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Anyone else having as much of a hard time getting through your first holiday season without the "other"? Man I tell ya, going home to a slightly dysfunctional family, where you are one of the last to not have a relationship (if it wasn't for my 14 year old sister I'd be the only one) is excrutiating. While my old "princess" is probably hanging stockings with her new significant other next to a roaring fire while sipping on egg nog and talking about their future children, I'm trying to get the family dog to stop humping my leg. Although Fido's affection is appreciated I'm sure I could find better uses for my leg, and as for my head, well that's the problem. It is the constant mental struggle. I'm spending the season pretty much alone. New years It will be me and my conscience. Can anyone tell me that I'm not special for having no one? To all those that are struggling with a breakup I hope you find yourself with a friend or a family member to be there with you during the holiday season. I'm doing it alone and somehow surviving and not going completely mental. Cheers.
Hey, at least you have a family to go home to over the holidays. Lots of people don't.
Get involved in making the holiday a good one for all of you.
Live for today. Find good things happening all around you or make them happen.
Stop thinking everything is great for her, chances are there is no roaring fire, but a stuffy forced air furnace. Eggnog will make her fat, too. Cheers to you!
Boo hoo right Cerisa? I was looking to feel connected. Like I'm not the only one completely alone this holiday season. I know I have my family (to a certain extent, I actually wasn't invited for Christmas, but showed up anyways), and believe me I'm thankful, but I wanted to hear how others are spending their holidays and how they feel. I wanted to feel human i guess, I dunno. I've been acting like a robot for the last 20 days or so and I wanted to feel normal for a bit. I'm being silly probably. I'm not sure.
You will always have us, enig. And don't forget--a person can feel lonely in a room full of in-laws. (Welcome to my life....)
Dear Abby says to find one or more people who will spend the holidays alone and get together with them for punch and cookies or a movie and dinner or a walk around the block. Better, visit a nursing home or a hospital or an animal shelter and even become a volunteer there. If you can give a little from your heart, you will get back tenfold. You need to be needed; volunteering will do that for you. Sit and chat with an old person about who they used to be in the world they used to live in, play Checkers with a hospitalized teenager, brush a few homeless cats.
I had a very difficult Christmas myself, very similar to yours... I kept zoning out, imagining what my ex was up to. She broke up with me about 7 weeks ago and finally moved out 10 days before Christmas. I almost skipped out on the whole family thing to stay at home and get drunk instead, but I'm glad I didn't, as difficult as it was. Not sure what I'm doing for New Years yet, but I recommend you try to find a party or something instead of being alone with your thoughts.
Cheers, things will get better for us both in the new year.
my ex and i broke up 2 weeks before christmas. we actually planned to spend the holidays at a ski lodge. i already booked the room.
as for christmas, i had to work on christmas eve + christmas...i was alone. at home. by myself. digiorno (microwaveable pizza) and a movie.
my ex is spending it with the new guy (after 3 days of us breaking up)
as far as the ski lodge, i already invited a few friends to go with me. the hell with relationships!
man i feeling you ......i was trying to make a perfect christmas...so i ask this girl out i likes alot and aslo thought she likes me too ...but turn out
"Sorry Steven...i love you as a brother....."
so it sux big time and here i am spending time with my family my friends ....over the holiday ......hell that all we have and all we needed right ? ....
I saw her tonight. Looking radiant. She was with her other. I can't seem to catch a break. It hit me hard. Why has it hit me hard? It's been 7 months. What's wrong with me?
I saw her tonight. Looking radiant. She was with her other. I can't seem to catch a break. It hit me hard. Why has it hit me hard? It's been 7 months. What's wrong with me?
Wow! 7 months?
You need to get rid of everything that reminds you of her. You also need to start doing physical excercise, as it helps you relax your mind. You don't need to join a gym, but if you do, there are usually TONS of single females there.
She's getting jollies knowing you are in agony and not moving on because of her. She is loving it. Your agony is making her life even better. Doesn't that bother you?
You need to get rid of everything that reminds you of her. You also need to start doing physical excercise, as it helps you relax your mind. You don't need to join a gym, but if you do, there are usually TONS of single females there.
She's getting jollies knowing you are in agony and not moving on because of her. She is loving it. Your agony is making her life even better. Doesn't that bother you?
There is no way she will ever know that I am in agony. I'd rather die then let that be known. I take it from your shock, that 7 months seems to be a bit extraordinary when it comes to moving on. Not only am I working out like a machine, I'm running miles every day. I'm finding it hard to meet anyone that can even be held near the same league as her. It sucks.
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