Hello,
Ive been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost a year already.. We're planning to get married very soon-everytime he would take me out on dates to fancy restaurants, movies, etc. he would always pay but just last night we were talking and he was telling me that he has to save up for alot of things and mainly for our wedding and honeymoon..also he has bills to pay and has been a little bit tight but he still wants to take me out for dinner this weekend..the only problem is that this time he asked me if i can pay half at least or pay at least for the drinks.. The thing with me is that apparently iam still a little bit shy to eat infront of him so inorder for me to loosen up a little i also order a drink or two(mainly margaritas ) but anyways, everytime he takes me to restaurants i tend to have my drinks and he too orders beer for himself but of course mine are a little more expensive..So when he asked me yesterday to pay for at least the drinks it kinda felt weird cause isnt the guy suppose to be paying for everything or do you think its ok to chip in and pay?? In my last relationship I didnt have to pay for anything in the beginning..What he told me last night felt kinda ackward..any suggestion??

Fr_Chuck

Not knowing your parents age, but in the 50's yes the guy usually paid, but today sharing the bills is alot more commom

ISneezeFunny

in the beginning, I agree..it's "reasonable" for the guy to pay.

you've been with him for a year. that's...nowhere near the beginning.

also, I agree with Fr_chuck...after a year, you're afraid to eat in front of him? ...and you have to drink to loosen up?

marriage..hmm...

butterflyforever

Id suggest Counseling to you guys... before you get married.

justcurious55

i love it too when guys pay for everything. but it's not like there is any written rule. and it doesn't sound like this guy is being mean or stingy about it. if you guys are getting married you'll have to learn how to share and budget money together. and you'll need to get over being shy about eating in front of him if you're marrying him. a few margaritas every night before dinner for the rest of your life might not be a great idea. lol so pay for the drinks this weekend and then come up with a plan to save money together. maybe not eating out so much is a good idea.