I have unfortunately been in an affair for over a year now. Everything was of course, always on his terms. He has recently decided (for reasons unknown to me) that he wants out of the affair. I knew it would eventually come to this, but I find myself left heartbroken and angry. I feel like calling his wife to let her know but am not sure if that is what I should do. If I choose to, how would I go about telling her?
Forget calling his wife, you might later regret it ! I would forget him and find another man, this time not a married one ! And DONT, please dont become reliant totally on anyone ! You are worthwile and a good person, believe in yourself.
Can i also point you in the direction of this thread. Please read post #9 from Jessie. This may give you a better perspective of this mans wife. Please please read the post im talking about. It may be enough for you to broaden your narrow minded thinking.
L-HUMBLE,The best thing you can do is take this as a wake-up call and spend the time to work on yourself, as you can see their is not a lot of sympathy for you here. With hard work and help you can make yourself into a better person and enjoy healthy relationships and not be used and abused by married men. I feel you deserve better. You don't have to settle for being a used homewrecker, there are way better ways of living. Please leave married men and their families alone.
no dont tell his wife its not worth ruining there marriage and its best to stay out of it. This guy is a jerk. He obviously didn't care about his wife and the marriage they had why would he care for your feelings. Like someone else posted you were "just the mistress" I don't mean that to sound hurtful. But in many ways you knew he was married and got involved anyway so in a sense there must have been a part of you that knew he would do this to you most men who cheat and don't leave there wives have a typical pattern like this.
getting back at him and destroying his marriage isnt right. His WIFE doesn't deserve that. And if he ended the affair because he wants to work out the marriage with her then he has that right and you shouldn't interfere.
I don't just blame him but also you it takes two to tango and your both to blame, so dont destroy her life just because your angry and upset. Just take it as a lesson learned and moved on he isn't worth your time and effort.
I love how the wives stick up for each other and get mad at other women. Be mad at your cheating husband! "You will get no sympathy here" Haha, that is funny!
To the girl asking the question, my advise is to not call the wife! If he wanted out of the affair, it is his choice. You will be better for you in the long run. Think of it as blessing in disguise. The best thing you can do for yourself now is find someone else.
I love how the wives stick up for each other and get mad at other women. Be mad at your cheating husband! "You will get no sympathy here" Haha, that is funny!
And you really think we were NOT mad at the cheating husband? What a joke, of course we were!!!
We are talking to the other woman here, we are telling her that she is a homewrecker.
If a woman knows a man is married, he is off limits. Period. So yes, we are angry at the woman too.
So, Hannah, please do not assume anything in answering here. It is apparent you already are running into criticism for your answers so far.
Interesting ....you allowed her husband to sleep with you and now that he has tossed you aside you want to tell his wife. That will accomplish nothing...it definitely won't make him come back to you. Honestly you finally got what you deserved. He hurt you now you want to hurt his wife, haven't you already overstepped your boundaries. That is their relationship and their life. Save what ever dignity and self respect you have left and stay out of it
I know that you wish to tell his wife about the affair for revenge, but a man who cheats on his wife is not known for his honesty or integrity anyway, so he will likely deny everything you say to her anyway. He will cover his a** by telling her that you are just some psycho girl who is obsessed with him is making it all up. He'll tell his wife that want him but can't have him and are consequently trying to break up his marriage. Guarantee it. Then he'll be angry and may try to seek revenge on you. Have you seen the movie, "Fatal Attraction"? If not, watch it.
Just let this go and be grateful you are out of this mess anyway.
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