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The closer Pete and I get the more I fall for him. I have wanted to say "I love you" to him for a couple of weeks now. It nearly came out last night but I stopped myself.
He has told me he misses me when I go home at night and I told him I felt the same, he has also told me I am the best thing thats ever happened to him. I always find my eyes welling up with tears at crucial moments because I am so happy.
It's something I want to say and somedays I feel I just want to burst and tell the whole world that I love him (sounds stupid, but thats how I feel) - but I can never quite bring myself to say it.
My friends say I need to wait for him to say it first; and I perhaps think it may be a little early in the relationship to be saying it (which may be why I am holding back) - but I just wondered what all of your thoughts may be on the subject?! Pete and I have been together for over 4 months now.
Damn it, it's not a contest, there are no rules. Go ahead but pick your moment. Four months would be ok for me as a guy to hear or say that. For the record I said it first but I have quite a bit of self-confidence due to being a little older.
Hi,
In the last many years, I have known 3 or 4 couples who eventually didn't get married, simply becuase neither one wanted to say "I love you". It's true!
They went their separate ways, and never would have known if the other loved them or not. All the signs were there, but it never happened.
Four months isn't a very long time when compared to a lifetime. Give it some time. Some go together for a whole year before they realize they are in really in love.
There is nothing wrong with a woman telling a man she loves him. And, vice versa. I don't know of any cultural ideas about a man has to say it first. If you know you really love this man, just tell him. If he doesn't feel the same way, he will let you know. Hopefully, he will say the words right back to you!
Well what about valentines day? He told me last night that he has planned something, a surprise. So perhaps that may be the night, I can just pick the right moment then?!
I dont see what the big deal is... if you love him, tell him. Its that simple. Ima guy so I may have different thoughts about this... but the first time you say "I love you" isnt a day you mark on your calendar, is it??
I wouldnt advise waiting for him to say it... seems to me that men will be more relucant than women to say the first "I love you."
If the FIRST time isnt as important to you than just the freedom to be able to say it when you feel it, just slip one in there sometime when he does something nice for you. If you say it and mean it in a "perfectly natural, normal" way (hehe.... The dad from the American Pie movies.... best dad on earth lol) then Im sure he will just go with the flow.
DJH from what your posting it sounds like this guy means alot to you. I see nothing wrong with you telling him that you LOVE HIM, it makes no diffrence if you say it first our he does.
And no your not stupid your just happy in love, don't keep those feelings all bottled up, let them out im sure from the way you say your both so close he won't be shocked.
Do you txt one another often ?? If so why not try and drop it out in the end of a txt "I LOV U" !! Ok its not face to face or personal but you will get a feeling of what he txt's you back. That just one idear any way....Hope all goes well for you both.
Maybe Valentines Day is that special day? Do not rush it. Let it be natural. If it is the right time you will know. Or if its not. You both show each other how much you care for each other. Everything else will come. Enjoy Valentines Day with your Hunny. Early Happy Valentines day!
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