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HEY GUYS!! I havent been on here in a bit, but yet again I am a "situation". I guess its not a bad one to be in though! The gal from Cali is home, she just got back 2 days ago, but I have yet to see/talk to her since she has been back. I think I am going to wait at least until Mon before I call her so she has some time to visit with friends and family, so we shall see where that one goes............ The thing is...............I am currently kind of dating 2 other girls at the momet. I really like the Cali girl though, we seem to get along so well, but she has been kind of flaky as of lately and Im not really sure why. I guess its a good thing that I have some other options to go with, but Im not really sure how to handle it. I dont want to come off too strong and call her quite yet. I would really kind of like her to chase me!!! She knows I like her, and she told me she has had a crush on me for a long time. Should I put the ball in her court and see where it goes, or should I make more of an effort to see her? I want to play this right because if we dont go out, it would be great to have her as a friend I can hang out wiht and dance with or something of the sort............
well you know the rules as far as chasing goes (it will run) because you were one of the first to pass them onto me. so im sure you wont make that mistake. however you may have to take a little initiative with her. particuary if she finds out you are dating other women she may think you are not interested and look elsewhere. i suppose you have to let her know your still keen without chasing. thats the beauty of the begginning of a relationship i gather. getting that balance right. i look forward to one day being in this situation again.
im sure you'll be ok though. you know most of the do's and dont's of dating from your time on here so you have a head start over most guys anyway.
keep us informed.
See, this is one of my favorite things about this site!! People that you helped out months ago really come a LONG way, and actually end up helping YOU out later!!! VERY cool to get insight and in a lot of ways teach the teacher!!! I see where you are coming from, and I guess there is a pretty big difference between playing hard to get, and just not playing at all! Thanks!
Even in this modern age, some girls need to be coaxed into chasing... and flirting/teasing is a great way to initiate that. So flirt away! But please don't tell girls you date that you are dating other girls - that's very private business unless your circle is that small (which should be a clue to enlarge the circle LOL). Just don't imply exclusivity in any manner, and they'll know. And the greatest strength anyone has in dating or friendship is like what Talaniman said, honesty!
Hi,
Go for it!
Date as many as you can, at the same time. That's called Dating.
Call her.
As another said, if one of the girls you date doesn't like yopu being with anyone else, then your relationship with her will probably be over soon. She will find out, one way or another. Best wishes.
Skell - actually these are women - IF she KNOWS he dating someone else - he becomes instant challenge - HEAR ME - INSTANT CHALLNGE. You're being logic here.......women work on feelings...not logic.
Jeff - it's good to wait.....be cool about it....WAIT til Wednesday next week....she MAY call you first. Be cool, be funny, no tough questions.....keep the call short - you're a busy guy.
Skell - actually these are women - IF she KNOWS he dating someone else - he becomes instant challenge - HEAR ME - INSTANT CHALLNGE. You're being logic here.......women work on feelings...not logic.
Hmmm, whilst we are often on the same page, I think we disagree a little here Wildcat. I feel a burning desire to add for the record that some women are quite logical and some have a more sensitive idea of manners. If he implies indirectly he is dating others, that is one thing. But to make it known and for the purpose of making himself look more viable, ugh! A number of my girlfriends (of all ages, by the way) and I would call that an out-and-out tacky ploy and passssssssssss it up.
I recognise that in order to get a job in my area, you have to BE working already so you get what you know to be a throw-away job.... and I think you are talking a similar phenomena here. But you don't tell anyone that??? And so I contend that women aren't that dumb either.
So it boils down to what kind of woman does he want? There are all kinds.
I guess I should have put that response in here instead of a rating... But I'd say the same thing. As long as she thinks of you as hers she'll see a challenge, but if she doesn't she might chalk you up to a lost cause. Depends on the woman
The gal from Cali is home, she just got back 2 days ago, but I have yet to see/talk to her since she has been back. I think I am going to wait at least until Mon before I call her so she has some time to visit with friends and family, so we shall see where that one goes............ The thing is...............I am currently kind of dating 2 other girls at the momet. I really like the Cali girl though, we seem to get along so well, but she has been kind of flaky as of lately and Im not really sure why. I guess its a good thing that I have some other options to go with, but Im not really sure how to handle it. I dont want to come off too strong and call her quite yet. 
I would really kind of like her to chase me!!! She knows I like her, and she told me she has had a crush on me for a long time. Should I put the ball in her court and see where it goes, or should I make more of an effort to see her? I want to play this right because if we dont go out, it would be great to have her as a friend I can hang out wiht and dance with or something of the sort............
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