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If you haven't picked up on it already, many of here are asking a very specific question - why do you want to be with her?

Take a look at yourself, man. You can do better. You may not believe it...

Update time! I've lost almost 50 lbs, my pants are falling off my ever-shrinking butt, and I'm happier than I've been in years. Not just with my progress, but with my life overall. My job just...

You mentioned she wasn't happy with your body/weight. Have you worked on that at all, or at least talked to her about that? For some people it's not just the outward appearance as much as it is the...

My post may sound harsh, but I want to make it clear that it is not my intention to make you feel bad about yourself or imply that you are not a good person.

Your partner is a well-educated,...

You are both at a point in your lives where you're really just beginning to form more intimate relationships with other people. It's healthy to explore these experiences, but it's also very...

Another update. I've secured a roommate and my ex found a new place to live. We've remained amicable throughout the process and are both looking forward to having our own spaces to heal and move...

Sigh... again... it's not your place to determine if she "comes to her senses" or not.

She is her own person. She has a right to do whatever she wants to do and be whoever she wants to be.

The...

I know it's hard to accept, but it's none of your business anymore. If she's not your girlfriend, she's not "hiding" from you - she's just choosing not be around you. That's her right, and you...

Facebook recently made some policy changes that require profile pages to made with a person's real name. Many performers (including Belly Dancers) use stage names for their profiles and are being...

I think you should take some time to evaluate yourself in this situation. You sound incredibly insecure and your behavior (going through her phone, getting angry when she talks to her ex) is only...

Thanks Chuck. In fairness to her, she communicated her concerns on this to me years ago, and I chose to stick around and try and make it work. I believed it wasn't just an attraction issue but a...

Wanted to give a quick update.

I'm keeping the place and have a lot of roommate options lined up thanks to Craigslist. She'll be moving out by the first of November, and until then we've been...

Couple things -

1) She's not your girlfriend anymore. She's not "hiding" anything from you; it's not your business what she's doing, where she's going, or who she's with.

2) If someone...

This should be a big red flag for you. Everyone feels certain insecurities in a relationship, but this one is essentially brand new.

It's fine to help each other with finances in an emergency,...

It's easy to fall into the trap of making yourself available for someone who isn't. Any relationship, even a friendship, should be based on mutual needs and respect.

My advice is that you take...

Do you feel that you are contributing enough? I ask because your post is highly focused on what your partner wants, how you think she feels, and you seem like you're trying to accommodate her needs...

Don't focus on "what happened" or "what you did wrong." Relationships rarely end because one person did something wrong, especially in just two months.

A healthy relationship requires honesty...

Thanks Tal. I talked to some co-workers and a few friends but the soonest I could make anything work with those guys is at least 2 months. Last we talked she was also looking but didn't give me a...

Hi everyone.

As the title states, I'm single again after almost five years. I came to this site after my last breakup and the community here really helped me heal. In reading my old posts I've...

There is an unfortunate reputation of infidelity between soldiers and significant others when deployed.

No one knows the situation better than the two of you and there are a lot of factors that...

Not sure about other branches but all forms of army (active, reserves, and natl guard) all go to the same basic training.

In most cases they also go to the same AIT (post-basic training) but...

I went to ft Jackson for basic back in 2005. Now serving as inactive ready reserves. Best advice I can give you is what my uncle told me - mouth shut, ears open.

Ft Jackson is where the drill...

Funny thing about emotions - there is no logic, no sense, no perceivable pattern to discern. Many times while we are still "in the moment" it's easy to imagine a life with someone. The problem is,...

Seems to me you want to keep your options open until you make a decision. While I understand why you would want to do this, you have to understand that your partner deserves a clear, straight...

You at least admitted that you "took such a simple thing too far" so I'd say your head is mostly in the right place. Ultimately, it's your friends decision whether to accept the olive branch you've...

There are many variables to this situation, but I'd say if you are asking about it then you're probably a bit insecure about it. And as such, perhaps you should re-evaluate yourself and consider...

Also, take the time to evaluate yourself and figure out why you want to be an actress. This is a pivotal time in your life, and many people set their minds to a single goal early on only to find...

Let the girl make her choice. If she chooses your friend, then you should be a good enough friend to accept her choice and maintain a friendship with both of them. If she chooses you, then...

You said it yourself - you don't trust him. Your relationship cannot be successful without trust. Since there are children involved, naturally that makes the situation more difficult. Having come...

I hate to admit it, but I used to be that guy. I partied all the time, absorbed myself into videogames, worked a minimum wage job with little responsibility. Essentially, I never wanted to grow up....

Ok. First, I'd recommend actually having a conversation with this girl to see if a friendship is even possible. It's very possibly you could be misinterpreting her "glances" because of your own...

There is nothing wrong with you. You're at a pivotal point in your life right now, a time that most people use to figure themselves out and learn about how they fit into the bigger picture.

I...

Listen, I know we all come from different walks of life, and have different experiences, but how could anyone actually encourage this guy to live his entire live based on a lie?

Look, the fact is,...

Also, since I can't rate the rest your answer again, you should not try to press your sexual beliefs on various posters here. How you became an expert while being such a closed-minded individual is...

Until you can interact with your ex without any hopes of getting back together, you should remain No Contact. For some people, this only takes a few months; for others it can take years. There are...

Depends the state, but the age of consent in most places is 16. As long as the adult isn't too much older (2 ~ 4 years depending on the state) it's usually acceptable.

You should be ok,...

I gotta say, man, if you cheated on her, then you're fooling yourself a bit with your emotions here.

The simple fact is, if you really loved her and wanted to be with only her, then you would. ...

No Contact is probably one of the most difficult challenges a person can face, in my opinion. I can guarantee that she still thinks about you just as much as you think about her; she might not act...

You're right on about talking to people. Just make sure you let it be a conversation, and not a one-way rant ;)

You'll get through it man. And you'll make some dumb choices along the way. But...

Lessons to learn from this:

1. Don't move in with each other right away. A healthy relationship needs a good foundation, and this can't happen if you never get time apart.

2. Never give a...

This has been an interesting story to read. I think it's great that you could write out all that you've learned from this experience, but make sure you are truly accepting it and living it.

One...

Also, I would suggest taking a look at yourself in this situation. You were willing to throw away a marriage and basically your entire life to be with this person? Not to mention, someone you had...

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If you really did accept her the way she was then you wouldn't have had a problem with her lack of emotional expression. You probably came off sounding needy and this would have put...

You made the mistake of lying in the first place. It is entirely his decision whether to forgive you. You admit that you were wrong, and that is good; but ultimately, he has to decide for himself...

The cure is to realize your own self-worth, man. You are insecure with yourself for whatever reason. Find the things about you that you don't like, and if you can change them, do so. If you can't...

Thanks for all the responses, folks. It's nice to know that I have a good group to turn to whenever I need help with a confusing situation.

I've had a couple days to put things in perspective,...

This is what I'm afraid will happen. I just wish I was on even ground with the people I have to live with. If our guests have a certain opinion, that's fine, not everyone is going to like me and I...

Hi folks. Just to get this out of the way, I absolutely despise drama. I hate the he said/she said gossip and talking behind people's backs with a passion. Here's my situation.

I invited a...

Doesn't matter. She made the choice. She decided to break up with you, without explanation, without any consideration for your feelings, and without any respect for your emotions.

You need to...

You don't have a blood relation because you don't share any ancestors with her.

You can still be a good uncle to her though ;)

~ Tee