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I've been seeing this married man for several months now. when we first got involved with each other we said that we was'nt going to let any feeling get in our way. because of his wife and my boyfreind .All of that have changed , i've fallen in love with this man and i now that he have deeply feeling for me,because his cousin whome he is very close with told me.Can Newyears Day ,this guy told me that he was going to be faithful to his wife. i asked him did he want me to leave him alone and he told me that he do'nt know. i asked him how can you have feelings for someone one day and the next day you want to end the relationship. He can't answer the question but he wants to spend a whole day out of town with me.Now this man do'nt want me to leave him along what do you think do you think that it might be love here.
Okay honey, first of all, if this man loves you he would be with you and not his wife. You went into this relationship knowing he had a wife and yet you still got your feelings involved. What were you thinking sister? I'm not trying to be to critical, but if he really wanted to be with you, he would have left his wife and then started a relationship with you. He is not going to leave her, I mean why would he when he can have a stable married life, and still get sex from you on the side. I mean if the sex was good I'd lie and say I had feelings for you too if I were a man of course. Unfortunately this is how men think. So if you want to quit wasting your time and find someone who really does want to be with you, then ditch this bastard and find someone who deserves you. Just remember, you are better than this and you deserve better than this. Don't let some piece of crap man run your life like this. Go out and find you a man who will love you and only you and not want to share you with someone else.
The married guy wasn't getting loving from his wife. He found you. You knew he didn't want a relationship. You have scared him away and he had the wife to run back to.
NEVER, EVER get involved with a married guy.
Get this jerk out of your brain. The person I feel worse for is his wife - poor woman.
WHY do woman do this???? What don't you get?
Do not ever get involved with these jokers until the divorce papers are signed. HELLO??? ALL they want is to get you in the sack any way how.
He has the best of both worlds-you and his wife to get as much sex as he wants. Wake up and end this relationship before 10 years go by and you miss out on a true relationship where the man wants to be with you and is there for you. Sex you can get from anybody 24/7 but you can't build a solid foundation on just sex. I was involved years ago w/a married man and he decided to go back to his wife. It literally broke my heart but would never, ever do anything like that again. Not worth the emotional toll it takes on you. Be wise and end it as you will not win no matter what you think or hope will happen and he'll just magically end up with you.
Let him go and stop hanging on to fantasies that he will leave his wife for you
Because more than likely he won't. I know of several situations like this and only ONE has ever actually left his wife, and you know what; in that case the wife he left was more than better off. She ended up marrying a man that loved her, was finacially secure and gave her a life that she would never have with the cheater. The woman he went to ended up in a relationship I would only wish on my worst enemy. Leave him to his wife, and go on and find yourself a man of your own.
yes of course it can, but the wrong kind of love not the kind you need, you need a man who can give his undevided attention, he might love you but he is gonna stay with his wife can you live for a long while with being his second best, and let him dictate when you can see him, its not great wanting to be with your guy but knowing your not gonna see him till a week on tues and maybe for an hour if your lucky, you'll find someone you can be with properly i know this is hard for you but things will work out, just not for you and him together.
i asked him how can you have feelings for someone one day and the next day you want to end the relationship. <<
Honeye, I sincerely know what you are feeling. I am also seeing a married man. He has a wife and children. He has repeatedly told me I cannot fall in love with him, that he has a responsibility to his children. His marriage is shaky at best. He is looking for affection, I am looking for love. I am in love with him. He cares for me, too. He has expressed guilt about cheating on his wife and lying to her several times. However, he still continues to see me. It is entirely possible to love two people at once, but it is a undesirable conundrum. One way or the other, someone is going to get hurt. I believe life is too short to be unhappy. In the end, someone has to make a choice. He may or may not end up with you. You can allow him to string you along, or maybe he will leave his wife. No one knows, really. Address this issue with him. Tell him your concerns, how you feel, and ask him what his plans are concerning his relationship with you. Push him to be honest with you. Accept the reality of this relationship, it is a hazard to your emotional well-being. No relationship is guaranteed to last forever. Use your best judgment and prepare yourself for the worst possible outcome: his leaving you and your heartache and feelings of betrayal. You need to look out for number one right now: yourself. If you really love this man and and can envision yourself with him, by all means pursue him to the fullest extent. Love him with all your being and tell him you love him. Just keep in mind all the possibilities--good and bad. Best of luck to you.
excellent post there, great advice and so nice to read someone who isnt judging only giving their genuine advice..good on you
Thank you, prophecygirl. I feel I have no right to judge anyone. I genuinely believe people do what they feel is best for them. We all find ourselves in sticky situations where we need encouragement, advice and reassurance. I refuse to condemn love in any fashion. "If you judge people, you have no time to love them."
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