See my response to "Porn"  Your boyfriend is living in a fantasy land and if you don't wake up your going to waste a great deal of your time and energy.  One day he will wake up and realize his own quagmire.  Don't let his incapacities ruin another day of your life. You are too important!  There is a whole world out there so don't live it in a box!   Get Out! Get On! and Get moving!  Repeat after me "I don't need this nonsense"  (recite 2x daily)