confused

gafore · #1 Feb 2, 2003, 03:42 PM

hello,
PLEASE HELP ME SOON!

i need some good honest advice.....
there is this guy i work with we are pretty good friends..
I think at one point he definitely had a crush on me..

I had two reasons for not inclining in any way that I may of been interested....1) i work with him
2) cultural differences between us.....I was born in US...he was not.....

he is a nice person and cares for me as a friend for sure....
i know you would say if you like him then go for it....however....it really bothers me that he has an accent is not as cultured as me.....

Now, i think i may have feelings for him but since im not currently dating or seeing anyone i dont know if im just falling for him since he is my friend and he's right there.
Im just really confused.

also, i may never see this person again as you know how people lose touch once you no longer work together...

please help

Makaylha · Feb 27, 2003, 02:17 PM

First you should really get over the fact that he has a strong accent. As long as you can understand him he's doing fine. Remember that your ancestors didn't just come out speaking proper English.

Makaylha · Feb 27, 2003, 02:21 PM

Also, keep in mind that this could be a once in a life time opprotunity for you. Everything is. Keep in mind that you are not looking for a life long relationship immediately with this person so if things go badly you can just break it off. On a cautionary note however, if you feel that having a relationship with this person may jepordize your work....don't do it!

noredine · Mar 1, 2003, 04:56 PM

There is a kernel of truth that "cultural differences"may block the natural progress of any (love) relationship.But itis dangerous to reduce any intercultural differnce to a conflict b/ w cultures.However sensitive your issue,you should handle it with great delicacy and present it in a calm,fair-minded manner.I think you can meet this challenge
God Bless
Noredine

chaz1797 · May 16, 2003, 02:11 AM

you know get a life what if he has a cuktural difference or accent, what matters is what the heart says...........if I was him I wouldn't evan bother with you and let you live your own life

schuylervj · Sep 3, 2003, 03:01 PM

Do yourself, and him a big favor: Stay friends but do not get involved. You would always find some criticism of him, some fault, regarding the "cultural differences" between you, and judging him by his accent. Did it occur to you that to him, YOU have an "accent?" Also, having a personal relationship with someone you work with every day is a very bad idea...leave it alone and find someone more suited to you and your ideas of culture...

1finediva · Sep 25, 2003, 02:22 PM

listen if you cant handle the fact that you two have cultural diffences and he has an accent then how in the world are you gonna get in a relationship????? do him a favor and just be his friend because someone that cant accept him as he is doesn't need to be his girlfriend!! THINK ABOUT IT?



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