When we love someone we tend to make excuses for his behavior, we always want to give him the benefit of the doubt. Especially when the other person is good to us in many other ways. Not only do we begin to tolerate what is bothering us, but we think it's normal. But, deep down inside and intellectually speaking, I know for certain that it is not normal for a mate to ignore me completely for days. Not even a word of sweetness. I'm I willing to tolerate this for the rest of my life? No. Do I think he is the last man on earth? Certainly not. However, I would like to get some insight on what you all think about breaking up. In 3 days from now, I will have my engagement get/together involving my family and his only. Just the parents (dinner at home). But, just a few hours ago my fiance got upset over me watching another channel rather than the local news (which he is addicted to). We only have one TV, due to his procrastination of not hooking the other. Well we seldom watch TV, but I told him, I was sorry I didn't know it was time for news and he was on the phone anyways, talking about his police problems with his brother. I even asked him if he wanted a massage to distress a little. I asked him why he treated me so coldly. He didn't answer, like most of the times. I felt like trowing a tantrum, screaming and racing hell, but I controlled my behavior and appeased myself with comforting thoughts. I'd rather act smart then regret it, plus he needs to sleep to be up in the morning. I will talk to him tomorrow. I do love him, but each time he does this to me is less and less. The problem is that I do not have a job now, but I do have a degree, so that means I just need to get back on my feet and I'm afraid of his reaction. He will throwme on the street and I will loose my expensive furniture. I will talk a lawyer (a good friend). Anyhow, I need advice. Any thoughs are appreciated.

Kevin_s

Any updates on the situation?