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Every time she speaks, he always listens intently, and giggles like a little school boy. I can also tell by the way he talks about her and by the 'vibes' he puts out when she is around. I asked him...

Yes definitely leave her alone. When somebody asks for space, give it to them. If you don't it will backfire - the more you call, cling and beg, the more the person will want to run in the other...

Make him wait - preferably until marriage. That is a sure way to tell whether the guy really loves and respects you or not.

I concur. NC is a win/win situation. If it brings the person back, you win. If it doesn't, at least you are well on your way to a good recovery - therefore you win. I did it for 3 months - best...

Good job. Make sure you mean what you say, and you say what you mean. Be committed to follow through with your words and do exactly what you said you would do. Not only will she respect you more,...

G'day Ash. Yes I'm good. But I understand what the asker is going through, and how terrible it feels on the inside. But there is a solution to every problem.

Lorenzo is the lure that instigated this 'break'. I'm willing to bet my bottom dollar that she's 'trying things out' with him, and she's trying to keep you in the loop just in case things go to...

My friend, he is playing games. When something is slipping from our grasp, our natural instinct is to chase it. That is why you suddenly feel 'in love' with this bloke. Whether you realise it or...

There's not much you can do other than love and accept him for who he is warts and all. If you can't do that, then it's not true love.

Show him the picture of that bloke that chews tobacco and...

Well, good onya for quitting. I'm sure I could quit if I really wanted to, but I don't. Easy as that.

Yes it is wrong to ask her to be more pretty. Why? Because you are doing it for entirely the wrong reasons. You are trying to 'tweak' this poor girl into your ideal by getting her to adjust...

As obvious as it is to forgive oneself, it is often the hardest thing to do. It's easier to forgive others than ourselves - quite a strange contrast really isn't it, nevertheless I'm working on it.

You know there will be days you are strong and days when you are upset. Silly little rollercoaster of life.[/QUOTE]


Ha! Don't I know it! I've had weeks where I've felt on top of the world, then...

Heheh well why indeed? I don't know. Anyway, whatever happens happens. If the worst thing that could happen is he doesn't respond, or has a girfriend, or is hostile, it's really not so bad. I'm...

I did the deed. I broke no contact. I sent a quick message saying something like, 'hope all is going well with you and life is treating you well.' I felt the need to make amends because I threw...

All right, points taken, cheers all.

Knock some sense into me (in a constructive way preferably)

I've been on the straight and narrow and stuck like glue to my NC period since 9 December. I feel like I want to fall off the wagon and...

Nooooo! No and no. You are neither a fool, jerk or traditional. She has crossed the line, you have every right to feel this way. She is sharing things with this bloke that she should be sharing...

What's going on is, even though you've made positive steps in the right direction, (ie new life, new school, new job etc), sometimes it takes a little while longer for the brain (or heart should I...

Every valentines day I perform a 15 minute bellydance for all the couples having dinner together at the restaurant I usually dance at. I get to find a great piece of music, choreograph it, wear my...

It's hard to say what happened from your short paragraph, but the thing that grabs my attention is when you said "the reason she didnt change was because she didnt need to i did". It takes effort on...

In a situation like this, silence is golden. Don't 'settle' for friendship until you get to the point where you don't care whether he wants you or not. Being friends while you are still hoping for...

Don't go there. She has a boyfriend, and he might feel inclined repay the compliment with a knuckle sandwich.

No worries mate, I know exactly how you feel, I was dumped in the recent past as well.

G'day. When your friend told you to "wait it out" and show her that you have a life too and don't NEED her... pay attention, that's good solid advice. If you keep contacting her I can guarantee...

Brunette hair looks striking with a red dress. I'd go a choolate brown (if you have warm skintone) or ash brown (if you have a cook skintone), and go a couple of shades darker. My medium brown hair...

No I don't think it will work with curly hair, to see the effect of the colour the hair really needs to be straight, otherwise it will look like one big colourful mess. Sorry! That's my honest view.

The only person that seems to have a problem with it is your mother. If it doesn't bother either you or your boyfriend, don't give it a second thought.

I sometimes get frustrated with myself for thinking about my ex too, I still think of him a lot but I wish I wouldn't as well! Time will fix this, the only proplem with time is that it takes time.

Yeah it's a really hard thing to do, I've reached 60 days of no contact and I think I've learned more about myself and my relationships in that 60 days than I have in the last few years. It does...

While you are feeling lonely, desperate and needy you won't find love. Neediness and desperation will instantly repel guys and they can smell it a mile off. If you do find someone, you will attract...

The bottom line is, if he wanted to be with you, he would be with you now. Depression is possibly a cause of some of his indecision, but the fact still remains that a man would move mountains to be...

Sorry to say but you jumped in the sack with him way too quickly, this has obviously left you with feelings for him, and him just being plain confused.

Best thing to do is to just give him some...

A good hairdresser will be able to tell you what would look good with your complexion. You are very lucky you have dark skin and hazel eyes - almost any colour will look good with that!

A site...

Warm weather makes hair grow quite a bit faster. If it's cold where you live, scalp massage can help too, oh and don't cut it :)

NC is no contact. It's all about refraining from contacting your ex, as this will enable you to move on and heal faster.

I can sympathise with what you are going through, like yourself I wouldn't mind a few answers either. Even though I've staunchly stood by the no contact rule and reached 60 days (yeah!), I still...

Whether you realise it or not, what you discovered is actually a good thing. Even though it hurt like hell, the reality is, it showed her true colours - she is a player. The adage goes - the truth...

I have reached day 41 of no contact. Even though I feel like some days I take 3 steps back and 1 forward, over the past couple of days something has awakened inside of me - I'm free! No more...

No it's not being selfish at all. As a matter of fact, thinking of yourself is the very least you can do, especially while you go through this horrible phase. We all need to be our own best friend,...

I was going well for a while there, but this week I feel like I've taken 10 steps back and one forward. I'm making so much progress, and all I want to do is tell him! And when I realise he's gone,...

Don't beat yourself up over checking your email every 10 minutes, I did it too! You are going through a very crappy period in your life so be kind to yourself and cut yourself some slack. Try and...

I'm now up to day 35 with no contact. This has been the hard road, but it's been worth it. I've learned much and grown a great deal, I feel stronger than I have for a long time, but I'm not out of...

Yes you will be in a much nicer place in a couple more weeks, just do what you need to do to work it out of your system. I've been writing him letters that I will never send, and that all helps too....

Some tips to help people let go of their loved one.

I would like to bring you up to the next stage of my journey - and possibly the hardest part, letting go. I've let go in the physical sense,...

Keep going with the no contact, I know it's murder, and you are not pathetic, you are behaving like someone who has just had their heart broken, we have all been through that. I still check my email...

Thank you, George, that was a good read.

Well done for your first day of NC. Take it one day at a time, some days will be easier than others and other days will be absolute murder, take it from me, but you must remain strong. I can...

I've just come to the realisation that he won't come back. This is immensely painful, the only thing that numbed the pain is the hope that he would come back. If he wanted me he knows where to find...

Oh I wish I was so strong, but unfortunately I'm not. I've been secretely holding on to the hope that he might come back, but he won't. If he wanted to come back he would have by now. I miss him so...