to tell me she liked me before, but I never even noticed her and I let her know that I don't recall her. Any way I go and I meet her through a friend we hit it off for just 3 days then my ex is looking all over for me and when I get home three days later I tell her the story she says im coming to get you. So I let her and Im happy to be with her then I get a email reminding of the harder times when she was not faithful so I go back to the new girl fearing she musta been doing that to me again....Now it's been another month and Im trying to go back to her and even left the new girl but she won't give it a shot...it was hard for me to just let this happen and so sudden. over night was to fast and she wanted everything back to normal just like that. I have been bothered by it two weeks now...but is it time for me to move on? or can I trust her to make the same choice to want everything back suddenly...
This is classic rebound stuff! Be fair on the new girl, tell her you need time to be single and work out what you want from life after your ex hurt you. You will be so much stronger for that as opposed to just jumping into a replacement relationship.

As for your ex, forget what she wants and does, do things for you!
  Reply With Quote
 
     
 
 
Old Jan 29, 2008, 06:32 AM   #10  
Expert
HistorianChick is offline
 
HistorianChick's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: My own little corner of the world
Posts: 1,607
HistorianChick See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.HistorianChick See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.HistorianChick See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.HistorianChick See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.
Darlin, you need to move on. The first girl, like ampersandra said, has/had you wrapped snuggly around her little finger. You don't need that.

The second girl sounds sweet and all, but hon, you rebounded. You need time to find out what you want from life, who you are, and what makes you tick... not jump into another relationship.

In order to be "in" a relationship you have to be IN the relationship... not wondering about your ex or if she could possibly take you back.

Comments on this post
mafiaangel180 agrees: Brilliant :)
  Reply With Quote
 
     

Bookmarks


Thread Tools
Display Modes

 
Similar Sponsors

Similar Threads
Question Asker Forum Answers Last Post
who the heck? prayerlord Teens 3 Jul 11, 2007 12:49 AM
what the heck is going on? still in love Teens 2 May 18, 2007 01:18 PM
What the heck? 03fridge Relationships 16 Apr 11, 2006 04:20 PM
What in the heck do I have here? Dstima Plumbing 14 Jul 12, 2005 12:28 PM
What the heck is this? ericmorin Plumbing 2 Apr 9, 2005 10:31 AM




Copyright ©2003 - 2007, Ask Me Help Desk.
All times are GMT -8. The time now is 07:31 PM.