One for the girls !

onlineguy · #1 Aug 13, 2007, 02:52 AM

If a guy shows and interest in talking to you, asking about you and he seems like a nice guy. Is there a point where he can ask you out to soon and you will say no or is it better for him to wait and let you initiate some form of interest ?

GlindaofOz · Aug 13, 2007, 05:53 AM

i think that its important for a guy to read her cues. Is she being genuinely interested in the guy or just being polite? In what circumstances do they know one another? Does the girl not have a boyfriend or dating someone else?

Dennis777 · Aug 13, 2007, 07:36 AM

Hello.

If your around the Lady and or her friends so that you can ask about her then you can set something up so you all can do something together. Going out in a group is easy and will give you both the chance to spend some time together without it being a DATE. If things look good at the gathering then ask her to coffee after.

Just remember she might say no the first few times because she could be playing hard to get so don't push her but also don't walk away and never try agin.

Dennis777

Michelle0410 · Aug 13, 2007, 07:40 AM

I think there can be a point where it is to soon, but why not take the chance. If you are itnerested and you like talking to her and you think that she feels the same go for it. If anything just ahng out don't even consider it a date. if you are still completely comfprtable and everything goes great then let her know in a very casual way, you don't want to scare her off =) She could be thinking the same thing right now and you would never know because your afraind it may be too soon... So do something about it =) Alot of girls like a litte bit a a challenge, and a guy to treat her good so do all that and you should have it in the bag!!

onlineguy · Aug 13, 2007, 07:51 AM

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Originally Posted by Dennis777

Hello.

Just remember she might say no the first few times because she could be playing hard to get so don't push her but also don't walk away and never try agin.

Dennis777

Is this not a contadiction, she might say no the first few time but never try again ? Confused by that, can you clarify?

Michelle0410 · Aug 13, 2007, 07:54 AM

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Originally Posted by onlineguy

Is this not a contadiction, she might say no the first few time but never try again ? Confused by that, can you clarify?

You misread it hun...
She said not to walk away and never try again...meaning Do not walk away and do not give up!!

nicespringgirl · Aug 13, 2007, 08:05 AM

Yes, women can play hard to get and some of them are really not knowing you very well.
U might think that they've already known you, but it takes different ppl different length of period to get ready for the next stage.

Good luck.

onlineguy · Aug 13, 2007, 08:15 AM

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Originally Posted by Michelle0410

You misread it hun...
She said not to walk away and never try again...meaning Do not walk away and do not give up!!

Ah! i see... Doh!

Thanks for all the comments, but here is a thing. You say not to give up, which is fair enough but if :

Your not recieving indications of interest back should you stop.

If she goes with someone else whilst your trying to win her over (so to speak) should you stop.

It feels like a very fine line between liking her, persuing her or making a fool of yourself, no one wants to make a fool of themselves.

Michelle0410 · Aug 13, 2007, 08:19 AM

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Originally Posted by onlineguy

Ah! i see... Doh!

Thanks for all the comments, but here is a thing. You say not to give up, which is fair enough but if :

Your not recieving indications of interest back should you stop.

If she goes with someone else whilst your trying to win her over (so to speak) should you stop.

It feels like a very fine line between liking her, persuing her or making a fool of yourself, no one wants to make a fool of themselves.

when you say you are persuing her, have you told her that you are interested in her or are you just sitting back and waiting for her to tell you she likes you??

I know you don't want to make a fool of yourself, maybe she assumes ya'll are just frineds and has no idea about your feelings for her, sometimes we are blind to things like that. You don't want to stalk her but of course if she is not intrested you don't want to make things awkward and you odn't want to mess up the friendship, so jsut use your best judgement, if she blows it off the first time you bring it up, stay her friend but don't give up until you honestly believe that there sin't a chance for ya'll to be together, then move on...

GlindaofOz · Aug 13, 2007, 08:19 AM

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Originally Posted by onlineguy

Ah! i see... Doh!

Thanks for all the comments, but here is a thing. You say not to give up, which is fair enough but if :

Your not recieving indications of interest back should you stop.

Yes because then you become that weird stalker guy

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Originally Posted by onlineguy

If she goes with someone else whilst your trying to win her over (so to speak) should you stop.

Yes. Because then she is not interested in you she is interested in the person she is dating and you should never try to break up a coupling

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Originally Posted by onlineguy

It feels like a very fine line between liking her, persuing her or making a fool of yourself, no one wants to make a fool of themselves.

If she does any of the above then move on. If she is not responsive to you then she is not interested. If she has a boyfriend move on.



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