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Been broken up with a girl for a couple of years now. Seeing someone else.

Finally dropped off the last of her stuff. Left it in the mail and left a message on her phone.

Her response was...

Its been around a year... we were friends and it just kind of happened. Both got out of long term relationships and I guess we're more comfortable in them...

Its only complicated because I'm...

I miss her, just needed to put it out there...

I miss the idea of thinking something was forever. Silly

It kind of just feels like I'm treading water, keeping my head above, not going...

I've caught myself looking at friends albums for photos of her. It always get me kind of nostalgic and sad. She was so great most of the time and I ruined things by not putting as much in as she was,...

It depends on how long you are planning on investing the money for and how much risk you are willing to take.

Eg. If you are planning on leaving it for 5+ years and can tolerate market movements...

Its been a year now.

I still miss her, but realise that what I miss is long gone and can never be brought back

I've stayed healthy, organised some holidays (skiing in japan next year, and maybe...

Your post is hard to follow.

I'm not sure what expectations you have of each other in your relationship
But I would feel disrespected if it happened to me

If she is also being dishonest about...

Be civil but excuse yourself quickly. Until you are over him then trying to be close friends just won't work.

If you can't trust her then the relationship will not work.

Take some time to gain perspective and work out if you really want it to work.

If she can go from wanting to marry you to dumping...

Thought I was Feeling over her but now I'm not so sure. Had been getting pretty close to a friend and now think I've got a bit too close.
Not sure if I'm ready to go through it all over again. Makes...

Don't see her (the ex)...

-> problem solved

Good call guys. Don't think she has feelings for me at all. Would have been sending them for the wrong reasons.

A pity it isn't an enjoyable experience too

Not sure to all of the above

I wouldn't be expecting that just the flowers would get her back

Maybe its part guilt from not gettering her flowers as much as I could have/should have

I guess...

That's not the point of no contact.
No contact is post breakup to allow you to recover...

Shouldn't you just tell your partner what you feel and have it over with, all you are doing at the...

@mods
It was a general question - did it really need to get merged?


Do you mean - "know better than to send"

I'm fair to middling. But then again maybe I always was. Thanks for asking :P

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Threads merged

Would you, should you?
And if so how? Anonymously? Or just a small note?

Its not a competition
Its better to wait till your ready so you can have something meaninful rather than a rebound

Keep occupied doing things for yourself, hanging out with friends etc.

I don't think you stop thinking about them that quick, just get used to dealing with it and eventually it will pass

I'm not sure if is call it a slump. Some things in my life are going well (but I'm self destructing a little). I guess it's an emotional slump though I feel I've been in one half my life. It was just...

No. I don't think there's much point anymore. I know what I should do or at least think I do. It just feels like it's better to be alone and never rely on anybody for anything more than you need....

Work all week an now I got to study all weekend. Don't really have much time for anything. Which I guess can be good. Hanging out with old friends a bit more.
Don't think I want to move forward....

Was expecting to see her today at a do. Guess it's better that I didn't. Heard a song on the radio on the way home and just broke down. Want to call and tell her I love and miss her even though it's...

Why play games, just tell her the next time she contacts you that you need time and space and leave it at that

I'm eating OK. Exercising a reasonable amount. Not sleeping right though. I'll give it another month before I get more help. Past my exam in the end. So I guess I can survive on my own. Thank god.
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I think I still love her. I just want to tell her. I'm not sure if deep down I feel it's over maybe my mind is just trickingitself like she's on a vacation and shell be back.
It's three months now...

There's nothing wrong with hanging out, just don't rush into anything until you are ready

If you actually like the sister then why not, assuming you are both ready for it?

If its just revenge then...


Thought the title was going to say "at the same time"

He might miss you, but has anything changed? So things will end up just as before. Accept the messages for what they are, meaningless.

I have the urge to tell her I still love her and miss her.

Tried to go out with a friend last night but just couldn't be stuffed. So left early.
I'm not sure whether it feels like my ex and I...

You were right. Now I'm lying in bed awake...

If you value your job then keep your relationship strictly professional

If she's seeing someone else then it sounds like she's already decided to move on

Not contacting her and erasing her from your life will help you get over her

I had my ex of Facebook for a...

Called... she booked a haircut.

So I guess that saved a few awkward hours. Im not sure what I feel anymore for her, I want her back but then its probably part loneliness and I guess even if we did...

Another question

Have a booking for the best restaurant in Australia (had been waitlisted for ages) next weekend

Do we go as friends? Assuming I ask her and she says yes :S

My parents were...

Sounds like guilt.

As amicon said don't let it worry you etc

Thanks folks good points. I have to get my act together and start doing things but it s easier said than done


There's 2 parties tonight, I don't get invited often but I don't know whether I...

What do you all do when you feel empty? I don't feel there's anything I want anymore.

I'll work for 40 more years, maybe ill find someone maybe I won't, retire and die. Why bother?

Stay out of contact... the pain gets better.

When you do think about her, just remember she's made her decision there's nothing you can do to change it no matter how muich it sucks.

Hopefully...

Do you need your stuff urgently?

If you aren't ready to see her yet don't.

Awkward isn't so bad, if you really need it drop by when her roomies are home and she's not and collect it

I've...

Not sure

If you're still healing then don't think about it till the time comes

Just remember that is unlikely/cant go back the other way if things don't work out

Mmm thanks, yeah I'm not sure if I really can be around her yet, and don't really feel like explaining the situation to others

I don't physically need them but want to get the suits back, so it...

When should I get my stuff back should ileave it longer?

A mutual friend (more the exs than mine - but other friends are prob going who I haven't seen in a while) is having a housewarming, she's...

There's not just one needle in the haystack (I hope... )

It isn't supposed to be easy, that's what makes it all the more special when you find them

Guilt doesn't = love for you

Looks like she's moved on

Probably best you stay away from one another. End the game playing.

What closure do you need. You obviously didn't care for him if you did that.

Move on and don't make the same mistakes.

She hasn't tried to contact me since ( a month now ). If she changed her mind then I guess she would have by now. Guess I'm not worth it

Feeling so torn up

I still feel I don't want or care...

You have to accept that feelings change. My ex loved me so much more than I did her to begin with, I thought it would be like that forever, but after 4 years she just stopped.

If it was a change...

You are your one and only in the world, people come and go. You only get one life, if you are rock bottom things can only get better.

You need to get professional help for your depression ASAP.

Tell him what you've told us, explain how much effort it is. Try to reach a compromise.