I was thinking, for those of you, who still have some residual feelings, about the breakup of your relationship, what do you think about, posting an open letter to your Ex (leaving their name out of course) right here. Get out all those emotions you are keeping in, ask those questions that are in your head, say the things you wish you could say. Type it up, post it, and truly try and cleanse yourself of those thoughts and emotions preventing you from moving forward.

What I am hoping by suggesting this, is for those who really need to get that last bit of hurt out, who have been tempted to contact their ex to ask that unanswered question , perhaps it will help to do an open letter to your Ex. This could be your way of YOU closing this chapter and on your way to days where it truly is all about you!

If this isn't a good idea I would understand. Honest. I just want all of your hurts to leave you and this thought popped in my head as a way that may be able to help. I dunno To be honest, in reading some of your post, I have been tempted to write the letter myself to some of these ex's...geeez.
So what do you think? Any one feel like starting the “ Open letter to my Ex” thread?

debdoes

Dear x,

I miss you like crazy! I love you and always will. You were amazing and I wish I realized things that I do now when we were together. You treated me really good, up until the end anyways, when you started to not care anymore. And that is my own fault cuz I pushed you to that point.

You are the hottest thing in the world. Everytime I looked at you all I could see is how gorgeous you are and how lucky I was to be with you. You completely threw me off when you asked for my number. I saw you around and always thought, wow, he is a cutie, and so polite! Then you asked me out and I thought, sure why not! Never thought I would have fallen for you. You are so much younger and never seemed like my type. You are into heavy metal and have a ton of friends and so outgoing. And lol, you hate my favourite band!

You really loved me alot, I know you did. You told everyone, you told my sister you wanted to marry me the first time you met her and you told your mom that I was "the one." When we were out with your friends, you would run to the store and come back with a rose and give it to me in front of everybody.

I don't know why I turned insecure and untrusting towards you. Probably because of your hotness and now I know it's because my ex that f****d me over and I stupidly thought you would do the same thing to me. No matter how many times you tried to reassure me and tell me you are not my ex so stop thinking that way. But I still did and had to start a fight with you and accuse you of things if you wanted your time and to go out. Even though you always came home to me.

I broke up with you before and you took me back. You said that would be the last time. If I broke up with you again, then it was over. And you stuck to it that time. That was the biggest mistake of my life. When I tried to talk to you, you said you needed a few days to think and we would talk later. That wasn't good enought for me and I pushed and pushed you and didn't give you the space you needed and I blew it for good. (wow, I wish I knew about this site before I did this!!) I acted so immaturely and I put you down in every possible way and said the meanest s**t to you that you didn't deserve. You think I am the meanest person in the world and I killed whatever feelings you had left for me.

I will never forget you, I will never stop loving you. It's been two months and rest assured, I'm getting everything I deserve. It is not getting better for me. I regret what I said to you and how much I pushed you over the edge. If I could have stayed calm and realized how good I had it with you, how faithful and sweet you are, I would have been the happiest person for the rest of my life. I doubt I will ever meet anyone like you again or anyone that I love as much as you. But if I do, I will never make the same mistakes again that I made with you.

I'm starting to accept it's over and I will probably never see you again. I promise I will let you live your life now without ever hearing from me again. It's gonna be so hard. But I really hope one day I run into you again and maybe....just maybe give it another shot down the road. I know right now you want nothing to do with me. I hope you change your mind one day. I'm gonna concentrate on myself now. I'm gonna hit the gym everyday and get back into shape! I will always be here for you.

kaitou

Dear ex,

I think i'm finally ready to move on.

Wish you the best of luck in the future

the 2009 Me

411Help

Dear Ex,

My oh my, do I love you. Every night I dream about you and I wake up searching around my darken room to see if you're there. Thanks to you, I no longer get a good nights sleep. It's been five days without speaking to you so far and it's been the longest five days of my life. I hear your happy with your new guy. That's good to hear. It's too bad he'll never love you as much as I did. I'm really longing for the day when you no longer cross my mind. I wish you the best of luck

Good riddance.

marcel_ke

after a breakup words are useless.take a big breath and that's it! look for a new moon in your night

marcel_ke

until the sunrise. then you're back on the wave

hardrockfanatic

To my ex,

As I grow older and wiser, I realize I was not always the man I should have been in our marriage. I was quick to blame you for everything without always taking responsibility for my own actions. It takes two to tango. We both said and did things that were out of character for one another and I want you to know that I forgive you for the mistakes you made and I hope you forgive me for the mistakes I made. I will always love you and I think about you daily.

Paul_34

great idea this!

I wrote a song for my ex.. the lyrics pretty much works as a letter..


I just want to say thank you
For all the apologies you never made
You kicked me hard when I was down
And took no share of the blame

And it must be hard to keep this act up all the time
And I remember your face when you forgot your lines

And I know you'll think this was all about you
But like your cheap valentine, your words don't ring true



So I just want to say thank you
For all the things you left unsaid
The tales you've spun have all come undone
I've unravelled them all in my head

And it must be hard to be so charming all the time
Especially when I've seen what you're trying to hide

And I know you'll think this was all about you
But like your cheap valentine, your words don't ring true



And I just want to say thank you
For all the promises you could never keep
You caught me off my guard with your disregard
For all the tears you made me weep

And it must be hard to be such a martyr all the time
Especially when your life is based on a lie

And I know you'll think this was all about you
But like your cheap valentine, your words don't ring true

And I know you'll think this was all about you
But my cheap valentine your words dont ring true.

Paul_34

dear ex,

you may wonder why I am writing to you now. There are things that I deserve to say to you regardless of whether you will hear them or not.

You treated me very badly indeed and when you walked away you showed no concern, remorse or guilt for the way that you behaved.

I think you're probably the most immature, selfish, cowardly and irresponsible person I have ever had the misfortune to meet.

You lied to me, you showed no respect for me and worst of all you kicked me hard when I was down.

I say these things to you now with no desire for reconcilliation, as I can think of nothing I would like less.

I am simply exercising the right to express myself which you denied me when we broke up.

You have showed yourself in a very bad light indeed and I now understand fully why you don't like yourself very much.

You are cold and callous and you played games with someone who showed you nothing other than love and respect.

The only mistakes I made during our relationship were to treat you like an adult and place my trust in you.

You are, to put it simply, a horrible person.

I wish you luck with the denial and fabrication that is your life.

Ironically, if I were to send this letter, I would be giving you the gift of justification.
You are unworthy of my attention and I have no desire to give you anything more, so it will remain unsent.

end of.

Paul_34

damn! I feel better for that!

soccergirl0587

oh lord my letter is long!!!!!
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know I sound like a broken record going over the same bull over and over and I am completely aware of it , but I have all good intentions that this will be the last time we both have to hear or talk about this.
For the last few and by few I mean 8 months I have dedicated my time and biggest efforts on getting the old you and me back , trying to get our old hopes and dreams WE had back knowing deep inside that will never happened , We have become to far of strangers to each other to even have anything close to what “us” used to be, I never would’ve thought things would come to end like this.
From the moment I met you call me crazy but I knew I was going to love you , It felt amazing how everything was happening without any planning and even when you were so far away I loved you like ihave never love anyone , I felt so comfortable with you I felt like you were mean to be in my life all along and that you were the missing piece that I had been missing and for once I stop feeling empty , it felt like you came in my life unexpectedly but somehow you just belong there and it felt like you loved me like no one ever had love me you were my bestfriend not just my gf , at least that’s what it felt. I am very much aware that what I did to you by lying about my ex was wrong and I am no longer going to try to explain and make you understand why I did it because regardless it was wrong and I regret hurting you as much as I did , Its unknown if you will ever forgive me , I hope someday you , One thing I ask is for you to never doubt of my feelins for you no matter what my childish mistake I did please know that I love you so much and I care about you more than anyone else in my life because you felt true.
But im not here to tell you how much I love you or how much I care about you or how bad I want you back , im here to say goodbye and goodluck because that seems to be the only two words that are left to be said between us only this time I mean it . Truth is you wrecked me when you fell for her so deeply , you destroyed me when you said” she was the best thing that ever happened to you” , you killed me when you saw every single one of her “ qualities”, when for the longest time you saw my wrong doing my flaws my mistakes . Sometimes I think we grew to far apart from each other and at the end there wasn’t any love ..not at least from you maybe you were just used to me or the idea of me being around but unlike you it wasn’t the idea of you that kept me hanging on it was the LOVE I felt for you .
I would have never ever dreamed of us ending this way , honestly I never thought we would end because I in my dumb mind felt there wasn’t anything or anyone that could come between us , but you proved me wrong by doing a complete change and becoming someone I don’t know , you have turned me into a stranger in your life , you have made me feel like I don’t belong anywhere near you , you have made me feel nothing more than just a worthless human being who doesn’t deserve more than your left overs ,and today I say stop not only to you but to myself because I have let myself go thru all of this im tired of crying ive cried for way to long expecting you will care , it will never happened it will never be the same you have damage me so much by being the new you , took you days or maybe weeks to kick me out of your life, to stop looking back , you made it seem so easy to move on and even now I was such a fool to believe that maybe just maybe I could or would get my best friend back but once again you have prove me wrong so after many disappointments between each other im here to say goodbye.
I have so many questions , I needed so many answers , I needed an explanation but im well aware that will not happened , im angry and hurt , I feel played and betrayed by the one and only person I trusted with everything and anything I feel angry because you gave up , because you don’t care , because you became someone else and I hurt because I love you , I miss you and its time to say goodbye,goodluck , time to move on and let you be , let me be .
I know you have the wrong perception of me , you strongly believe I lied to you for 2 yrs straight and that I didn’t care for you , and there is no point on my making you think different because you will not believe me just know that I didn’t as hard as that is to believe I truly did love you , I never used you , I never expected a wedding , an expensive ring or you coming out to ur family –all I wanted was you to love me that was all. And recently you have continue to make me feel like I have no part in your life , as soon as you met someone else to keep you busy you are off to that person and the one person who has been here regardless , ME. I have tried to explain to you that its not that I need you to talk to me 24/7 but I guess I was in the wrong to think we could be bestfriends again.
There is really not a lot to say left Thanks for showing me how much 2 n half years is really worth once someone else comes along , if true thank you for loving me and letting me love you , im sorry I wasn’t what you expected , im sorry I hurt you , im sorry I was never good enough for you , im sorry for annoying you , im sorry for wanting us back. I wished I would’ve known you were this kind of person and I would’ve save me from a heartache , believe it or not I thank you for 2 wonderfull years even after the fights and the screaming there is good things that happened and those are memories that I will forever keep im sorry for going in this relationship with unsolved personal issues that in some ways got in our way , I wished I would’ve made you happy because you deserve it and I know I could’ve made you the happiest , it was obvious I was never what you were looking for so good luck to you I hope you find what and who you are looking for , goodbye to false hope and goodbye to you.