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We have a relationship of 3 years. He always said he wanted everything with me, house, children...a happy life. But he still married with 2 teenagers. He's wealthy and afraid to lose half of it because of my pregnancy.
He wants this baby, and I know he loves me. He supports me in everything, money etc. But he still in that marriage and also wants to keep our relationship as happy as nothing has changed.
The problem its that I'm not happy, I'm really mad at me and at him for not making the decision to leave them...or leave me. I told him I can't keep up with this fairytale because it's not only me to think of, it's this baby I'm worried about .
He makes me feel like I'm overreacting and my "Hormones" are in big play in all my moodyness lately/
I need some advice, I can't ask my friends about it...I'm really lonely in this decision and very sad. It's hard to leave him because he's a great man. But I'm so mad at him right now I can't think straight.
your main concern right now is your health and well being of your unborn child. the emotional rollercoaster is causing undue added stress. being unhappy isnt conducive to a healthy pregnancy. both mother and child can be affected he's gonna do what he wants. you need to be the grown up and put the baby ahead of him. If it were me, I'd cut him loose, see an attorney regarding child support.at present nothing is stopping him from walking out on his responsibility toward the child. it takes two to tango and sometimes the piper doesn't get paid.
As for saying your over reacting and blaming it on hormones, he's in essence blaming you for for putting him on the spot. He's feeling guilty for two timing you and his wife. Without passing judgement, you know in your heart of hearts you were taking a chance with a married man. n ow its time to step up to the plate and do whats right.
I will go with the first poster, you have brought this on yourself by accepting his lies and lying to yourself,
He wants to be married, and so he values his money more than you. You are just another thing and he will never leave his wife for you. You need to be sure and sue him for child support to take care of the child.
Honestly, I think that anyone who ever says they have never been attracted to another married person will someday be in that place. Just because there is a ring, doesn't mean that you are less attracted to someone. If there are sparks, there are sparks. It is really up to you past that if you are going to persue something that is really usually a worthless travel. I feel for you because this is a hard place to be. Once you cross the line, your heart is never the same and now there is a baby in between. The only thing I can think to offer is: Are you prepared to do it alone in case he doesn't leave her? Being pregnant and alone can take a toll, and it might do some bad things to your mind. Also, is he going to tell the wife? How will she take the news of a new baby so late in his life (if he has teens.)? You are not alone no matter what. There are plenty of people that have been in a similar situation, and live with thier demons silently. I am proud of you for admitting that you need help and that you know you made a mistake. Takes a bigger person to admit that than to judge. By far it is much easier to judge and place blame.
We have a relationship of 3 years. He always said he wanted everything with me, house, children...a happy life. But he still married with 2 teenagers. He's wealthy and afraid to lose half of it because of my pregnancy.
He wants this baby, and I know he loves me. He supports me in everything, money etc. But he still in that marriage and also wants to keep our relationship as happy as nothing has changed.
The problem its that I'm not happy, I'm really mad at me and at him for not making the decision to leave them...or leave me. I told him I can't keep up with this fairytale because it's not only me to think of, it's this baby I'm worried about .
He makes me feel like I'm overreacting and my "Hormones" are in big play in all my moodyness lately/
I need some advice, I can't ask my friends about it...I'm really lonely in this decision and very sad. It's hard to leave him because he's a great man. But I'm so mad at him right now I can't think straight.
Yumita.
In my eyes the smuck wants his cake and to eat it to. Your not happy, his wife and kids would not be happy if they had a clue.
He is a great man? that line really gets me -- he is cheating on his family and taking advantage of your love.
My gut tells me you are quite a bit younger than him.
If you where my sister I would tell you to move on -- there are plenty of good guys out here
Why can't you ask your friends about? Are you afraid they are going to critize you? Its sad you have to sleep with a married man then second, getting pregnant. Obviously he is sticking with his wife so you to be strong and do it on your own. I mean when your child grows up what are you going to tell it? "I was the mistress of your father and we are one big happy family" I think not!!!!!
all you should worry about is your baby and child support, if he evr leaves his wife and you still have feeling then you should go after him but, just deal with your baby and make sure it has everything it needs.
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