Ok so you have all been following the events of Pete, my unborn baby and I for some time now.

Pete and I have been apart for 6months now and I have given him nothing but space and have been very patient towards him and not pressured him into anything.

In that 6months Pete (himself) off his own back has been to scans with me, talked openly about wanting to be a dad, opened up to me about his worries and concerns, and recently attended parent craft with me. We also talk about out unborn daughter with eachother, friends & family as OUR DAUGHTER, OUR THIS & OUR THAT. Pete even mentioned family holidays etc

We hung oiut together with two of his friends recently who are now also expecting a baby and he was flirting and having a giggle with me just like old times. We can chat for england everytime we meet and Petes parents have said he always seems happy when he has been spending time with me and just being with me - yet miserable when he has not seen me.

There is for definate sparks flying left right and centre between us even after all this time. And he really has worked through a lot of his issues and I am starting to see once again ther Man I fell in love with.

I am reluctant to make any kind of move as I don't want to undo the progress we have made, or make him feel pressured, but want to somehow let him know (in a suttle & ndiscreet manner) that I still love him. Things between us are on the right track, but I want to stay there and keep things moving and progressing! Should I just carry on as I have been, and let things happen naturally?

DJ 'H'

okies - so Pete and I attened parent craft tonight, which was quite fun and educational - made us able to decide on a few things together! After we had a good chat about random things - had a giggle and just generally enjoyed eachothers company! ... 1hr & half later I received a text, it was from Pete asking me if I would like to go round his for a meal on Friday! ... I have accepted and if honest (wwithout getting hopes too high) I AM OVER THE MOON WITH EXCITEMENT .... but remaining calm and dignified with it!!!! ... ALL OPINIONS WELCOME!

Skell

Great Holly. Really great.
He seems to be really coming along and i think it is all to do with how you have been handling him and the whole situation.

there has been no pressure. you seem like you have been nothing but fun and happy around him and overall have just dealt with this so magnificently that well that perhaps he is starting to wonder what a great person he let go.

But i too hope you dont get your hopes too high just yet and continue to go down the path you have been.

it is nice to hear though. and a little exciting.

DJ 'H'

Thanks Skell - I could not have done it wihtout the support of everyone here at AMHD. I will not deny how hardwork it has been being patient with Pete - but it has proven to me that you do have to make some sacrifices and just do what needs to be done in order to get what you want out of life; it requires, hardwork, perservence, patience and above all else effort! ... I know Pete and I are not quite there yet and we still have a long way to go before I can let my guard down completely - but girls I am living proof that men do not want to be pressured, nagged and moaned at - and the biggest thing of all is to leave the past in the past! and as Wildcat always says TAKE THINGS SLOW - Sometimes things are worth waiting for and if it means biting your tounge and playing the waiting game so be it; I say

DJ 'H'

I have to say I have learnt a lot about myself in the last 6 months and I have also learnt a lot about Pete. They say time is what it takes to get to know someone and if I am honest I feel a lot closewr to Pete now (even though we are not together) than I ever dids before when we were. I feel that on some level we have really tested eachother and pushed eachother to limits that would have torn some people aprt - but somehow we are still talking and working together to learn about parenting and in my book that says alot - even if we do just end up good friends! ... my outlook on life is so different - I really feel like I have grown as a person.

Skell

Thats right, but dont be a walk over either. you still have to be your own person and have your own opinions and needs. You have to have a voice as well.

it is about balance! Finding the right balance!

DJ 'H'

Trust me, there is no worries there - I can assure you?! - I am very head strong and a complete individual to say the least - and lets just say say if there is ever a need my voice is heard loud and clear?! - have just learned there is a time & a place and that sometmes a tactful approach is better.
I am still me - would just like to think I have improved myself and become an even better me!

Wildcat21

Yep - ALWAYS take them slow.

Every day here we have people who have crashed and burned - because the rush things, put undue presure on the other person (something they wouldn't do in 1 million years IF they knew the out come) - want something so bad and they push for it way too hard.

Wildcat21

Make sure to be a little bit of a challenege - don't always go running to him because HE says he wants to do something - don't answer evey call - don't be obligated to return every text. Be busy.

People want wha tthey can't have.

Now this doesn't mean totally shut him out - but have a life.

Jesushelper76

Hello Holly,

Long time no hear. I am happy to hear that you and your little one are doing really good and are healthy. That is so good to hear. It is good to hear that you and pete are just being your selfs with each other and just going with the flow. I agree with what others have said. Have patience and no pressure. Having a baby is enough pressure on its own then having to worry about everything else.

Joe

DJ 'H'

Thats why I did not respond to his text straight away. I left him hanging for half an hour before replying with a yes!