I need opinions on a possible long distance relationship that started online

little firefly · Mar 25, 2008, 03:24 PM

First of all...Hello everyone!!!

I haven't been around in awhile, and i hope that things are looking up for those that i used to see here.

OK, i need some opinions and advice. In Nov. i started an online friendship with a guy that i met on a site that is owned by the company i work for. It was just a friendship, nothing more. I was still trying to get over "whats his name" at that time, and couldn't even think of anyone else.

.... Well, over the course of that time this new guy and i have discovered how much we really enjoy talking to each other. We had just started out by e-mailing each other, but then we started chatting on IM with our webcams (nothing sexual, just a way to see each other). The past couple of weeks we've added phone conversations to the mix as well. We seem to have a good bit in common and every time we chat we never seem to run out of things to say. He's never said anything out of the way or in any way made me feel uncomfortable.

He lives a little over 400 miles from me which does bother me a bit, but i'm really willing to overlook that. He runs his own business from home, and travels some to be a vendor at various collector shows along the lower East coast. Next month he will be doing a show about 200 miles from me and he has asked if i would like to meet him there to help him out with the show (a way for me to make some extra money), and for us to be able to get to know each other in person.

Ok, so my question is....Should i go? Am i stupid for wanting to?......Give it to me straight....Good experiences and bad. Tell me if i should go for it or if i'm about to make the biggest mistake of my life...Hit me with all that you've got, because i'm trying to weigh the pros and cons here, and you guys have always been so upfront with me, and i really respect your opinions.......I'm just still trying to deal with the fact that i'm actually able to feel anything for ANYONE after that last trainwreck of a relationship i went through!!!!

mafiaangel180 · Mar 26, 2008, 05:49 AM

Have you thought about how you would handle the distance if you do hit it off?

mafiaangel180 · Mar 27, 2008, 05:12 AM

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Originally Posted by Chery

Hi Mafiaanngel.. how have you been?
Isn't it just like you to think ahead, and yes, we all should. But there is a factor there that computers and variables don't possess, we humans also work with emotions and hope.

Hey Chery! I'm good, hope you are doing well! I definitely agree with you! I only raised the question, so in case she does fall in love with him, she has a plan of action.

George_1950 · Mar 27, 2008, 05:27 AM

Hmm: "a plan of action" You are letting the cat out of the bag, at least for some of us. (Having to spread it around, angel)

mafiaangel180 · Mar 27, 2008, 06:27 AM

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Originally Posted by George_1950

Hmm: "a plan of action" You are letting the cat out of the bag, at least for some of us. (Having to spread it around, angel)

I let the cat out of the bag huh? Hehehe, sorry about that

tracer357 · Mar 29, 2008, 02:06 PM

I would say no do not go.
He has plenty of time to come and see you why should you have to be the one that has to travel and see him you dont know him that well.
Make him come and see you first and see if he is the man that you want to spend time with.
Travel that far and to come to find out that he's married or gay or a pervert.
You are taking a big chance and the way things are going on around this country anymore i would put a little more thought to this one.
Just because it sounds good dont make it good.



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