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I was thinking, for those of you, who still have some residual feelings, about the breakup of your relationship, what do you think about, posting an open letter to your Ex (leaving their name out of course) right here. Get out all those emotions you are keeping in, ask those questions that are in your head, say the things you wish you could say. Type it up, post it, and truly try and cleanse yourself of those thoughts and emotions preventing you from moving forward.
What I am hoping by suggesting this, is for those who really need to get that last bit of hurt out, who have been tempted to contact their ex to ask that unanswered question , perhaps it will help to do an open letter to your Ex. This could be your way of YOU closing this chapter and on your way to days where it truly is all about you!
If this isn't a good idea I would understand. Honest. I just want all of your hurts to leave you and this thought popped in my head as a way that may be able to help. I dunno To be honest, in reading some of your post, I have been tempted to write the letter myself to some of these ex's...geeez.
So what do you think? Any one feel like starting the “ Open letter to my Ex” thread?
It will be 9 years this year that you left us, I have no pictures of you up anywhere that anyone can see because my memories of you are far from pleasant, you see I am not ever going to be able to remember the good times I was just to young all I see is the hurt you caused and the mess you left behind.
Never will I understand why you became the way you did but you never did find your answer at the end of a vodka bottle did you?
11 years old I was when you stopped being my dad and turned into this washed out pathetic mess that even my mum was to afraid to question all the screaming and the mental abuse no wonder I became such a hard faced person.
The day you died I was 230 miles away I hadn’t seen you for 5 weeks but I made sure that mum had you see a dr and the day the blood results came back we all knew in our hearts it wouldn’t be long even you knew it deep down yet you wouldn’t stop you carried on destroying yourself until the end.
That dr told us 6 weeks, 6 months, 6 years but what’s destroying you is also keeping you alive true to that dr’s word 6 weeks later you had gone.
I think what annoys me most is seeing my daughter and my sister’s children and knowing how much you would have loved being a grandparent and yet you couldn’t see the next day let alone 10 years on.
All you left was a huge hole of hurt in all of us your funeral was memorable for all the wrong reasons and ill never forgive your cousin for that either my so called god father indeed but that’s another story.
You hurt us you mentally destroyed a fair part of me and as for my mum well heck I do not even want to go there.
I look at my life and I am by no means bitter towards you anymore its surprising when someone who has hurt you so much passes away that you forgive them of everything my only comfort is looking at the sea as that’s where you reside in the deep blue where you wanted to be maybe one day ill be able to tell Millie that’s where granddad is and that he would have loved her with all his mite despite everything.
Guess I just wanted to say I love you and I forgive you because you helped make me what I am today.
Laura
You're still a rat bastard, aren't you? I had your baby, and you supported me through the pregnancy. Guess it was cool to prove that you actually DID get in my pants, huh?
But afterwards, when I was suicidal witih post-partum depression, and couldn't deal with the adoption and the loss of our child, where the he!! were you? Out with your "just friend" Laura!
I never understood you dating her...she looked more like a man than you did! I was incredibly happy to hear she had cheated on you and left you for the guy she was cheating with...just like you did to me.
Thanks for destroying my self-esteem and making me believe that no guy but you would ever date me, especially after having your baby. Thanks for making sure that I had no friends to talk to after you left me. Thanks for breaking up with me the day I came back from the psych ward of the hospital...because you "just couldn't deal with me being sad all of the time". She was YOUR baby too! Couldn't you feel ANYTHING?
I hear you're working a crappy job and still doing drugs. I hope that the women dumb enough to date you after you dumped me each gave you a new and different disease. I hope you die in a rollover accident that lights your car on fire.
Most of all, though, I hope you live the rest of your life with everyone who knows her denying you any information about your daughter.
Synn.
PS...this guy dumped me 15 years ago, and I'm STILL mad at him!
I want to feel anger toward you, I really do. But I know you're not the sort of person who deserves that. I know you got into something a bit too big a bit too fast and didn't know what to do about it, so you did the only thing you felt you could do...
The only thing I regret, and the only thing I'll ever regret, is that we couldn't have been friends, after it was all said and done. If you ever need me, I'll be there for you... But don't expect me to come looking for you, ever again. You made that impossible. I hope it was worth it. Good luck in finding what you need to find.
Deαr ex,
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Dear ex,
I hope you find what you are looking for. I'm just so sorry you could not find that within me, yet I just have this feeling that one day you will have second thoughts about what matters and what it is you really need or even desire. The consequences of your decisions result sometimes in regret and I fear this for you. One thing to remember is that it is better to have loved and lost than to have never have loved before.
I wish you well in your journey of self-discovery.
If you skip again tommorrow, i will not care. I will stop caring if we lose contact with each other. You were once someone that i cared about, i hate for it to end this way. But i don't think i deserve to be treated this way anymore. I should stop trying to be friends with someone who simply don't care. It'll just make me sad.
Good luck in life.
But if one day you remember me, and regret cutting me completely out of your life, i hope you have the courage to try to contact me. I'll greet you warmly with open arms.
I would understand. Honest. I just want all of your hurts to leave you and this thought popped in my head as a way that may be able to help. I dunno 
To be honest, in reading some of your post, I have been tempted to write the letter myself to some of these ex's...geeez.
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