Second Chances? This is all new to me.

Righthearted · #1 Jul 11, 2007, 06:40 AM

- UPDATE -
So my EX tells me that she made a mistake and that she wants to try again. I don't know how I feel about things. She tells me that she misses me and that's when I tell her that I missed her for 3 months and now feel like I don't know if things can ever be the same again. I told her I didn't know how I felt, but that we can take things reeeeally slowly.
Thoughts? What are other peoples experiences?

victoria_mitchell · Jul 11, 2007, 09:40 AM

Well, why did you break up the first time??

Righthearted · Jul 11, 2007, 09:43 AM

She's younger (22), and was unsure about our future. Basically didn't know if I was the one she wanted to settle down with.

victoria_mitchell · Jul 11, 2007, 10:14 AM

Well maybe now she has it all out of her system, I mean maybe she is ready to settle down and be committed.

This is a total coin flip in my opinion!! 50/50 I know I have taken people back into my life before and it has ruained whatever friendship we might have had. I thought they might be differnet or they might have changed, but low and behold they had put this wonderful front up and I fell for it and got my heart stepped on!!

But at the same time the guy I am with right now (he just turned 24, and I am younger) we were seeing eachother a few years ago but he said that I was too young to know what I wanted and that things would never work out, so he called it quits and we didn't talk to eachother again...... I was heart broken as you can imagine. I really wanted to be with him.

But then last year the falme was reunited and we have been together just over a year now and we are incredibly happy!!! When we got together officially as a couple he apologized for brushing me off but I thanked him for what he did!! If we would have been together then things would have never worked out

SuperFudd · Jul 11, 2007, 10:27 AM

I agree...she could've gotten it all out of her system and is ready to settle. Or she could get back together and remember what it was that made her want to be "free". I've never really had good experiences with taking ex's back, but I always do it. I think you're going about it the right way and go VEEERY slowly. Make sure she knows what she wants. If she ends up wanting you, then things can be the same and even better than they were.

Righthearted · Jul 13, 2007, 09:26 AM

Nothing happened, she told me a couple of days after the wedding that she made a mistake and wanted to try again. That's when I said that we would need to go slowly with things- that I'm not sure how I feel anymore and that we would need to work on things that needed to be worked on. (i.e. spending all our time together, dependency, her not being able to have her own identity).
We'll see what happens.



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