girlfriend and i are on break

jb2k · #1 Jun 29, 2007, 07:48 AM

ok im sure everyone heard this story before im 20 years old and my girlfriend is 19 we have been dating for a year and i was soo wonderful but in the past month she found out that her father has cancer and it doesnt look good so she became stressed out with school and work and her father i tried to be there for her i took her out on fun dates and whatnot then out of nowhere she wants to go on a break and im a man of respect and i completely honor her decision and we parted ways but the thing that bothers me is like im completely shut out from her like its like i never existed like on her facebook everything about me is gone what does that mean

i just want her attention not much but enough to know she still cares i heard from a friend that she "hopes " to get back with me but still i am so cold i keep myself busy with school and work and friends but i'm so unhappy and i need some help from someone who does not know me what should i do

Dennis777 · Jun 29, 2007, 08:10 AM

Hello

Right now all you can do is give her space and let her know your there when she needs you. Everyone deals with problems in their own way, many run away from things that make them happy because they feel guilty feeling happy when others in their life are hurting.

In a few weeks send her a note saying hi, thinking of you. nothing more or less your just wanting her to know your there and keeping the doors open.

Good Luck
Dennis777

incognito · Jun 29, 2007, 08:16 AM

Give her the space she needs, she's going through a difficult situation which is entirely new to her.

Take the time to take care of yourself. It's hard, but live YOUR life. Give yourself the time to heal.
And whenever she's ready, she'll let you know.

coco5707 · Jul 2, 2007, 06:00 PM

Dude i am going through the same thing kina. but i feel the same way about my girlfriend. i just want her to tell me she still loves me or something. ya know. just some thing to give me a little hope. you can check out my question if you want the title is my girlfriend wants to take a break. i am coco5707. let me know how things worked out

zooropa1985 · Jul 2, 2007, 06:14 PM

there are two vital things you need to give her - space and time. She seems to be under a lot of pressure at the moment and maybe doesnt need you around her all the time.

Leave her be and she will be back if she cares

flow_girl · Jul 2, 2007, 06:35 PM

ur girlfriend hasnt stopped loving you. She just needs time to sort out her life, and come to terms with the difficult situation she's in. Whilst it may hurt that she's shut you out, give it time. When she's ready, trust me, she'll be back. She'll come running into ur arms and when she does, you'll be ready. Provide the support and comfort she needs during emotional times.

laranita82 · Jul 2, 2007, 06:46 PM

All you can do is respect her wishes right now. To be honest with you, maybe she is really having a difficult time dealing with everything. I shut out everyone around me and do stupid when I am going through a difficult time. Give her time and space, I'm sure she'll appreciate it.

cld1979 · Jul 3, 2007, 07:10 AM

I agree with everyone's comments so far.

Me and my girlfriend have actually split up as her father died 2 years ago, and she has never dealt with the situation. She now thinks she needs to be on her own to sort her head out.

When she first asked for a break, we tried, but she said she was so confused etc. We ended up splitting up because she still wasn't getting the space she needed.

Just let her have that time or space or she will resent you for it.

Don't read too much into deleting the facebook stuff. To me that says she still loves you, and is desperately trying to give herself that space. Constant reminders of you are not going to allow her to do that. Don't think too much.

As already advised, send her a note in a couple of weeks simply saying that you hope she is ok, and you are thinking of her. She will appreciate knowing that she can still come to you if she feels she needs you.

Keep us updated.

jb2k · Jul 7, 2007, 06:45 AM

well i sent the card to her and her sister contacts me letting me know she is ok and she is hurting and whatnot it felt so good to know she is ok now i just gotta sit back and relax and do my thing and wait for her to contact me eh days are bittersweet my friends thanks for the advice ill let everyone know if it ends or starts a new



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