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Until you've recovered from the breakup, it's not a good idea to try to attempt to be friends. Just talking to him will make you more fustrated and unhappy. Stop talking to him. If he attempts to contact you, just ignore him. Leave each other alone and live your own lives.
Until you've recovered from the breakup, it's not a good idea to try to attempt to be friends. Just talking to him will make you more fustrated and unhappy. Stop talking to him. If he attempts to contact you, just ignore him. Leave each other alone and live your own lives.
*her Anyways,that really wasn't my question.My question was more-so,was my reaction justified or abusive?.I'm not so sure that I was 'crazy' about it,but everyone seems to think that isn't how you react to a situation like that.
And I haven't spoken to my ex in quite awhile (2 months) Though I'm reflecting on what she said.
That I pushed her away because of how I react to things.
Give yourself more time to reflect on the breakup. You're still in the recovery process.
As for your behavior. You definitely went overboard. Stay calm. Even though you break up, it doesn't mean you should say anything negative to your ex.
Learn to take the high road. Don't always blame the other person. It's always a two-way street. Reflect on your own behavior before blaming someone. Even if it was the other person's fault, be professional about it. Never disrespect someone even if they disrespect you.
Everyone acts in there own way when emotions are involved. She hurt you. She deceived you when you loved her and trusted her. I think its best to stay away and have no contact with her. Seems like she is building your anger more and more. I am sure your feelings for her are still there and your speaking out of true hurt. Just walk away and leave her to her new life. You will heal.
Stay away from each other. This is a trigger of stress for you, so keep your distance. You didn't make someone cheat, they did it because THEY WANTED TO. Time will heal this, I promise. Just carry on ,be happy, and enjoy your life. Like you said, you're still young. Don't waste any more energy on this. Don't answer the calls, delete the messages, etc. Good luck, and I hope you're successful in anything you do.
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As someone who has been in this situation a few times I can tell you this isn't because your a teenager. You had a reasonable expection of behavior to expect from someone and they let you down. That is why you can't be friends with her and everytime you get away you think "it's okay I can" and when you get back to trying your brain starts acting out to protect you and starts all the anger as a means to keep that person away. You can't really go back at this point and be a friend because you gave more then friendship and she couldn't be trusted so as a friend she isn't going to be trusted either. The feelings and anger are normal but it's up to you and you alone to get her out of your life so it isn't continous.
i dont think this is normal behavior for ANYONE. you need to distance yourself from her, and possibly get some councelling for your obvious pent up and regressed anger and agression towards her because of her cheating. your obviously not dealing with it the way you should be.
*hugs* good luck hon. im sorry your going thru this
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