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I was thinking, for those of you, who still have some residual feelings, about the breakup of your relationship, what do you think about, posting an open letter to your Ex (leaving their name out of course) right here. Get out all those emotions you are keeping in, ask those questions that are in your head, say the things you wish you could say. Type it up, post it, and truly try and cleanse yourself of those thoughts and emotions preventing you from moving forward.
What I am hoping by suggesting this, is for those who really need to get that last bit of hurt out, who have been tempted to contact their ex to ask that unanswered question , perhaps it will help to do an open letter to your Ex. This could be your way of YOU closing this chapter and on your way to days where it truly is all about you!
If this isn't a good idea I would understand. Honest. I just want all of your hurts to leave you and this thought popped in my head as a way that may be able to help. I dunno To be honest, in reading some of your post, I have been tempted to write the letter myself to some of these ex's...geeez.
So what do you think? Any one feel like starting the “ Open letter to my Ex” thread?
How amazing that little things can change your attitude. That's why my routine is one where I am never to
tired
hungry
angry
stressed
and when I take care of those areas of my life I generally can deal with anything. A good daily routine helps me make it thru a good day(I choose to have a good day)
If you're not contributing constructively here, you are contributing constructive there!
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Originally Posted by talaniman
How amazing that little things can change your attitude. That's why my routine is one where I am never to
tired
hungry
angry
stressed
and when I take care of those areas of my life I generally can deal with anything. A good daily routine helps me make it thru a good day(I choose to have a good day)
Yeah, those basics are really important and its up to each person as to how well they manage them in their life.
If a person doesn't manage them well, then they get what they get. But that is true for all of us. I learned how to manage them by disliking the effect of mismanaging them enough to do something about it! DOH LOL
If you're not meant to be with him, you're meant to be with another.
Anyways i'm gonna try hard not to ruminate about the past, but instead looking forward to what's coming. Like many of you said "the best is yet to come!" I want to be happy, and no one else can help me with that. I've done enough grieving, learning, blaming, and regretting. The only person that's making me sad is myself, by not letting go, and by saying i'm sad all the time. I'm gonna stop thinking that i want to be with my ex, stop wishing for a second chance, and stop plotting. It's time to move forward and focus on the positive things in life.
Some good things that happened because of this:
- I've learnt not to rush into a relationship
- I've learnt more about myself
- I've learnt some new technique to deal with break ups LOL
- I met a bunch of GREAT people on a random forum, that i came across by googling "How to get your ex back" ...(hey most ppl came here asking aobut that too lol)
- I made a new friend in real life, and he's the sweetest, most caring guy i've ever met. We were strangers when we first met, but now he's one of the few people that i want to talk to whenever i'm down in the dumps.
- I'm single and freeeee
Sometimes i wish i was a fish or something, so i can just swim all day and be happy. So that i won't have complicated feelings/thoughts/emotions. So that i don't know how to ruminate. I'll have a shorter life-span, but at least for the most part i'll have a stress-free life. The only thing i'll have to worry about is being eaten by predator.
People are complicated, life is complicated, if you're not stressing over one thing, you're stressing over another. Some people are more sensative/emotional/genuine, while others are less so. Different people are drawn to different personality, and so no one is better than anyone else, we're all just different and have different preference. But I guess all these differences are what make life more fulfilling and interesting.
On a side note: I wish mermaid exist LOL. And is allheart old enough to be my mom o.o
for asking if I am old and to do your studies !!!!!! (but yes, I've accumulated enough years to be your Mom, a very very young Mom
Being a fish may be fun for a day or so, but I think the fish community needs to come up with a more respectfull way of laying their loved ones to rest other than SWISH down the drain.
Nice perspective Kaitou. Let me offer a little more
Some good things that happened because of this:
- I've learnt not to rush into a relationship
Do you know how many people don't learn this for 2,3, 5 relationships later?
Scary, huh? I can show you threads here like that. Big big lesson --- BRAVO!!
- I've learnt more about myself
Always a good thing. Courageous and pays handsome dividends all down the road, keeep that up!
- I've learnt some new technique to deal with break ups LOL
Actually you've learned some skills that will be handy for all disappointments, rejections, failures and losses and this one is probably the most significant one in my mind. Life has those in store for us and when we learn we can and do survive them, we are empowered to take better educated risks as a result. Powerful stuff.
- I met a bunch of GREAT people on a random forum
I just wanted to sat THANKS for that one
When I learn something new it spins my beanie. When I see you learn something new, it spins it twice as fast--weeeeeeeee!!
I think you have given some great input here "it is truly about learning how to deal with a situation". One's reaction to deal with loss is so important. It can help you or break you.
BUT i wanna report to allheart that i did fine in both of my midterms today :O!!! they were surprisingly easy. I feel like i lucked out !!! that brighten my day so much, doing well in schooool. AT least i dont have to stress about my marks
Dear Ex, may I call you Ex?
See what you've done to me? I am on some random website assembling my thoughts for no one - to rid my head of the looped video that is you. i am not mad. (that's an emotion that i don't waste much time on). this letter is the equivalent of finding me in downtown LA swapping scoring crack in a back alley and ducking police cruisers. in some ways i am revelling in this feeling of utter vulnerability. but at the same time i sense you were not 100% honest. and honesty is the cornerstone of your re-built self. so, i know that was eating you up. it eats me up too. in a few days i'll wander away from this site and head on back to life. but i'll leave this note, sure you will never see it. you were born with a something.....it is special, and it is dangerous.
At the touch of love everyone becomes a poet.
--Plato
Lost love is the one thing that stops us all in our tracks and makes us equal. Where we go from there determines our character.
--Me
Dear Ex, may I call you Ex?
See what you've done to me? I am on some random website assembling my thoughts for no one - to rid my head of the looped video that is you. i am not mad. (that's an emotion that i don't waste much time on). this letter is the equivalent of finding me in downtown LA swapping scoring crack in a back alley and ducking police cruisers. in some ways i am revelling in this feeling of utter vulnerability. but at the same time i sense you were not 100% honest. and honesty is the cornerstone of your re-built self. so, i know that was eating you up. it eats me up too. in a few days i'll wander away from this site and head on back to life. but i'll leave this note, sure you will never see it. you were born with a something.....it is special, and it is dangerous.
At the touch of love everyone becomes a poet.
--Plato
Lost love is the one thing that stops us all in our tracks and makes us equal. Where we go from there determines our character.
--Me
Oh Ash,
Everything you said just is worth repeating. Only thing is, I hope you don't wonder too far away from us. Your contributions have been amazing!!!
I love your quote:Lost love is the one thing that stops us all in our tracks and makes us equal. Where we go from there determines our character - written by Ash123.
Hey. Stumbled upon your idea and I must say it's brilliant!!! I'm gonna give it a bash coz' I definitely need some closure from my last break-up.
Dear Removable *ss*ole,
Since you broke up with me I've realised a lot about myself. I can run everyday now, without having to listen to you whine about it, I can lie down and read a book, without you telling me that there's no point coz' they made a movie and above all of that I wake up every morning without a hangover coz' the only time I had a drinking problem was when I was with you. Honestly, I loved you with everything and this is what you reduced me to, a breakdown, se and a tarnished reputation from all the lies that you've told. I know that I'm better off without you now, I know that now when, in my awesome job, I make my awesome salary I can buy myself awesome stuff instead of paying for your alcoholism. More than anger or hurt I'm disappointed, the one characteristic that I thought would never fade from you soul was your good nature, I guess I was wrong. I've lost all respect for you and your entire family because you fed them all those lies and they believed you. Initially I told you that I was nothing without you, but you know what, you're nothing without me! I'm no longer around to buy you this or pay for that. I no longer have to put up with you immaturity and your worthless freeloading friends. I know that regardless of what you may say about me that I am better off without you, I've never done so well for myself in my entire life. All I need for you to know is that you're not the person that I fell in love with anymore, but guess what, I'm still the person you fell in love with and when you're all alone because you've treated everyone the way you treated me, and you finally realise what you had with me and how you ruined everything, maybe, just maybe I'll take the time to actually cut your call.
On second thoughts no, I'll just leave it ringing...
Thank you for giving me the best gift ever, my passion back!
I would understand. Honest. I just want all of your hurts to leave you and this thought popped in my head as a way that may be able to help. I dunno 
To be honest, in reading some of your post, I have been tempted to write the letter myself to some of these ex's...geeez.
and to do your studies !!!!!! (but yes, I've accumulated enough years to be your Mom, a very very young Mom 
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