hey
right now im living in Qld and my parents decided they're going to move me and my family over to WA (on the other side of Australia)
the problem is a couple of months ago my boyfriend moved in to my place from brisbane but hes not gonna move to WA
if i go we decided were gonna have to break up... but i really don't want to and my boyfriend feels the same way
should i try to convince my mum that i can stay with my sister (same age as me)
or should i just go
HELP!!

Capuchin

I don't know how old you are, but if you're old enough to have your own place, then I suspect you're old enough to decide where you want to live. In this case you don't need to "convince" your mother. Your life is your own, enjoy.

chuff

Yeah if you could post your age because if your a legal adult then I say do what you want at this point.

Squiffy

I agree with everyone else. Its your life not your parents, if you are an adult no one can make you move. But saying that few of us would want to upset our parents like this, so I can fully understand the dilemma. Talk to your parents, tell them you have made a life for yourself where you are, and you dont want to jeopardise that by moving away.

crazy-mambo

if you wanted to know my age im 15 turning 16 but not until the middle of the year and their thinking of moving in the next couple of months

chuff

Well your legal in the United States at age mostly 18 and 17 in some states. I don't know what the legal age is in Australia but I would guess 15 is probably not it. So I'd say that you have to do what you parents say at this point.

To be honest at 15 the chances of your relationship lasting are not good. I know your's is different and I've never felt that special bond that you two share so there's no way I could ever understand but just assume that I could and have lived through that stage in my life and I can tell you from actual experience that you have so many changes and opportunities coming in your life that you haven't even thought about yet. That should probably be your including finishing your education which should take a priority.

imation

well your in a very confusing period of your life and relationship
i understand the situation you are in an admire the maturity that you and your boyfriend
are showing when you understand that it will be too hard to stay together and have decided to break up if your worst fears are realised, even tho both of you dont want to.
all the advice i can give is to talk about it with your parents and your boyfriend.
let your parents know that your really dont want to leave and give them reasons and explain to them that you have opportunities where you are and dont want to reestablish yourself again somewhere new. your parents highest concerns will be to make sure their kids are ok and will be able to adapt and have new expiriences and great opportunities, otherwise they wouldnt go.
make sure your boyfriend understands that if you had your way you would not be leaving, and you want to stay together more than anything. let him know how much he means to you and how much you love him, and talk about the move with him. make sure he knows that if you leave you will miss him, it will make it easier for him.
because if he moved from brisbane to be with you and your moving away he will feel very confused and scared, he will most likely go back home with memories of your time together and it will be hard for anyone to console him.

at the end of the day, it will be your parents decision, you can persuade, you can cry, scream and swear...
but it will still be their decision, and im sure your boyfriend understands that.
your obviously deeply in love and although you are young you are showing a great deal of maturity...
i hope what i advised helped you at least a little bit

papashong

if money isnt a problem u could always ask ur parents to send u to borading school
theres sommerville house (the bright green uniform ahaha)
theres st margarets
umm not sure if lourdes hill still board (they did liek last yr but was talk of getting rid of it)

and if u havent noticed im in brisbane too so i could probs help u with liek places more then others on here and i also know the schools that offer these as im in senior and know people at most of these

but if money is a problem then moving with ur parents probs best option even though WA sucks

papashong

woops thought u were in brisbane my bad ahah

talaniman

If you can't support yourself and neither can your b/f then you can ask, but are at the mercy of their decision. Be nice if you grew up and were independent before trying to act as an adult.