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I was at NC for 9 days. Feeling fine in the beginning. My ex texted me on 4th of July- "Some days are harder than others", which progressively made me think about her more and if there was a chance...

Today was day 9 NC. She had texted me a few days ago- "Some days are harder than others", which made me think she misses me and threw me for a loop. I ended up emailing her today. Stupid, but I was...

Jiltedgirl,

What a jaded way of looking at things. Time to break the cycle!

"I will always love you" is said when the breakup is still fresh. The person still has strong feelings for you. However, they may or may not last. And certainly, they were not enough to keep the...

Carolina,

I'm trying to understand the situation as best I can, but I can tell you that you need to stop blaming yourself. I don't see what you did wrong. I know how you feel hurt that he wanted...

Michelle,

You really messed up here. Why did you stop communicating with him for a week? Do you think he deserved that? Also, why were you trying to manipulate him by trying to make him think that...

Hey Dallasboy,

I'm going through the same thing myself. I'm starting to see someone new, but thinking about my ex. It's bewildering.

Thanks madaman. Your response makes me feel a lot better. I think it's true that she pushed a lot of the blame on me to make her feel better about what she was doing. It's all a big guilt trip.

You can't change the guy. If he wants to smoke, he will smoke and will only quit because he wants to. I had a similar problem with my ex. She started smoking all of a sudden after 2 yrs not smoking...

JBeaucaire,

If you read my earlier posts, I only set up an online profile after she dumped me for the nth time, packed two bags and drove off. I was tired of getting dumped. She saw that I put up...

So, my ex came by and picked up her stuff today. You can read my story by looking at my old posts. She apologized for going through my stuff. She still thinks I "cheated" on her by posting an online...

Great advice!

Any coping strategies? Also, I heard there was some ratio for how long it takes to get over someone, like one month per year of the relationship. So it takes 3 months to get over a 3 year...

Does anyone notice that the depression after a recent breakup is most intense in the mornings? I went out last night for a friend's birthday party and felt great, felt like I had forgotten the whole...

I have found in my experience that counselors don't really work that well for me. What people are basically paying for I think is to be able to vent for 45 min about yourself in a non-judgmental...

Realitybites,

You also need to look inside and determine why you have decided to spend a year with an impotent guy who lives at home who you hardly ever see. Something has compelled you to make...

Also, another thing to remember is just because somebody comes out of the woodwork and displays emotion when you start seeing somebody else doesn't mean that they actually love you or want to be with...

First, you don't even really know this guy. Seeing each other once a month for a year, you only get to see him on his best behavior. However, he is a proven slacker who refuses to commit to you and...

The older I get, the more I realize that no relationship hinges on one thing that anyone has done or said, unless it's really something bad like cheating or stealing or whatever. You can kick...

No, No, No, NO. Listen to me and repeat back to yourself. No man alive who is intent on marrying a woman acts the way this guy is acting.

You've got to work on this or your relationship will be ruined. Take a look at my profile to see my story to see how my ex's insecurities destroyed our relationship.

I think this is an interesting situation and completely polar opposite from the situation that I was in. In my situation, the girl was convinced that I wanted other women and didn't find her...

Hi Starlite,

I think one thing you need to do is stop beating yourself up about what you did or didn't say. The way that guy reacted to you is not love. It is quite understandable that you would...

I think there's nothing you can do to control another person. He's proven his yo-yo behavior over years, so it seems to be a part of his mo. I think the best thing you can do is have a busy life and...

Hey you guys have been so helpful. I have another question. Obviously things weren't like this when we first started. She did ask a lot of questions about my ex, etc in the beginning but I thought...

I changed all my passwords and have had no verbal or in-person communication for 2 weeks and no written communication for almost a week. Maybe she has some remote way of cracking my passwords without...

Talaniman,

You are so right! This has been traumatic and has upset me so much that I've been rushing to start dating other people to get over it all. I just need to be alone and focus on myself.

Jollienoire,

Thanks for your response. This is the kind of feedback I need. To clarify, I don't think it was healthy, I know it was very, very sick, so believe me, I don't think that. I'm just in...

I need some encouragement. I broke up with my ex 2 weeks ago. You can see the story by looking up my profile. Her main problem was trust issues, she was snooping in my journal, stalking my ex's...

Then move on and get on with your life. It is totally out of your control. Only thing you can do is work on yourself and not repeat the same things with the next guy. If he comes back, great, but...

Maybe you should reach out one more time and explain yourself again. If you don't hear back, not much you can do now except wait. If he comes back, consider yourself blessed. If he doesn't, the only...

Sweetlee,

Please read my post about how my ex's jealousy ruined our relationship. Do whatever you can to control your jealousies and insecurities or you will be going down the same path.

Ugh. I hate this feeling. I feel like I've been sucked back into some communication and it only made me feel bad. I've been ignoring my ex since Thurs when she did that little stunt hacking into my...

Shellyjo, thank you so much for that feedback. I'm really glad I posted on this board, it's been very helpful. I agree that the myspace stalking of the ex is bordering on psycho, and I've called her...

JBeaucaire, thanks so much for your input. I am too nice and worried about hurting other people, so my first mistake was to try to assuage her feelings rather than call her on her betrayal. This...

Thanks for everyone's advice. I will start packing all of her stuff this weekend and will have no contact with her unless it's with a witness and well documented.

One last question: The fact that...

She can have her things. She hasn't come back to get them. She has the keys to get in. I will call a friend to come by if she comes around, I don't want to be in the apt alone with her.

Thanks for everyone's advice. She spent a good part of last night calling and texting, but I did not respond.

It was one thing that I forgave her for reading my journal, I felt guilty about what I...

Hi, this is my first post here. I'd like to keep it as brief as I can, but I really could use some advice, so I'm sorry for the length.

I was with my ex for about 3 years. Since the beginning she...