My ex and I dated for about 3 years starting in our 11th grade year, and ending about a month ago, just as we were about to start our second year of college. We made it through one year of going to colleges about 45 minutes apart with no problems, it made our relationship stronger. We were very happy with each other even the morning when we broke up, but in the heat of a fight we decided we should break up, I asked her the next day if we should get back and she said No but that she was open to getting back together, she just wanted to be single and see if this is what she wants. I asked her and all of her friends if it was another guy, or if she was interested in looking for another guy and she said no that was the last thing she was looking to do.
I decided to give her space and we haven't talked for a month, I still don't think she is ready to talk so I'm going to give her more space, but at the same time, I'm always thinking about her. Should I just move on? Or should I continue to give her space and try to get her back after another month or two?
If she hasn't contacted you in a month, it sounds like she's moved on with her life already. But even if she hasn't attempted to contact you within the last month, she already told you that she didn't want to get back together the day after you broke up. That already tells us that she's ready to give up on you and risk loosing you. If she's ready to risk loosing you, then she already started moving on with her life at that moment.
She only told you that she's open to getting back together in the future because it was still early in the breakup. It's a normal feeling to have. Furthermore, you shouldn't read too much into that line because it just means that you're her backup plan. She wants to be single and go experiment. If her experiments don't go well, she can always come back to you because you're waiting around for her. Don't be her backup plan.
It looks like it's definitely over between you and her, you have been 3 years together and she in college, she most probably wants to see what is out there.
3 years is a long time and it's going to be very hard to heal and get over it but it can be done (I was able to get over it, and she broke up with me horribly). You need to start healing, go out, do tons of sport, meet new people... you will see that your life will get better if you continue to apply NC and take care of yourself.
I too believe it's over between you two. I don't think you want to be with a girl who second guesses having you in her life. Take this opportunity to grow into a stronger person.
I would not try to get her back. I wouldn't plan on it. She wouldn't risk losing you if she truly loved you. Sorry bud
I asked her the next day if we should get back and she said No but that she was open to getting back together, ?
Don't pay attention to this comment as it's a way for Dumpers to ease away slowly , it makes it easier on you at the beginning of the breakup and eases their guilt.
If you're trying to go NC, it's best to de-friend your ex on facebook. No need to continue to see their page and get status updates even if you're not talking to them.
Facebook is a tool to get updates about your ex. If updates about your ex and affects your daily routine because you give extra thought to it, then it's hindering your progress by adding to the confusion. As a result, it's counter-productive to the recovery process.
There are exceptions where getting updates about the ex won't affect the person involved, but why take the risk? If you're going NC, go full force. No point having tools that would hurt or slow down your progress.
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