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Oh no, sorry I was just saying.

I realise I don't want to give it another go. It was too much work and because of the bad communication, nothing ever got solved.

Just stating what happened so...

Its funny because Ive always taken time to get to know girls, more so this time.

I got friendly with her and after about 3 months we started dating for about 3 months then she actually said to me,...

His actions don't match his words.

He's putting you through this now. Hes meeting you and wanting to meet you yet still doesn't know what he wants. You also don't know where you stand.

How is...

Oh god, you're being played for a fool as much, if not worse than I am!

He doesn't know what he wants yet wants to see you. At least my ex made it clear she didn't know what she wanted but she...

Certainly did.

Why do some people do that?

I had a friend who got dumped, so on that weekend he went out and slept with a girl he'd met.

Is this something to learn from and look out for in...

Thanks I appreciate it.

It actually felt good not to cave!

After I spoke to her on the phone the other day and kind of suggested I won't be around she pretty much said fine, if you give us up...

Its funny you suggest this.

She actually called today in tears and said Ive made a huge mistake, I'm really sorry, I love you and want you back. I said, sorry but Im moving on with my life. She...

When and how will I stop being an idiot?

Please help.

I appreciate what you guys have said and in logic all your comments are valid but I feel hooked because she's simply stated she left me because she doesn't want me to put up with her .

Isn't this...

I appreciate what you're saying. Its just the fact that I never bothered with these girls while I had a girlfriend. I didn't really have any female friends, while she hung out with males but that was...

The girl was actually surprised when I turned her down. She wasn't offended but said, its OK for you to get out and hang out with female friends you know.

Whether sure likes me, Im only going for...

I guess the answers are quite important, but only for the 'want' to know them rather than a need.

What's causing the confusion is her sending mixed messages. First saying its over because she...

Ive made a mistake already.

Ive been NC for 3 days and my ex called me last night. I didn't answer. I later got a text saying 'I understand if your hurt, but Im really worried your going to meet...

Aha, this is why Ive been putting off too.

Hmm partying. My ex isn't actually doing anything. She's depressed and when she calls me daily and I ask what she's doing, she says she can't be bothered to do anything, she can't even be bothered...

Maybe talking to her seems legit.

But then he gets asked to dinner, then it becomes different.

Has he spoke to this woman before the party?

I wonder if he knew she was going.

Sorry man, but you really shouldn't lie to someone you love.

You've give her reason to mistrust you now, even if you want to prove yourself.

Don't go on the date, my ex pulled this same trick on me.

Wants to break up and be single, yet remain friends and talk. Cept she said possibly we'll give it a go when she's back home in 3 months....

Hmm this is a good point.

You know when one partner turns and blames the other for everything. We're breaking up because you do this, this, this and this.

Shouldn't that person take some...

Oh no, I understand what you're saying.

Just thought I'd bring up the topic of manipulation because sometimes the people being manipulated don't even realise.

You're right, she stated up front...

He said 'in the beginning she didn't know if she just wanted to be with ONE guy'

This is a huge red flag.

They were together for a while but they kept breaking up. I feel she may have had...

You really need to watch for this.

I'll explain a situation I was in a couple of years ago.

I'd never showed needy behaviour or jealousy before. Then I started dating this girl and she was very...

I can't imagine very many girlfriends would be suited with this.

Even if he was just looking for validation from another woman, this is very wrong. I wouldn't be able to trust somebody like this...

If you were single and you wished to go out and drink, lose your control. So be it.

When you have another persons feelings to consider, why be so selfish?

How old are you?

I suspect your...

Yeah I agree.

Its often, wah wah wah, why is he treating me so bad?

Unless the person has a history of being an abuser, he must have a reason for treating you bad.

Dead on.

Ive seen many situations like this. The person in question would realise their partner is of high value and possibly even out of their reach, this feels threatening because their partner...

I appreciate the words.

I think the most important aspect of all these situations is keeping your dignity right?

I always want to know the outcome before I make the decision, I realise this...

Wise words again, I love reading your posts.

It certainly does say a lot about a persons characte who cheats for one and also doesn't own up and take responsibility for their own actions.

Im in a similar situation but my ex stated she didn't want to see anybody else and suggested and though she then denied it that we each don't see anybody else, yet she still somehow has single...

Well then you're in a pickle.

Ask your parents why they dislike somebody so much who they've never even met.

I don't mean to victimise you but I really hope you get bitten on the arse for your...

Haha, people are pulling these tricks up and down the country.

Im am also in this 'trap'

When reading somebody else's post, it really hits home.

These people want to be 'single', but still...

A lot of girls who are 20 really have terrible conversation skills. A few years ago when I was 20 and had a girlfriend of the same age, she was terrible at speaking to my mother. She passed it off as...

I don't know, I just always feel I owe people an explanation. Ive always been like that.

Im really soft like that and I wish I wasn't. It leads me to being walked over, as has happened in the...

Hey that's great Talaniman, evidence.

Ive always dated girls whom I liked and rather than having evidence to commit to them or become exclusive, its mainly just happened because that seems the...

I mainly became miserable because of the opportunity I was given and so easily turned down.

Ive wanted to do this job for as long as I can remember and never thought I'd be presented with the...

Thanks guys!

As for the Talaniman rules.

Revoke their relationship privileges?

Is it fair to say that once somebody breaks up with you, they don't care about you anymore?

Even if this...

So I called her up tonight and told her what I thought about our situation.

I said we've agreed to wait for each other yet she maintains she is single. I asked what this meant and she said she...

Haha I love that expression.

best option is to either not have them on any social networking sites, or if you're completely over them, don't read too much into it.

People will do this for all sorts of reasons from my experience. An ex added me on Facebook a year and a half after we broke up. I was completely over her so thought I would be friendly an posted on...

This is extreme,

I can't believe you're longing for somebody who doesn't care at all about you. 'Everybody lies'? No they don't, everybody doesn't lie. If you convince somebody you love them for 6...

Kimberly sorry to hear your mother is in hospital. This is where you should focus your time right now, family is certainly more important than any young relationship.

Again on this Facebook thing....

I appreciate the advice,

She called me last night, just a general conversation asking about my day. Its as if we were going out, yet we are not. Before she hung up she said, I love you.

I know...

There was a piece on the news the other day about social sites such as Twitter and Facebook.

And the youth or young people of today's needs to share every event with all of their friends. An event...

The trouble I find with these situations is, its kind of a who did what first deal.

You have become great friends with her best friend and spending individual or private time together. I myself...

Hey guys,

I asked her straight up, don't you want us to see other people and she said no. If we're going to do this, we won't see other people, we wait for each other. She also stressed she...

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So as I stated in my previous post, I am in a rut. Im finally doing something about it. My girlfriend was right to ask for time apart but the situation has turned a little. She is...

Thanks guys.

Its not even just the possessive thing. Im miserable and she thinks its because she doesn't make me happy anymore. I really need to sort myself out for ME not just for the...

So yeah, over the last 6 months I've gotten really possessive which I hate, Im in a huge rut after graduating and not knowing where Im at, Im also quite grouchy about pretty much everything. Its been...