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Was sending a snail mail or mass e-mail breaking NC?
I was just wondring, i may have done something dumb today
i e-mailed an msn news story simultaneoulsy to 3 people incuding,the X whom i have not been in contact for many months now.
Thing is he told me before he doesnt check that e-mail account regularly, but i'm sure when he logs in he'll see my name,along with that story and w/other friends e-addresses.
did i actually break NC and in need of walk around with the Scarlet letter
for breaking NC?
I was actually going to send that multiple e-mail after the presidential election and this is the first time i've done this, i wont do this anymore.
I bow my head in shame,now one of my friends in the e-mail is readin gme the riot act for doing that,and rightly so.
What do I do,? anyones opinion? advice,incuding bringingthe scarlet paint so i can hold up like hester Prynne?
feel awful
What do you do? Well, there is nothing you can do unless you try to hack his email account and delete the email before he sees it.
Opinion? Its probably not a very big deal. Hopefully, he sees it as an accidental mass-email and disregards... BUT, if he is wanting contact, he may use it to open the lines of communication.
Advice? Delete him from your address book to keep it from happening again.
yes i now bow my head down with shame
i since deleted him but i memorize his address,
I'll just keep mum for good
breaking NC is scary and does putyou in a vulnerable position
'i was hoping i got a failure delivery
i'll take the red paint,
have to joke abou tthis somehow.
I dont know exactly what the general "rules" are with NC... but for me, I like to continue friendships with all of my ex's. I am actually either friends or at least on a civil speaking level with every girl that i have ever gone out with... at least the ones that I still see/run into.
So, if you are not opposed to that, maybe this will be a good thing. It's been so long that maybe the two of you will be able to overcome the need for NC and connect on a friendship level?
I think that is a valuable thing to do in life... you shouldnt live your life afraid or awkward with people or ex's
hey Dr.jizzle
Well certainly after my posts,believe me whe're not frinds,not after the way he treated me and it ended badly
but youre right though,maybe thats my way of letting bygones be bygones
also i tried to hack his e-mail acct to erase it,
not that i had his password anyway,but i did follow your advice
it wont happen again,look ow awful i felt even with that
Yes, better to let bygones be bygones rather than spending your life with grudges. People can act real sh*tty to each other.. especially when love is involved.
But to be the better person, regardless how difficult it is, it is always best to get past it, accept that, while they are not the best person for you, they are still a person. We all make mistakes.
The tricky part is to do so without giving in to them again. Stay strong.
(Even though it's not the "right" thing to do, I would have tried to hack their email also lol)
Yes, better to let bygones be bygones rather than spending your life with grudges. People can act real sh*tty to each other.. especially when love is involved.
But to be the better person, regardless how difficult it is, it is always best to get past it, accept that, while they are not the best person for you, they are still a person. We all make mistakes.
The tricky part is to do so without giving in to them again. Stay strong.
(Even though it's not the "right" thing to do, I would have tried to hack their email also lol)
I appreciate your responses/insight
what do you mean by not giving in to them again? do you mean contacting?
yes,he did act real crappy verbally insulting me via e-mail which i didnt bother to reply
to this day i regret not telling him off,even if everyone told me to ignore him
ffelt i never had closure, i giess by sending that chain mail i wanted in a way to show him he didnt bother me,(although he did)
not sure if he gotten it or not,but i'm notgoing to be dumb enough to do it again
i wont lie i wish he did contact me so i can finally let him have it after all this time!
I don't think it's a big deal. it happened, so what. stop thinking about it. he will get the email and see it was casual. he will either not reply to it all, since a lot of people don't even take the time to look at mass emails/forward...or he might reply with something simple. if he does, i wouldn't read into it too much. but honestly, it sounds like you want him to reply deep down, or else you wouldn't have taken the time to post about it.
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