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Ok so you have all been following the events of Pete, my unborn baby and I for some time now.
Pete and I have been apart for 6months now and I have given him nothing but space and have been very patient towards him and not pressured him into anything.
In that 6months Pete (himself) off his own back has been to scans with me, talked openly about wanting to be a dad, opened up to me about his worries and concerns, and recently attended parent craft with me. We also talk about out unborn daughter with eachother, friends & family as OUR DAUGHTER, OUR THIS & OUR THAT. Pete even mentioned family holidays etc
We hung oiut together with two of his friends recently who are now also expecting a baby and he was flirting and having a giggle with me just like old times. We can chat for england everytime we meet and Petes parents have said he always seems happy when he has been spending time with me and just being with me - yet miserable when he has not seen me.
There is for definate sparks flying left right and centre between us even after all this time. And he really has worked through a lot of his issues and I am starting to see once again ther Man I fell in love with.
I am reluctant to make any kind of move as I don't want to undo the progress we have made, or make him feel pressured, but want to somehow let him know (in a suttle & ndiscreet manner) that I still love him. Things between us are on the right track, but I want to stay there and keep things moving and progressing! Should I just carry on as I have been, and let things happen naturally?
so \i spent 3hrs with Pete tonight. Had a text message shortly after he finshed work asking me if he could have a play with my car... I told him was more than welcome./ I gave him the keys and watched him manoevr my car off of my driveway to his. He then pulled out a Haines manual and a box of parts. He only went to the Auto store after he finished work and bought everything required to give my car a fulll service and the haines manual is to figure out what is causing my car to kangeroo and over rev and he is determined to fix it. He wants no money for the parts or anything.
So I kept him company and supplied plenty cups of tea and lots of chocolate!! - I am seeing him again tomorrow for the next stages of the service to be done to my car and he plans to work on nit for the rest of te week = perhaps I ought to offer to cook for him by way of saying thank you and showing appreciation - is that going too far or do you think under the circumstances it would go down well. Does not neccessarily have to be him coming round to mine for a specific meal - I could always just cook for him and pop it next door for him to eat when he chooses/
What do you think??? He does like my cooking - especially ,my home made Macaroni Cheese - yum yum lol
Better wait until the car is done in case you make him too fat to crawl under it. Seriously a meal is a good gesture to show appreciation for his attention and help. Let me know when, so a few of us can chaperone. ( okay we love mac and cheese too, so what?)
Things are going pretty good, huh?
Just so you know he may be using the car as an excuse to be around you. Shhhh!! A week hmmm!
Better wait until the car is done in case you make him too fat to crawl under it. Seriously a meal is a good gesture to show appreciation for his attention and help. Let me know when, so a few of us can chaperone. ( okay we love mac and cheese too, so what?)
Things are going pretty good, huh?
Just so you know he may be using the car as an excuse to be around you. Shhhh!! A week hmmm!
Yeah I kinda guessed he was using the car as an excuse to spend time with me - I was really chuffed deep down. I will definately let you know before I do the meal - I think some guidence from a few of you is a tip top idea; don't want to do or say something wrong. especially now.
Go slow, Eyes and mind open, wide open. You've done an excellent job thus far. Don't be chuffed, at Pete about the car though, any man would do the same.
in case you havent heard it enough lately, youre doing a great job.
sounds like pete is getting a little more grounded. thats good news.
just dont fret about saying or doing the wrong thing too much. in the end, you are you and fighting it is unnatural. petes hurt you in the past. fine. if you were my sister id have wanted to put him up against the wall more than once... hell, youre not my sister and i still have wanted to do that. =)
but in the end... i think youre getting to the place where you simply need to know. if he blows it again, then you know. if he steps up, then you know. i do think one thing seems clear... sounds like hes excited about the baby.... and that means you will have a relationship with him that is close. im not sure it will be everything you wanted... im not sure it wont... but once that child is born you will both be amazed and in awe with a new kind of love, and youll both share it.
so dont fret about the details too much now. if you say something "wrong" i think youre entitled to it after all youve put up with.
Well .... after much advice, careful stepping and waiting and moving slow I am pleased to announce that things have finally worked out! we are Persuing things slowly and still have a long way to go but we are together and thats all that matters.
Thank you to everyone for all your help and support - I am still taking your advice and still being careful, but just really please that things have worked out for the best.
Holly took it slow - up and owns. Didn't push (oh but she wanted to) - SPACE. Let Pete woking things out in his head.
She was busy with her life. She planned things with out him just in case.
I know she had ups and major downs......but let a really simple principle OF LOVE work out for her.....she was there for Pete - regardless how he acted - a friend. Slowly - no pushing. She loved Pete unconditionally - even though he would not give her love back.
I know this takes a lot of TIME - people don't relaizes, get upset and make major mistakes.
Yes it is a great story and im sure everyone is as delighted for you as you are. But im also sure everyone now would still implore you to go slow and continue to put yours and your daugthers health and well being first and continue down the path you have taken with pete that has worked so wonderfully well so far!!
Please keep us informed!
you are not completely out of the woods yet as i am sure there is still along way to go for pete to completely regain your trust. Take it slow and im sure that will come!
Seriously a meal is a good gesture to show appreciation for his attention and help. Let me know when, so a few of us can chaperone. 
( okay we love mac and cheese too, so what?)
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