I have a girlfriend for about 6 months. She's 27 and I'm 26.

I've had a problem with her past during our relationship. She seems to have a lot of guy friends that she stays in contact with that I'm uncomfortable with but I'm learning not to be upset and jealous or think anything is going on. She partied a lot in her past and drank a lot of alcohol too and went to vegas many times to party and go clubing. I never really partied or drank alcohol.

One guy friend in particular she insists and says is just a friend, But she said she was thinking of settling down with him before. She said that all changed when she met me. So that didn't bother me anymore.

Then one day I was on her computer which she let me use and I was trying to save a picture of the internet.

As I saved it the computer went to her "my pictures" section of her computer and there where pictures from her past.

These pics were from about 3 years ago of her in vegas with her friends. A bunch of guy friends and a few girlfriends.

What I saw shocked me. There were pictures of her doing extremely sexual positions with her cloths on with her friends. I couldn't stop shaking. Later she says she was just goofing off with her friends and it was nothing.

And there was that guy friend of hers licking the whole side of her face. And another pic of her with her face in his crotch! And her being humped by two other guys from the front and back! They all did have cloths on and she said they all were goofing off. But then there was this guy giving her a full on kiss. And she said that guy was gay and that she didn't know that he was gay. Only afterwards she knew he was gay. And they are friends

I don't know what to do
I don't know how I should feel.
Or what I should say to her.


I just feel so hurt and I'm not sure if she's minipulating me. She says their all just friends and it was 3 years ago. She says trust her and that she would never lie to me.

We argued about it for a long time and she cried a lot and I still feel I love her but these pics of her past and this guy licking her face and now she says he's just a friend and she says there's no problem with her continuing being friends with him. She said his mother likes her a lot and always hint that she should get with him and settle down.

Help please, any advice at all. :-(

Well... if she is telling you the truth, and it was 3 years ago, then you're going to have to let that go bud. What matters is that she's with you now. Really.

However, I feel like the problem's a bit deeper as you have trust issues with this girl. I suggest that once you two calm down, you two should get together and talk... if you can't accept the idea that she had a relatively crazy past, then... I guess you should think of finding a new girlfriend.

I'll say like iSneezeFunny, you have trust issues (and I understand that… ;) ), but really that doesn't prove anything. I myself have pics where my best friend fakes F-ing me, but I am not gay ! ;)

I understand that she isn't reassuring and that you feel a bit like it's a confirmation of your fears, but it in itself doesn't mean anything. That was having fun. Now, if you fear so much, you'd better talk about it together, 'cause trust is necessary to make a couple last…

For the moment, cool down :)

I think you have your own issues to deal with, mainly trust and insecurity feelings that unless you deal with them you'll poison any relationship you ever have. If things from 3 years ago bug you that much, get some help so you can solve your problems. It not about her, its about the way you see, and deal with things.