When I find a woman physically attractive I will initiate some form of contact leading to conversation. I then look for Indications of interest to see if she likes me. Before asking her out.

This can include things like, is she coming to talk to me when she next sees me, is she initiating some form of contact. Is she trying to get closer? Is she taking an interest in me?
Does she purposly try to catch my eye, etc.

But generally I find I receive the same response of the woman enjoying talking to me. But when I see her out, I do not get any initiated responses from them. They do not go out of their way to speak to me specifically. Or show any signs of attraction. And in some cases have a barrier raised to getting closer even if they are very friendly.

If a guy is talking to a girl and she is emotional / Romantically attracted / interested in him surly they will show this!

Is this the case or do women generally avoid this display of attraction waiting for the man to show everything. If it is the latter then from my own perspective, if I like someone and I do not receive Indications of interest back from her, then this is a sign not to pursue. But since this happens on most encounters, I suspect my perspective might be in error!

My rational is that I am either unatractive and seen just as a friend or my veiws on this subject is flawed. Not sure which.



Any thoughts?

bluerose

I think you are over-thinking it. Dating should be fun. We meet people, we flirt, we laugh. We relax and enjoy the evening. We might exchange phone numbers. We might even walk home together. Just relax and go flow. It sounds like you are getting ahead of yourself and planning the end of the evening somewhere in the middle.

victoria_mitchell

I think that girls play hard to get along with other things.

When I met boyfriends in the past and current I would totally and completely ignore them as much as i humanly could and give them just enough attention to not come off as a . I know I know weird weird weird but very honest.

I don't know about these other girls you are talking about but my personal reason for using this method is simple..... If I ignore or put off a guy it makes me not seem desprate, it tells him I'm doing my own thing so I wont be needy if we end up getting together, also I like a guy that likes a little bit of a challenge I want a guy that wants me so by doing this grand fasaud if after he makes a pass at me still enev after my ignoring him he REALLY is interested and not just looking for his next girlfriend but looking for THE girlfriend, but the BIGGEST reason I do it....... Protect myself. Most girls me included get very attached very easily.... I have a tendency to fall in love with the idea of someone very quickly and then I almost convince myself that "this guy, is the guy for me!" I guess you could say I "obsess" not like phsyco obsessed (lol) but then I get my heart broken when he didn't actually want to be with me or he wants to be friends or I'm not his type or whatever..... this way (by putting him off and ignoring him) I don't get hurt and tell myself there is something there when there isn't.

HOPE I WAS HELPFUL

Dennis777

Hello

Meeting a Lady you don't know or have not been introduced to by friends can be a lot of fun if you play the game. YES it is a game in most cases. The Lady will flirt just enough to get your attention then stop. Now its up to you to give her a reason to flirt more. Just a Hi how are you isn't enough to open the door. You have to use jokes and make her smile. You have to be sweet and open but not telling her anything about you. She doesn't want to know your life history all at once. But you need to give her some information so she can feel comfortable that your not some jerk thats going to hurt her.

This all happens in the first few min's so relax and let things happen. The Guys that get the ladies know there is always another one waiting so they don't look or act needy.

OK by now your saying i don't want to play the game. Thats Cool so you change the way you meet ladies. Join clubs where you already have things in common. A Lady salesperson is always a great pick up because you have her attention and you can ask her about what she sells. Anything to open the door. The internet is a great place to find Ladies as long as you keep what you tell her on line limited until you get to know each other.

Good Luck
Dennis777

LearningAsIGo

Pay attention to body language over emotions or verbal reactions. Legs crossed toward you, a good sign. Arms crossed across her midsection, a bad sign. They may be slighly guarded, but with good reason when approached by a stranger. Most women may feel insecure, let alone vulnerable when approached. Men typically don't have that strong of a response to a seemingly harmless exchange.

Women learn to play hard-to-get either by mothers or by experience. Since guys are 90% of the time the one in pursuit a woman may get approached 1,004,892 times.. which can get a little tiresome. Also, its a guage on if a particular man is interested. If I semi-ignore you but you still seem confident enough to continue on with a conversation regardless, my interest is growing. Body language may change and the exchange may progress...
If nothing else, its a game. Men are the "hunters" while women are the "gatherers." You approach and we collect