so it turns out...the new girl my ex is dating is not only 18, but also a stripper. Wow...I'm in college, I'm going to graduate soon, I have a lot going for me. And....he picks a stripper over me? One of my friends asked my ex if she was good looking and my ex said "not at all." Ok...so, why dump me, a pretty awesome girl who has been his best friend for 8 years and gf for 2 years for an 18 year old, unattractive stripper? Um...can anyone give me reasons?

imation

he might be trying to make you jealous?
or this unattractive stripper might be an awesome person underneath, is he too shallow to look past what the stripper looks like?
try to find out more about the situation, get your friends talking to him, tlak to him yourself... find out the likelyhood of him making you jealous
hope i helped

Thomas1970

Quite simply, he may feel threatened. You're confident, educated, about to graduate soon. Perhaps he doesn't feel you need him as much anymore, and that scares him. He may well be suffering from low self-esteem.
This isn't to say, as Imation pointed out, that the exotic dancer isn't a wonderful person as well -- but eight years of history is certainly nothing to toss away lightly.
As comedian Richard Jeni once pointed out, men like strippers. They want the one thing every guy has... a dollar.

Wildcat21

Why worry about this complete jackazz?

Move on and date a lot - find a real guy. You're too god for him.

Let me guess - he's a bad boy, no college etc?

Wildcat21

And any normal guy knows you do not date a stripper - ever. You might try and sleep with them....but they are loads of trouble - MANY guys tryin gto sleep with them - usually on drugs - usually controled by the owner of the club.....the stripping can lead (and does a lot) to 'pay for' sex acts if you know what I mean. Some gal there.

phillysteakandcheese

Your ex is probably feeling intimidated. A pretty awesome and undoubtably attractive woman like you will probably intimidate many men.
You should not let his insecurities make you doubt yourself.


I sort of disagree with you on this Wildcat... You've painted an overly generalized picture here of the worst case scenarios. While these are true in a number of cases with the "career stripper", there are also ordinary women working the part-time and off-hours schedule that are very normal and awesome people.

talaniman

You must still be stinging form this break-up or else you would not be asking such a question. There is no answer to why he does what he does, and why would you care? Let go of the past, and look to the future. He wants a stripper let him have a stripper, its not your business anyway. Don't run yourself in circles any more worrying about him. No body here is a mind reader and neither are you so let it go and look forward to finding your own happiness.

Thomas1970

For the most part, I'm in total agreement with this. I've known more strippers than I care to. Neighbors and friends of roommates, in years past. And yes, this is a very accurate assessment of most. Though I knew a few that were straight A students in college, and completely drug free. They are still people underneath. Either way though, I agree, you certainly don't date one unless you're the gambling type.
I personally don't date them. I don't even go to the clubs.

UTaustinash

actually...he's about to graduate in August and he has a 3.9 GPA. It's just his whole life all he's done is school and work and I guess he's trying to be like all the other guys which he's not. But yes, I am still stuck on it. It's been 3 weeks, and he started dating her like the day after he broke up with me. I know deep down I'm too good for him and that this girl has nothing on me, but it still hurts. He's not the guy I have known for the past 10 years. It's weird, and I just want him to snap out of it cuz I don't know how he can just throw it all away.

Wildcat21

If he's under age 30 he probably still has a lot of changing to do.

I don't think you'd want him back at this point.