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There is a man I casually know, a friend of my husband's. I don't see him much, but recently he has started to pay attention to me. He is also married. He started coming around when I was working, and would stand next to me, very close. He calls occasionally, for little reasons. He always speaks to me when I am around. He says little things about my husband, lfor instance "if you have the looks and the brains, what does he have?" He is always looking at me when we are together and whenever I move away from him, he quickly turns to watch me. He is in law enforcement and once while questioning a suspect in front of our store, right in the middle, he turned around, smiled, winked at me and said "hi". He came to our house the other night very late because we had called to ask him a question, and instead of answering on the phone, he came all the way to our house and ended up staying 2 1/2 hours, while he was supposed to be working. I noticed that when I walk past him, if he needs to move for me to get past, he is reluctant to do so. He also was noticeably "stroking" the table while he sat across from me. Is this guy just harmlessly flirting, or does he have serious intentions?
Is this guy just harmlessly flirting, or does he have serious intentions?
you're joking right?. this guy is dangerous. geez girl. if you continue being nice to him dont you think he feels like maybe you want him to. smell the roses. i hate dudes like this. i see this all the time at bars. they are like sharks. swimming around until they see a piece of meat then they go for the kill. look out girl. just my opinion.
It all starts out this way and one evening your spouses will be unavailable, and you'll have a glass of wine together, and oops, he'll have his arm around you. Shall I go on, or have you seen a few movies on the subject?
He's a flirt, but it will most likely NOT stop there unless you tell him you feel uncomfortable about this. It will feel strange at first, but you'll sleep better once it's out in the air.
To be safe, you could say: "I feel strange, and please forgive me if I'm wrong, because I've never felt this way, but are you flirting with me? If you are, then please don't as this makes me very uncomfortable and I'd like to stay friends" This will not outright accuse him, and will also give him a chance to laugh it off. But believe me, he is a wolf in sheepskin.
If you let this go on, you will be in a trap that is hard to get out of, so act as soon as possible.
There is something I should have probably mentioned......I am very attracted to this man (ugh)
attracted to this man. what! are you sure. because he would do the same to you. hello. if youre with him he has other women he is checking out. come on look at whats going on here. he says, i will treat you better, spend more time with you, etc. he want to get into you pants.
Are you attracted to hima nd his personality? which doesn't say much cuz he sounds kinda creepy. Or are you attracted to him because he is giving you attention and its kind of thrilling? Don't confuse the two. Iv seen way to many scenarios when a married person taked that plunge into an affair, and afterwards saying :I think i did it for the thrill. I beleive that 9 times out of 10 thats why most people have an affair.
But to be honest with you the guy sounds creepy and he knows your married. I would be careful. Having a harmless flirtation is one thing, if your comfortable with it. Im a big flirt. But I know where that line is. But this guys actions don't sound like flirty they sound creepy. Just becareful.
No wonder you didn't nip his advances in the bud!What can you be thinking,?Your married so act like it or tell your husband what a lousy wife he has,Sorry but your disgusting and your life will be hell until you wake up and act like the the married person you are,did you say he knows your husband?UGH!Respect yourself and your husband and kick this creep to the curb,now!
I think you knew just how serious this guy was about getting with you from the get go. I also think you've enjoyed it much more then you have admitted to. This man is so not worth ruining your life for! Whether you're having problems with your marriage or not, tell this guy to back off, just like that and don't spend 5 more minutes thinking about him when you could be fantasizing about your husband instead. Harmless flirtation my a**, unless it's okay that your man does the same???
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