4 Months NC.Situation came up.

kuulski · #1 Dec 18, 2007, 06:23 AM

Hi guys,

Well I have been great with NC havent been trying to contact my ex at all havent spoken to her since August. I have been meeting people online and socializing with people and met this girl. Well the girl is beautiful and I like her but while we were talkin yesterday she told me where she works at MY EX'S JOB! Thats not the best part my ex TRAINED her and they are not BEST FRIENDS but they are kuul. I know the answer i guess but just wanted to get feed back from you guys and some opinions. Me and my ex broke up in June and went NC in August. No cheating or trust issues just kind of got burned out I guess I went through allot in the past year 2 deaths my brother and my best friend who was murdered by my other best friend. Oh and all my pets died this year 2! Well I went to therapy some of you are familiar with my situation. I have been doing great but I am sure u guys would know this has thrown me into a loop. Not just the fact that I like this girl but also the fact that her working with my ex kind of brought up some emotions. She goes well why didnt work out? She is such a nice girl etc... HELP!! lol

George_1950 · Dec 18, 2007, 06:38 AM

Just my opionion, but your new gf is too close to the fire; don't go there.

kuulski · Dec 18, 2007, 06:44 AM

Yea I have been leaning that way but she is not my gf just somebody I have been talkin to. Nothing major YET but it could be. Crazy thing is I kind of feel bad because I know it wasnt intentional I didnt even know where she worked until we talked a couple times and even then I didnt think it would be the same company same dept same area lol.

kuulski · Dec 18, 2007, 07:06 AM

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Fair warning, women compare notes, and you will never know.

Thats true. Just kind of threw me into a loop about my ex etc..

mafiaangel180 · Dec 18, 2007, 07:14 AM

You got some good advice. Women do compare notes. You are definately too close to the fire. Seriously, if it isn't a relationship yet, don't even seek one out with this girl. This could only get weird....imagine the company Christmas party....

kuulski · Dec 18, 2007, 07:19 AM

Yes I agree with you guys 1000 percent. The girl is nice and cute and all but I would never want to hurt my ex regardless of what we have been through. I still love her very much and miss her 2. I have been doing good tryin to focus on other things but I couldnt believe it when this girl told me that. I was like what kind of F%^$ luck is this? lol

George_1950 · Dec 18, 2007, 07:22 AM

You sound good to me, but let me stir the pot a little more: personally, I don't believe in coincidences, in life or anywhere. So, we don't know how this came about. So how is NC working for you? Has it been 'pure vanilla' NC, or some variation? Thanks

kuulski · Dec 18, 2007, 07:39 AM

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Originally Posted by George_1950

You sound good to me, but let me stir the pot a little more: personally, I don't believe in coincidences, in life or anywhere. So, we don't just how this came about. So how is NC working for you? Has it been 'pure vanilla' NC, or some variation? Thanks

Thanks for asking. It has been good I have been able to focus on myself and my daughter and my home more. We have had complete NC I dont know what u mean by pure vanilla but we dont speak at all No text, No calls etc.. since august. I do miss her allot and when this situation popped up it kind of opened that can of worms. I dont believe in coincidences either which is why i was up all nite wondering what god might be trying to tell me. I dont want to call her or email her or anything. She doesnt want to talk to me and if did she has my numbers. The last thing I need is to deal with more rejection.

George_1950 · Dec 18, 2007, 07:50 AM

'Pure vanilla' is "complete NC"; no t.m., i.m., friends, family, face-to-face dinners, etc. ad nauseum. Congratulations on your accomplishments because I believe you will be a much stronger and wiser man for having gone through this the way you are doing it.



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