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dealing with distance, situation, age difference, and her dad.
alright... i'm going to give this a shot, i'm going to ask something.... my girlfriend lives in another state, my town to hers is roughly a 10 hour drive, and i have one more year of school left.... well, her dad doesn't exactly like the idea of her talking to me, so no more cell. she lives a LONG ways away, so no seeing her in person, not yet at least.. i'm going down there (her state) for spring break... well, we can still talk online, but that's about it... we both miss eachother so much when we're not able to talk though, and it's hard to sink up when we're both able to be online for a bit... also, i miss her voice so much.... it's the only thing that calms me the way it does.... well, that's one issue...
another, is that she's really paranoid that i'm going to just leave her and go chasing after someone else.... i'm not. it's hard to explain how i feel, but i'm not ever going to just abandon her like that.... we both have trust issues, but we both bonded really fast.... and we're really close too..... i guess time will tell, but it's a living hell for both of us.... she cuts sometimes when she's really feeling hurt, and i worry allot about her, especially because of that... and for her, because she's so afraid that she's going to end up getting hurt again.... i'd gladly die for her if i had to, i'm not going to just abandon her.... and she thinks that i'll not care about her anymore by the time i go down there, that's not going to happen...
ok, another issue, age difference... she's a little younger than me, not too much, but her dad doesn't like the idea.... it's four years... she's been with another guy my age when she was younger, and i have to admit, it scares me a bit... but when i think about it, it's not an issue when people are 8 or 9 years difference and married, i know that's when they're BOTH older, but there's another part to that... her mom (wich she useto live with) was an alcoholic, so she was the 'adult' watching out for her brothers and sister... so she's really mature for her age.... anyways, i'll tell, she's almost 14, i'm only 17, so 4 years.... anyways, she's completely past this (perhaps because she was with someone who was 17 a while before, so idk..... me, this makes me feel a little awkward, but i'm prety much over it.... mostly. anyways, her dad REALLY doesn't like the idea.... so, if i go down there, i'd not be able to see her that much... she'd have to meet me places, and that means she'd be 'hanging out with friends'..... wich gets complicated....
well, those are the issues at hand, and it's one complicated mess.... but we're both willing to try to make it work.... but she.. and i have to admit, i am too... we're both prety sure it can't... but we'll try..... anyways, if anyone has any ideas on how to deal with any of these issues... i'd be greatfull....
At 14 if her dad says she can not see you, you can't see her. And to be honest at 14 she does not need to be doing anything other than hanging with groups.
The girl is 13 years old! I don't know where you come from but where I come from 13 is jail bait even for a 17 year old. The fact that she cuts herself shows just how immature and screwed up she really is. Her dad would be a fool to let her see you and you are a fool to let your self get involved with a little girl.
yea... it confuses the crap out of me... and scares me too.... problem is, we were talking and such before i found out her age, and i didn't even know untill recently..... that's the part that scares me.... i don't know how to take care of this.... idk what to say, what to do.... even before i found out her age, she said she really liked me before i even let her know i sort of felt the same... that was before.... then it came to my attention, and now, i don't know WHAT to do.... i don't know weather i'm more confused, scared, or mad (at myself)..... why does this even happen? and what do i do??
jus let her kno that right now a relationship of that nature is not a good idea for either of u...u kno because of the legal issue the moral issue an her dad....right now if the feelings are there then jus respect each other enuff an be frends....best frends even...one day wen the time is right if it's meant to be then it will evolve into someting else. but right now u jus need to be a supportive frend....
yea... it confuses the crap out of me... and scares me too.... problem is, we were talking and such before i found out her age, and i didn't even know untill recently..... that's the part that scares me.... i don't know how to take care of this.... idk what to say, what to do.... even before i found out her age, she said she really liked me before i even let her know i sort of felt the same... that was before.... then it came to my attention, and now, i don't know WHAT to do.... i don't know weather i'm more confused, scared, or mad (at myself)..... why does this even happen? and what do i do??
You save yourself form more pain and possible jail time by just forgetting her. She started off telling you a lie and if she lied about her age what else has she lied about? She is playing a childish game with your heart. FORGET HER!
Forget robbing the cradle, and get a female your age, where you can have a fun, healthy relationship with. Stay away from the jailbait. The consequences are not worth it. Fathers tend to be very protective, so you'd be well advised to go elsewhere. Why do I get the impression she is a lot more mature than you are?? She has fooled you once, so don't be stupid again.
she never lied about age.... just didnt' realize it untill recently, and it was never really brought up.... and all the things that we end up takling about weren't really 'brought up', but came up.... and something i want to make clear, since i forgot to meantion it earlier.... there would be NO 'intercourse', of ANY kind, so legality is not an issue.... morally, i'm told and believe it's not a problem, because we connect.... but at this point, i'm not sure about all this.... and i wasn't even interested in finding anyone in the first place, and to be honest, i'm not quite sure what happened..... and i'm not looking for anything to happen, i just have no clue in all this...... she's the first person to tell me she was interested that i actually was interested in as well..... and i have no idea why i feel the way i do about her, but i'm not sure where this is headed.... but for now, it'll be just going places, to do stuff (ie: movies, whatever).... anyways, i'm more worried about how i managed to get into this mess, how come i didn't sence this coming?? i seriously thought she was like 17 or 18 or somewhere around there....
anyways, i'm more worried about how i managed to get into this mess, how come i didn't sence this coming?? i seriously thought she was like 17 or 18 or somewhere around there....
Now that you know the truth do the right thing, and leave her alone and spare everyone especially you, a lot of drama and confusion.
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she cuts sometimes when she's really feeling hurt, and i worry allot about her,
She has deep issues you can't even dream of helping with, but you can cause a lot of damage to an already fragile person.
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