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Old Jan 20, 2007, 12:16 AM
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One sided love.....really need help!!!

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I am a new member of this community . I had come across this community while looking for the answer to my questions.Well to state my problem........i have become a hapless victim of one sided love.The girl i love is already committed to someone else.I love her passionately....its been a week or so b4 i had proposed to her....and she rejected my proposal .she said that she is already seeing someone.My problem is that..even though i am trying to FORGET her..I can't do so,i really can't..it seems impossible for me to do this!!!!Everytime i see her online i just wanna talk to her....everytime i see her b4 me,my heart just longs to get to her ...she is seemingly concerned abt my situation but she shows indifference on face..If we come across each other then we both try to ignore each other...though my heart cries. I think i can't live without her but i also know that she is unreachable....this feeling of helplessness is just killing me...plzzz can neone help???I have even stopped talking to her and i am taking steps to forget her.......BUT I CAN'T..I REALLY CAN'T.....wht to do plzz advice???i am literally on the verge of breakdown...i don't wanna fall in this death trap of depression.....plzzz tell me how to forget her and how to tackle this situation.....i don't find solace newhere....i am even distanced from my friends and parents!!!!! I hate this state of mine.....but I just can't stop thinking abt her.....all my hrs of the day are preoccupied by her thoughts....and the situations get worsened if i see her......i just can't forget her...i love her sooooo very much

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Old Jan 20, 2007, 01:22 AM   #11  
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May I ask you a question? If you do things to avoid her, will it not hurt her?

Why are you concerned about her. She was not concerned about hurting you. She did the damage. She is seeing someone else. Did that not hurt you?
You have every right not to see her, to avoid her. Will it hurt her. It might, but think of it this way. If you show her that your doing good without her. How do you think she might handle that? If she sees you moving on and happy, do you think that might make her think, Hmmm. He is a pretty good guy, he did not deserve the way I treated him. This will make her think a bit. This will actually help you.

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Old Jan 20, 2007, 01:28 AM   #12  
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dear Joe,
thanks brother...u have shown me ray of light...thanks for preventing me from falling into this deep abyss of depression.....i hv taken ur advice to heart and will follow it....
i have gained a friend today..

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Allheart agrees: You certainly have and a very good one at that!!! Welcome to AMHD :)
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Yes, you have. I will always be here. Anytime.
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Grrrrrrrrrrrr Joe, had to spread the love....but way to go here. Just perfect !!

UserJan, you have the best advice here. Stay strong, just keep rembering what Joe shared with you, and you will be more than okay

Wishing you all the best!!!
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thanks for the support given by AMHD.....i think the healing phase has begun....but i am still feeling listless!!! how to recover from it completely???i have lost faith in love...............shud i talk to her normally...shud i take as a friend or shud i break all contacts wid her
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Remember the healing process takes time. Do not lose faith. Break all contact. Believe me that is the only option, but of course the only person that can make that decision is you.

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hi friend,
i am feeling a new zeal in myself after forgetting her.....is it natural???or is it just ovr excitement?? but now too sumtimes i feel a little low......are u sure i will not fall again........
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Hello,

That is good that your feeling a new zeal in yourself. Yes, it is natural. It is also normal to feel low sometimes as well. I believe in you, and I believe you are a strong person and that you are going to do what is best for you, and what makes you feel happy and good.

People do fall sometimes. It is human nature,, but I trust that if you have the backing of good friends, that you continue to communicate with your friends that they will help you along the way and help you enjoy your life and have faith that you will not fall.

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hi friend,
i am feeling a new zeal in myself after forgetting her.....is it natural???or is it just ovr excitement?? but now too sumtimes i feel a little low......are u sure i will not fall again........
As long as you can type just come here, and we will pick you up.
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thanks 4 d support AMHD.......I feel that i am again attracted towards her....wht to do mannnnnn???shud i maintain the no contact thing.......

can i start dating again??? is it that this time i may be emotionally fragile
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