There is a man I casually know, a friend of my husband's. I don't see him much, but recently he has started to pay attention to me. He is also married. He started coming around when I was working, and would stand next to me, very close. He calls occasionally, for little reasons. He always speaks to me when I am around. He says little things about my husband, lfor instance "if you have the looks and the brains, what does he have?" He is always looking at me when we are together and whenever I move away from him, he quickly turns to watch me. He is in law enforcement and once while questioning a suspect in front of our store, right in the middle, he turned around, smiled, winked at me and said "hi". He came to our house the other night very late because we had called to ask him a question, and instead of answering on the phone, he came all the way to our house and ended up staying 2 1/2 hours, while he was supposed to be working. I noticed that when I walk past him, if he needs to move for me to get past, he is reluctant to do so. He also was noticeably "stroking" the table while he sat across from me. Is this guy just harmlessly flirting, or does he have serious intentions?

Chery

If a patient came to you just giving you piece by piece information, you'd make the same assumptions and/or ask for more. And since you then could read by the body language and their stature while answering your questions, you'd catch on quicker than we did, of course. So, please don't take opinions on this thread as criticism negatively - we can only do so much with the information we receive. And, if you noticed, our main concern was for your well-being.
Since you are also in this profession, you more than most are aware of the chances if you don't both seek professional help. And also know that you both need to WANT to do this together. And by all means, nothing in secret as the children will eventually let it out whether you want it or not.

I do hope that you benefited from the answers you received here one way or the other and that you now realize that only you can change your future. We here are always ready to help in any way we can with the information we have to work with and at least are sincere in our efforts to help anyone on our own time and for free. Again, lots of luck from a fellow therapist. No matter how depleted and stressed you are, please drop us a line and keep us posted anyway. Thanks, and remember, we do care and wish you all the best.

pburke

Thanks for your kind thoughts. It's especially nice to have a place where people can get feedback and just "vent" if they want to.

talaniman

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