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Is it okay for my boyfriend to spank me?

Asked Apr 6, 2012, 09:35 PM — 18 Answers
So I have been an abusive relationship before, but this ones different its not abusive, its just weird. Like when I misbehave he spanks me, he grabs hold of me, throws me across his knee, removes my pants or lifts my skirt up, and removes my panties and spanks me rather hard. We always make up after though. Also, I don't know, I think he likes babying me or something, one time I kissed another guy and he didn't just spank me, he gave me an enema and then put me in a diaper and made me go out in public at the park with a short skirt. Is this right for him to do this to me?

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Apr 6, 2012, 11:59 PM
As long as there are well defined limits and a Safe Word is used, it should be fine.
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Apr 7, 2012, 04:43 AM


its called role playing and as long as you are fine with it, it may be kinky, but it may be how he gets off.

You do need to establish a code word that lets him know you want to stop and he's gone too far. If he doesn't stop when you use that word, then you dump him.
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Apr 7, 2012, 08:55 PM


As long as you like it its okay.
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Apr 7, 2012, 10:05 PM
I may be off compared to what the others are saying, but from your post it's not my understanding that this is something that you're into. In fact, it sounds like he's doing this against your will.

If that's the case, then no, it's not okay. It's abuse.

If this is something both of you enjoy, and you're okay with it, then yes, it's fine. Different strokes for different folks. Not my cup of tea, but who am I to judge?

So the question I have is this. Is this something you enjoy? Is this a fetish of yours? Or is he doing this against your will?
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Apr 8, 2012, 03:17 PM
@Alty Sometimes it turns me on, but sometimes he spanks too hard.
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Apr 8, 2012, 03:20 PM


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he gave me an enema and then put me in a diaper and made me go out in public at the park with a short skirt. Is this right for him to do this to me?
This is the part that bothers me. First off, an enema should only be given for medical purposes. Second, this would be considered public humiliation and can tarnish you should you ever run into any of these people.
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Apr 8, 2012, 03:21 PM
Then have and set up a "safe" word, if you say that word he has to stop, If he can not stop, then it is also abuse.
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Apr 8, 2012, 03:22 PM
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@Alty Sometimes it turns me on, but sometimes he spanks too hard.
So you establish a safe word that lets him know when he goes too far.
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Apr 8, 2012, 03:34 PM
The reason for the safe word, in role playing you would be crying or yelling no, no stop stop, as part of the role playing. so it has to be a totally off word,
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