I feel for you brohter. Woman just can't stand Wuss's. You think your doing something nice for them and they think your a door mat and they can walk all over you.
They do love their ex's - I had a gal who divorced her husband and 4 years latter she was still in love with him. Woman use that crap therapy all the time - 90% of the people in therapy are woman - did you know this?
Anyway....you needed to NOT contact her every day - maybe twice a week MAX - let her call you.
You are the prize. ALWAYS. Woman don't want to be the prize.
1. You needed to be less available - don't call all the time, no e-mails, you set the dates, etc. No clingy-needy - EVER - get a hobby, work out, work on getting that job, friends, family,
2. NEVER go into girl friend mode - she probably told you all about her problems - THAT's for her girl friends. NEVER be on the phone for endless hours - you WILL bore her and go into girl friend mode.
3. NEVER be agreeable - disagree - stand up for you self - if she criticizes you, STAND UP for your self. DO NOT be a kiss .
4. Don't buy her things all the time.
5. Don't give up your power - be a leader - be CONFIDENT - make the decisions - don't pass the decisions on to her because you THINK your being nice. Put yourfoot down and say your coming to see her. Get a hotel room and see what happens - she will come see you.
6. Don't be nice - don't be a 'nice' guy. Too charming. Woman WANT drama. TEASE THEM! Bust her chops.
7. You need to learn about woman's tests - be prepared for every test - you fail one and you may lose.
8. NEVER, NEVER fro ma guys stand point ASK for clarification in a relationship - NEVER. That's the woman's job - she will drop you like a rock.
9. NEVER tell her how you feel. NEVER. Not for a long, long time - and let her do it first....she might say - I love you - and you say - "I know"
10. Don't EVER try and make a woman like you - be yourslef (some what) - BE FUNNY, no tough questions.
This has happened to me - I was a guys - guy - never a Wuss - woman will do this to you - AND it's is completely stoppable.
"i'll do anything for you cos I love you". -STOP THAT ! Never NO! Don't do some things for her, OR give her a hard time about it.
" just wanted her to level with me and tell me where we were at. When we did talk it was sometimes very vague and that is frustrating. My wussness came out of not knowing I guess, but I never went communication crazy." - Welcome to woman - DON'T let this stuff bother you - ever. AND STOP asking for clarification - your GUT will tell you where you stand with her. You DROPED her interest level like a rock.
NEVER ask for clarification!
Keep things cool my man - don't sweat the small stuff - QUIT worrying.
I advise going out on a bunch of dates. And maybe calling this girl in 2 months and ask her for coffee - go visit.
It sounds like you put WAY too much pressure on her. Woman HATE pressure. No more tough questions OK? ESPECIALLY if you talk with her. AND IF she calls - return her call in a couple days.
You haven't blown it yet. DON'T be a Wuss and call her. Go on a date. Let her MISS YOU. Woman play games - if you had a close relationship, she may be back.
You need to love her 100% if you want her back. See girls feel - they DO NOT think in logic like men at ALL. They feel. We think: "she loves tulips" - I'll buy her tulips every week - No, No, No - woman don't think that way - they get creeped out and mad - they think you buying their effection.
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