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wow. That was three years ago. It wasn't right, I loved him and he did me but we were not right. It takes two to make a relationship and I firmly believe that if one person is having to do all the...

Thanks, it went pretty well though I didn't really have that thing where I fancied him massively, but like the person above said - I didn't at first feel that way about my ex so have been willing to...

I just wish I knew what it was that made me happy. I have plenty of friends, I used to love my life that I had and I'm just not sure what it is that I want anymore. This new job will hopefully...

I have to say, I no longer love my ex, he hurt me too much and I know we are not compatible - if I know this, then why can I not move on?

Hello there,

I will summerise my situation - I haven't been on here for a little while but I found this site so useful when I went through the different stages in my break up I thought I would...

I'm confused, why do you want this man back? If he said he really liked you but wasn't sure and its 10 months ago you need to move on in your head and accept that he is not coming back. Concentrate...

I've had time to accept it was going wrong, the living apart for a year, he kept stalling on moving back in together, I gave it my best shot - but in the end I wasn't getting from him what I needed,...

3 years. We met through our group of friends - I have other friends but this is the main group where I live, it's a loarge group of people and I've seen them all separately and at different...

I know, but what to do about this meeting up thing? Its on my mind a lot lately - and I know that I'm not going to be able to avoid him forever, I'm doing a good job so far but there are things I am...

I am not sending this letter, we have been split up for nearly two months now. We have many mutual friends and I have been avoiding social situations where he is going to be - I do not want to do...

Yes I know that's for the best, thing is we have A LOT of the same friends, I hope that ONE DAY we'll be able to be around one another again. I mean I'm talking a lot of time, a year or so before I...

Hiya,

I have been crying when I've wanted to, isaw one of my best friends the other day and just sobbed my heart out which was nice. Im trying to not have any contact and have done pretty well. ...

No I know, its OK really. When I get stressed I can't eat much, I'm feeling much better now though and am eating properly again. Ive been stressed out about this for about 6 weeks in total so that's...

Yeah I do. I haven't ben going because I hadn't been eating properly ad would have fainted but I'm eating again now so I will go back.
Ive dropped a dress size without going to the gym. Amazing.

Im lucky I have a lot of friends, a lot of the ones where I live are his friends too though which is going to be tough in the future, for now I'm avoiding him for at least the next few months and...

Ive got a friend who is going through the same thing as me and we are there for one another which is nice, we are going away this weekend which will be good. Ive been OK, mostly... Every day I get...

I'm not keeping him around? I haven't spoken to him - we have some bits and pieces that need to be sorted out but I haven't seen him. Im not planning on contacting him, its just difficult to feel...

I go so up and down.

The last couple of days I've been really strong and now I just feel my chest tightening, I'm missing him.

I haven't heard from him since Friday so that's nearly 5 days, I...

You need to talk to her about it, it sounds like she does love you but she is confused - talking about making solid plans can scare people and she may be questioning her feelings for you, in love...

Ah see I disagree, I wouldn't want my aprtner reading EVERYTHING I wrote, I might have written something about him, I might have had a down day and not been sure about stuff and not wanted him to...

That's what you said to me. Hurts doesn't it.

Hmm yes true. I don't know, my ex never liked me having his passwords, I trusted him and I don't believe he ever did anything, its just that he liked to have some things just for him which I had to...

Or maybe she just didn't feel the same about you anymore as you said to me

I disagree, some people need privacy - for example, you might want to talk to a friend about your relationship, you should trust him you shouldn't need to have his passwords to prove that

I don't want this hurt. I'm tired of it. I've put up with so much rubbish over the past year and I feel dumb in a way... I text him last night (I was hammered) and said 'i hate you for making me...

Aaaand, we broke up.

Properly. About a week and a half ago.

We got back from a festival, my nan died the day after, he came over the day after that and we were talking, I could tell he...

you learn. I did that with my first relationship and now I make sure I make time for everyone. It is difficult but the odd weekend I will spend with my friends alone, my boyfriend will go see his...

Mckenzie, you are a real idiot. ALL FEMALES? Shut up you fool. No need for all the caps either, a point is better put across in a sentence that makes sense, isn't a complete generalisation and...

UPDATE.

Things have been going well. In the end our friends could come up with us on the holiday so it turned into more of a fun catch up holiday. My friend had a word with my boyfriend (that I...

I got annoyed once as I found a card from my boyfriends ex - saying ' to my darling blah blah blah (including his middle name!) - all the love in the world and back again, please come see me in...

Maybe I am crap, but what I mean is that I will usually contact him during the day by phone, if he's late ill call him to find out if he's OK, if we are out without one another ill usually text him...

We see one another obn arranged days - like ill see him usually fridays, sat and half of sun, then he comes to mine on tues and thurs - so should I stick to this do you think?

We are going away...

Yes. And I know I may be stupid for hanging around. He says that he loves me and sees a future for us and he's not sure why I put so much importance on living together, but for mei just feel like...

I saw him on Thursday evening, we talked. He thinks we would argue if we lived together but personally I think this is a screen because he feels that if we move in together that would be settling...

It is him I love, we have fun together, he's a lovely guy, I enjoy our relationship (apart from this) - I know we are young, but we have a pretty solid relationship and were best friends before we...

Not at all. And I know that. I've asked myself that question too. I am 25 and he is 24. I'm just not very good at breaking up with people, especially when I love him so much.

I agree, I just feel sick. Really sick. I'm at work at the moment and I'm trying not to cry.

IM just devastated as we have a lot of fun when we are together, I trust him implicitly which is...

He doesn't want to break up, he wants things to stay the same as they are. I need to see him really to talk about this all properly but for now I've said that I need him to make a decision, is it...

OK...

I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years - we have lived together in the past but about a year ago (we had been arguing) he said he didn't think it was a good idea for us to live together...

I think every one has jumped the gun here a bit, yes she was wrong for cheating on him, she confessed maybe to relieve her own guilt, but people unfortunately do make mistakes, maybe she wasn't sure...

I am quite an insecure person too - someone once said to me though, don't you ever look at other men in magazines and think they are nice looking? And if you do you don't think any more than that,...

I have been in a n office job for far too long, I'm 25 and want to do something else, something to increase my earning power and also something to give me a sense of achievement. I think learning to...

I keep in brief contact with my ex, he was a part of my life and part of my growing up we have both moved on but there are things that we have in common and still laugh about - the same with my...

Now this may seem daft, my boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years, get on very well when we are together, I see him 5 nights a week, on the nights I don't see him he calls me but we hardly...

Possibly. Maybe he gave her TOO much though? I just think not everything is black and white and whilst he did what she asked maybe it was too much and made her think he wasn't bothered

Could it be that she was looking for reassurance? The lack of contact could make her think that you do not care...

Is he sincere with his feelings do you think or is he someone who likes the romanticism of it all?

I think he did the right thing. No point in playing a game if she wasn't going to be interested in the long term. The way its been left they both know where they stand. Sad but just sounds like...

I don't think you have to share all view otherwise that would be pretty dull, just share similar outlooks on life I guess.

I can't answer your question for you, ijust think its got to crunch time...

- they make you happy
- you work well together, you can see yourselves building a life together
- you love them
- you want the same things, share views on many subjects
- you can be on your own...