My long term ex and I have decided to get back together. Our breakup was not a painful one and we didn't break up so much as take a break as we were starting our career paths. We were the first and only sexual parter for one another when we began. We're starting to catch up with one another and get back to our relationship so we've been talking a lot. I being the ego-centric male asked if she had sex with anyone else and wanted the truth. She said yes, which didn't surprise me. I pushed further and asked if he was better. Another yes. She quickly added that he meant nothing to her, at least not the way she felt about me.
That disclaimer did nothing to help the situation, in fact I really felt worse. I know we're right for one another and I wasn't a saint myself (though my one transgression was not better). I feel pretty emasculated as a result and doubt my ability to ever live up to "the best" again. I don't want to lose her over this but sexual prowess is important to guys, it isn't easy to ignore.

My advice? To be blunt: don't ask questions you don't want the answers to. If you want an ego massage, go about it differently.

But it's a little late for that, now, I guess. In terms of dealing with it: take it as her word that you are the one she wants to be with. That's far more satisfying than sex (even great sex) with someone she doesn't love. Also, ask her what SHE wants in bed. No matter how good you are, there's always room for improvement... *wink*